Who here has love problems?

[jon]

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papa TS...ngano mani akng kapalaran permi man in or out..... unsaun maneh pag wala ang out...hehehe

[chris_kakashi24]

papa TS...ngano mani akng kapalaran permi man in or out..... unsaun maneh pag wala ang out...hehehe

hmmm i'll ask you back . . . . .what is it that you do with these women that makes you be "out" of the relationship? Boredom? Problems in bed? relationship issues?

give me something to base on and let's start from there

[Dansuy]

Ako bro mao ni,

Inlove kaayo ko sako ex, mag 3 years na unta mi hapit pero wala jud ni work amu pagka dugay. Long distance btaw mi pero after mga 2-3months mag kita pud mi. Mu stay ko sa ilaha since silingan ra sila sa ako auntie mo stay ko didto for almost 3 weeks. Dugay na nako kaayo kaila ni byhana since pagka bata pa namu mao inlove jd kaayo ko niya. Problema ra is nganu jd ni give up sya nako? Tingali kay nag work na sya karon nya ako tambay ra nya cguro nka ingon sya wa na syay time nako. 2months nami kapin since nag buwag mi pero karon lang last christmas ug new year, naa jud ko sa duol niya ug namasin na mayta mkig balik na sya nako, pero bisan unsa na effort ako buhaton murag dili naman jud sya.. mo ingon ra syang "ayaw sag dali2x kay taas pa kayo ang panahon".. And then usa pa ug unsay mga buhatonon sa manag uyab bisan dili na kami, ok ra gihapon niya... like mag holding hands, mamisita cgi, mag kuyog mi etc2x..

At first sakit jd kaayo nga nag buwag nami pero sa karon murag nka dawat2x nako kay daghan na kayo nag tambag nako nga mao ni mao na... Pero ako lang jud gika gul-an kay kada gabie ko mag damgo niya, pag mata nako ma buntag siya dayon ako ma huna2x which is mag guol na pud ko. Naa pay usahay mo text sya nako mangumusta nya di ra ko mu reply kay murag masakitan na jud ko everytime mka huna2x ko niya..

Ganahan ko mkalimtan na ta sya ba para dili nako mag cge ug ka guol pero wa jud ko kabalo ug unsaon nako pag buhat! To be honest inlove pa jud kayo ko niya hangtod karon ug ga cge rakog expect na basin makig balik na sya nako.

Tabangi ko bro unsa mga step by step para mka limtan nako sya, kada adlaw mka huna2x ko niya mao ra ako ika guol! Wa najud ko kaybaw unsaon pa... Mao gihapon ug mag hubog man ko pagka ugma mata nako cya ghapon ako ma huna-hunaan! Paita jud...

[Tirong-say]

Ako bro mao ni,

Inlove kaayo ko sako ex, mag 3 years na unta mi hapit pero wala jud ni work amu pagka dugay. Long distance btaw mi pero after mga 2-3months mag kita pud mi. Mu stay ko sa ilaha since silingan ra sila sa ako auntie mo stay ko didto for almost 3 weeks. Dugay na nako kaayo kaila ni byhana since pagka bata pa namu mao inlove jd kaayo ko niya. Problema ra is nganu jd ni give up sya nako? Tingali kay nag work na sya karon nya ako tambay ra nya cguro nka ingon sya wa na syay time nako. 2months nami kapin since nag buwag mi pero karon lang last christmas ug new year, naa jud ko sa duol niya ug namasin na mayta mkig balik na sya nako, pero bisan unsa na effort ako buhaton murag dili naman jud sya.. mo ingon ra syang "ayaw sag dali2x kay taas pa kayo ang panahon".. And then usa pa ug unsay mga buhatonon sa manag uyab bisan dili na kami, ok ra gihapon niya... like mag holding hands, mamisita cgi, mag kuyog mi etc2x..

At first sakit jd kaayo nga nag buwag nami pero sa karon murag nka dawat2x nako kay daghan na kayo nag tambag nako nga mao ni mao na... Pero ako lang jud gika gul-an kay kada gabie ko mag damgo niya, pag mata nako ma buntag siya dayon ako ma huna2x which is mag guol na pud ko. Naa pay usahay mo text sya nako mangumusta nya di ra ko mu reply kay murag masakitan na jud ko everytime mka huna2x ko niya..

Ganahan ko mkalimtan na ta sya ba para dili nako mag cge ug ka guol pero wa jud ko kabalo ug unsaon nako pag buhat! To be honest inlove pa jud kayo ko niya hangtod karon ug ga cge rakog expect na basin makig balik na sya nako.

Tabangi ko bro unsa mga step by step para mka limtan nako sya, kada adlaw mka huna2x ko niya mao ra ako ika guol! Wa najud ko kaybaw unsaon pa... Mao gihapon ug mag hubog man ko pagka ugma mata nako cya ghapon ako ma huna-hunaan! Paita jud...

