The One Who Got Away

[n`gel]

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@tokidoki: When looks matter for a guy to like a girl... then we reflect... he must be good looking too. Well, we can't blame that. But it's very hard to find an intelligent, pretty with an exemptional personality all in one package haha. I think this is the reason why my kuya kausa ra kauyab kay taas pud ug standard. Gudluck then.

[tokidoki]

@tokidoki: When looks matter for a guy to like a girl... then we reflect... he must be good looking too. Well, we can't blame that. But it's very hard to find an intelligent, pretty with an exemptional personality all in one package haha. I think this is the reason why my kuya kausa ra kauyab kay taas pud ug standard. Gudluck then.

Well, patas-an na nato standard nato oi. Maayo na kaayo ko pagkabutang kay sa una and I just won't let any chick walk into my life and ruin it for me. Anyway, I'm in no hurry man. Haste makes waste. I'm enjoying myself. I think I still have 30years to go before I need ****** to satisfy a woman. LOL. If papilion ko nga panagsa ra ko ka uyab pero naai na kat-onan kay sa anang pila ka dosena ka uyab nya walay ayo walay agi, aw, i'd choose the former. I noticed nga kanang mga kaila nako nga kadaghan mag uyab end up very bitter kaayo in the end kay sa atong panagsa ra. Wala man nag pressure bai. THere's no law that requires me to get married at this age. I've had people who married earlier than 25. sige pa panghambog anang kanindot anang magminyo. Bahala na tawn kay sa anang magminyo ug ahat. God forbid if madisgrasya pako! :-S

[Ms.Beau]

nagkita mi one tym sa grocery sa akong great love with his family, grabeeeeeee kaayo ko kalipai and tyming kau nga dat was d most downfall part of my life..la koi money, d baby's not wid me, i felt so empty dat tym.. suddenly ga lutaw ako utok sa grocery, pag naog nko sa car, naabot sad cla (iya family)...grabeee ko kalipai..nka limut ko nga dako man d.i ako blema ato orasa.

Going back to the above, IMD, don't you think it's no wonder why you were so happy seeing him? Everything was not going well for you at that time so syempre makakita ka ug love object malipay jud ka.

I'm trying to give a realistic instead of a romantic assessment here. Say instead of seeing that guy at that moment, you were informed that you won the 1-M lotto prize. Di ba you'd have a similar reaction? Ma-ecstatic jud ka oi.

Of course dili pareho ang tawo sa kwarta noh, but my point is that at that time, any love object could have made you happy because as you said, you felt so empty at that time. Money is a love object coz it represents freedom, nourishment, and comfort.

If the situation was that you were not empty but full--happy with work, having much money, enjoying time with family and friends, active in the community, getting to know your bf more, etc., do you think you would still be longing for your "great love"? Maybe. But many people say ma lessen ang longing. Mahinay-hinay man gani siguro ug kawala because you are creating much love in your life that you feel whole, full, not empty anymore. Ang busog dili man mag sige ug imagine ug pagkaon, right?

He doesn't have to be the main source of your happiness. If that were the case then you have given your power away. But the good thing is that ma-reclaim ra man na nimo kay imo man jud na--personal power, the power to create the life you want. You have a child, a bf who loves and accepts you, friends, family, work. Dili ba ingredients naman ni sila for a happy life? Ikaw nalay bahala ug luto according to your taste. But make it lami for you. You can do it!

[tokidoki]

well said ms.beau.

[Ms.Beau]

I've been in this situation before... though I never thought of Her as 'the one who got away'.

More like she was the 'the One I let go.'

everyone, this is an example of personal power reclaimed. salute to you, diem! :mrgreen:

[IMD]

Ms. beau: tnx for d advise. i really appreciate it.............. Bitaw, i am trying to give my bf (father of my baby)a second chance after all what he did to me. U cant blame me man sad gud if mag reminsice ko sa akong great love kai he never did something wrong to me. Ang papa man gud sa ako anak naa tanan bisyo..Physical abuse and betrayal..just name it! I am not trying to tell d whole world here how wasted is my bf...Sometimes lang maka ingon ko ako self nga i was really dumb to let go of my true love..

bitaw, thanks tanan inyo advise...

[Rance]

On the condition that your bf will not hurt you again and be responsible to you and to your family.. be practical not all the time is a love story.. forgive and forget.. be realistic because it is your life and your child's future.

[bethia]

that's a rather sad scenario..
too bad realization comes in late, we just dont give much value to persons who matters most to us..
but then regrets wont do us good, intstead of staying in that corner i would rather try to come out in the
open and see things with new eyes and understanding..
i just hope it wont happen to me..regrets are not just my thing, if im into it, im into it, no questions asked but if
i feel that it's completely hopeless, i wont compromise my future for that..
i used to feel strongly for someone before but then it just wont work, at least i did what i can during that time...
now im back to kissing frogs hahaha

[tokidoki]

psst! kinsa nagpost ani nga comment ako blog? I'm touched and flattened ha... este flattered diay. sweet but keep em comin'

Anonymous said...

y don't u love me instead?? a girl will be too lucky to be lovedby someone who can love as much as you

6:24 AM

[Rance]

Haha maybe its a dude LOL