Ana gyud na Bro,
if naa ka daplin sa baybayon magpuyo pirme,
permanente ra gyud nga isda ang imong mahuna-hunaan,
try kuno adto sa bukid maorag musab na gyud na didto.

I think it's just a matter of how you handle the feelings,
if you are unable to suppress it, then keep away from it,
There are still a lot out there and what is needed is to explore
and find it yourself.

[Zayden]

I met a girl in my office about 2 months ago we fall in love with each other but after we fall in love i know that she has HIV positive SO what i do now Any suggestion?

[God'sWarfare]

tanan man guro ta naay love issues oi.. hehehe

[Wynna]

hala ganahan lage ko nimo dr.Love,
hmm anyway here's mine..

Iv'e had a 4 yr relationship with a guy and had a baby, in the long run complications came along the way, i felt so broken and hopeless, but still I had been trying to work it out with him and save the relationship.. However , while I was on the verge of breaking down, I met someone, who somehow helped me recover with all the pains and torments that I had been experiencing with this guy. I opened it up with him, and had an agreement, I could do what I want while on the other hand he could also do what he wants. So it somehow became an open relationship, (with his consent).. At first I thought I could handle it, same with him,but we were both wrong ,coz at the back of his mind He was hurting!.. but in my case, I was already recovering and falling with this "other" someone. I couldn't leave her!.. He wasn't able to bear with the pain and left!.. So I decided to move in with her and became exclusive, until such time, he came back and started to have constant communication with me again,. He is still the father of my son, I thought of!. I don't the have the right to deprive him of his own seed!.. anyway the thing here is, I just felt so madly deeply in love with this girl, which made me decide on giving up everything for her, but what I get in return are all LIES!.. we used to fight because she never liked my honesty, everytime i tell her the truth she over reacts, .. and calls me a liar instead, but when i found out a lot of things about her, I said to myself that I could no longer offer not even my friendship to her, because of what she did!.. she might have "indirectly" cheated on me, but still she LIED about her past.... what hurts the most coz I had been so DAMN honest with her, and was willing to give up everything just for her and this is what I get in return.. Like they say, Karma is B!tch, but she's b!tcher than karma! .. now it's hard to move on especially after almost giving up on him, but on the brighter side he was always there, and did not lose hope, . I just don't know how to bring back the spark that we used to have before, coz I honestly felt so cold for him after everything that happened. But I still wanted to keep this family though..

[flushy]

Hi taekitaeki,

Ka-sad sa imo story ka-feel man pud ko coz it's quite similar to my situation. Kalimti na lang jud to sya ug focus na sa imo family. Easier said than done. I know it'd be very difficult.

@TS
naa pud koy dakong problema. Pero kabalo na ko unsa inyo i-advice. Same-same, that is to stay out of his life completely. Lisod lang buhaton. I hope I can make it.

[chris_kakashi24]

Ako bro mao ni,

Inlove kaayo ko sako ex, mag 3 years na unta mi hapit pero wala jud ni work amu pagka dugay. Long distance btaw mi pero after mga 2-3months mag kita pud mi. Mu stay ko sa ilaha since silingan ra sila sa ako auntie mo stay ko didto for almost 3 weeks. Dugay na nako kaayo kaila ni byhana since pagka bata pa namu mao inlove jd kaayo ko niya. Problema ra is nganu jd ni give up sya nako? Tingali kay nag work na sya karon nya ako tambay ra nya cguro nka ingon sya wa na syay time nako. 2months nami kapin since nag buwag mi pero karon lang last christmas ug new year, naa jud ko sa duol niya ug namasin na mayta mkig balik na sya nako, pero bisan unsa na effort ako buhaton murag dili naman jud sya.. mo ingon ra syang "ayaw sag dali2x kay taas pa kayo ang panahon".. And then usa pa ug unsay mga buhatonon sa manag uyab bisan dili na kami, ok ra gihapon niya... like mag holding hands, mamisita cgi, mag kuyog mi etc2x..

At first sakit jd kaayo nga nag buwag nami pero sa karon murag nka dawat2x nako kay daghan na kayo nag tambag nako nga mao ni mao na... Pero ako lang jud gika gul-an kay kada gabie ko mag damgo niya, pag mata nako ma buntag siya dayon ako ma huna2x which is mag guol na pud ko. Naa pay usahay mo text sya nako mangumusta nya di ra ko mu reply kay murag masakitan na jud ko everytime mka huna2x ko niya..

Ganahan ko mkalimtan na ta sya ba para dili nako mag cge ug ka guol pero wa jud ko kabalo ug unsaon nako pag buhat! To be honest inlove pa jud kayo ko niya hangtod karon ug ga cge rakog expect na basin makig balik na sya nako.

Tabangi ko bro unsa mga step by step para mka limtan nako sya, kada adlaw mka huna2x ko niya mao ra ako ika guol! Wa najud ko kaybaw unsaon pa... Mao gihapon ug mag hubog man ko pagka ugma mata nako cya ghapon ako ma huna-hunaan! Paita jud...

Hey!
So I've read your problem and yes it's really tough forgetting someone that you love so much for that much amount of time.
And the part where "Mag Hubog" I Don't really think that is the answer to anything . .. . In fact Alcohol will help you remember her more! in a way where in the moment you wake up <as you've said> you'd start reflecting . . . "Why am i doing this?" "Why did we have to break up?" "What did i do wrong?" and etc... so see? Alcohol will make your problems even worse or stay the same. . . alcohol only numbs pain for the time being . . .. so why not try a long-term approach?

So Getting To the solution to your problem . . . .
I Would tell you to find someone else ... but that's just B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T. right? I know how you feel and how strongly you feel for her so getting someone else is just another way of saying "Go Get Yourself A Hooker". . . . .

So my solution to your problem is going to hit "2 birds with 1 stone" and in the End it'll be up to you to decide what to do . . . .
so Here ya go:

FIRST: Pick yourself UP!
~So Stand up bro. . . . Don't stop there go ON! Start from 0 then move to your 100%, CLEAN YOUR LIFE UP <NOTE: i am not telling you to stop loving her nor to start forgetting her just yet!>

SECOND: Make yourself Busy!
~This may sound EASY. . . but it's NOT! but doing it either way will still help . . . . Make time to do everything you want to do, especially those stuff you don't normally do . . . . Throw yourself into chores, social life, and other crap that'll make you busy . . . <as for me I Dance ^^, Practice, Practice and more Practice keeps my mind busy all the time>

THIRD: Get a Job!
~Number 2 would fit PERFECTLY HERE! Here you can totally throw yourself into your work. . . . be busy with all your stuff to do at work and in no time you'll start to forget the feeling of love for her . . .

Once you did those 3 i guarantee you EITHER of THESE Situations -->
1.) You'll Forget that feeling of Intimate Love for her & You'll find another person to love <maybe at work ^^,>
2.) She sees you working hard, cleaning yourself up, being independent and all . . . AND JUST MAYBE might take you back in her life <But the Decision would be up to you bro whether you are still capable of loving her that much at the time you reach the 3rd step or just move-on with what's left with the both of you>

Frankly bro, Some women would love to be with a guy who works as hard as they do. . . . Mainly because they are afraid. . . AFRAID that you wouldn't suffice in a relationship where in you could support the both of you . . . . I mean we are men . . . we should treat women right, we should be independent where in the girl you are with could be able trust you to be the foundation of your family in the future. . . It could be that she is just afraid at the moment that you would end up doing nothing while she works hard for the both of you . . . .

Think of it this way. . . .
~Women have their monthly periods right? <And that is painful> And For us guys? not that much burden [Women - 1 || Men - 0]

~Women are delicate they sometimes tend to be sensitive and soft <like dali ra ma sakitan physically and mentally> And for us guys? Nada [Women - 2 || Men - 0]

~Women carry the 9 hard months of carrying the baby that most MEN nowadays happens to have these phenomenons they call as "Accident" when unplanned [Women -3 || Men - 0]

so out of those 3 i think the best way to return the favor to our partners would be to work hard for them, be the foundation of the family, be the one to bring home the bacon <expression>. . . .so there hehehe got a little carried away . . . but i hope you'll find this a good read and a helpful one! I'd appreciate it if you'd tell me how it'll go ^^,

[chris_kakashi24]

I met a girl in my office about 2 months ago we fall in love with each other but after we fall in love i know that she has HIV positive SO what i do now Any suggestion?

Hey Zayden . . . well you couldnt do anything much about that since AIDS is incurable unless if your willing enough to pay for a drug/medication trial in australia for her. . . . . though i would not recommend that since it's NOT 100% safe . . . well if you really do love her then i'd advise you to be with her . . . love her and treat her no differently from other women . . . and also if you tend to engage in intimate relationship with her <and yea i mean S.E.X.> i'd advise you to not have other relationships with other women . . . it's too risky . . . .

You should also know that having the Immunodeficiency Virus does not mean it's the end of the world for her you know . . . . she still can have a regular life . . . though she might have to maintain some medications along the way but she'll live unless it becomes worse <because of health neglection and etc> or progresses to AIDS then truly there is no way telling when IT will happen <and by IT i think you know what it means>. . . .

So the part where your loving her . . . . .Ask yourself these questions:
1. Would you take responsibility in taking care of her?
2. are you willing to be with her every step of the way? <medical check ups and etc..>
3. are you ready to love her like it's her last? <even though it's not but it helps, so she wouldnt worry too much and avoid depression>

:3 let me know what you think about it and share your decisions for the both of you I'd Really Appreciate it ^^,