First Cousin Relationship

[THE KID]

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ayaw lang sa kaha mo pagkita og pag commu?

[kimleeKINO_choi]

TS... sori ha but dli jud ko pro first cousin relationship. Yep gamai rjud possible birth defects sa bata nya bt wud u risk it all nga inyo baby mg suffer ig daku niya nga kutyaon sya sa tanan nga mg ig-agaw ra iya ginikanan?

considering ang kamu duha sa guy KAYA kaayo ninyo ang trials sa family and society's criticisms..BUT until when nnyo kha makaya KUNG INYO NA MISMO BABY ANG MG SUFFER? I understand that u really love each other BUT wud u two also love the thought of giving ur child/ren the burden of being bros. and sisters AND 2nd cousins as well??

Sahai gd TS we badly needed to REconsider these things mention by my co-istoryans pra harmonious inyo pg puyo kung kamu mn magdayun. Sakit yes, very pa gani but saon mn inyo LOVE kung sa mga bata ang burden tanan? Dnt only think for ur happiness... for ur cming family pod e-cnsider.

[Sand Man]

Well, here's one to consider:

Inbreeding

Inbreeding (reproduction between two related individuals) may also involve incest. Inbreeding leads to a higher proportion of congenital birth defects through an increase in the frequency of homozygotes. The effects of this can diverge - recessive genes that produce birth defects could become more frequent, resulting in a higher rate potential of these defects while genes that do not code for birth defects can become increased within a population. The overall consequences of this divergence depends in part on the size of the population. In small populations, if children born with heritable birth defects die before they reproduce the ultimate effect of inbreeding will be to decrease the frequency of defective genes in the population with an overall decrease in the number of birth defect-causing genes over time. In larger populations it is more likely that large numbers of carriers will survive and mate, leading to more constant rates of birth defects. A 1994 study found a mean excess mortality with inbreeding at the first cousin level of 4.4%. At any rate,the degenerative effects of inbreeding will only be significantly fatal after two or more repeated incest cases, and that varies depending on the number and quality of inherited congenital disorders of which the family members may be carriers. A study of a group of 21 made up of brother-sister or father-daughter offspring found that 12 had abnormalities with 9 of which were classed as severe.

Source


This is not about the two of you anymore -- it's about the deformed children you will be bringing into this world.

[takas bahay]

ngno diay kung mangitag uyab?? hehehe well, i'm kinda planning to find someone else while moving on,,lisud mnjud mu move on if walay mutabang nimo na mka move on...hehehe pero dili pmn sad ko makig buwag sa ako uyab krn...mu distansya lang sa ko gamay...

I agree with your plan TS....It may NOT be the BEST of all plans but it may be the start of separating your conjoined hearts (yours and your cousin's)
The logic is this: How can you forget him if you don't fall in-love with someone else? right?.....Even if it's true nga louy pud ang himoun nimong panakip butas nga boyfriend. But, who knows? maybe..maybe..maybe the one that you intend to use as panakip butas MIGHT be the one that is really intended for you all along....or at least he might be just an instrument of FATE to separate you and your cousin..Just make sure that you don't get stupid enough to get pregnant UNPREPARED.

TS I could almost feel your struggle and tremendous effort to in moving away from this situation and I appreciate this very much from you....I can relate with this coz' as what I have mentioned in my previous post I too had been INFATUATED to the point that I THOUGHT that I cannot live a single day without seeing her...So believe me when I say that I know how EXTREMELY hard for you to go against this current dictates of your heart...INFATUATION does not listen to good advices, it only picks the ones it likes....True LOVE on the other hand EVALUATES, IS nOt Self-Centered, and sometimes/oftentimes Sacrifices itself...It sacrifices pleasure in favor of prudence and morality.

Again I appreciate your effort to break this forbidden relationship with you cousin...but the question is: Is your cousin cooperating? I don't think so..As you have stated in your previous posts you even mentioned that your cousin threatened to commit suicide....tsk..tsk..(sign of immaturity and not romance).

I'll make this easy for you and I'll be doing you a favor......Do you want me to shoot him in the head (just joking...just joking).

Anywayzzz TS....Sometimes....sometimes when all human effort is consumed and we become so low and burdened to the point of despair,,, it is when MIRACLES happened...God Bless you TS and your cousin too.

[Twinkz]

Total long distance man mo and both young daghan pa kaayo mahitabo sa inyo and daghan pa ma meet na tao. Like ang toa sa manila makakita pa to og lain og ikaw nga naa sa cebu makakita pa sad og lain ayaw nalang palabi-e ang sweetness og communication kay masulod sa inyong mind or sa iyang mind na you're so much in love, marag u and me against the world...the more ra ba nga pamati nato naay challenge or mga babag kay the more the ta mo-insist. Di man pod kailangan buwagan dayun hinay-hinay lang og kabugnaw niya kay aron mangita siyag init didto sa lain pod.

[Saga]

ngno diay kung mangitag uyab?? hehehe well, i'm kinda planning to find someone else while moving on,,lisud mnjud mu move on if walay mutabang nimo na mka move on...hehehe pero dili pmn sad ko makig buwag sa ako uyab krn...mu distansya lang sa ko gamay...

aw... don't you think it will be unfair.. panakip butas.. how about focus more on yourself.. studies.. work.. living life is not just about having relationship.. daghan pa ka pwede mabuhat.. it's just that you focus too much about having a relationship nga nakalimot nka nga daghan pa d i frontier sa life..

[ryoken]

i was overwhelmed with all the advices..thanks! i've decided na mu distansya nlng ko nya gamay..hinay-hinay nako mupalayo niya although sakit au para nako...

[iusheboy]

dili mnsd mi parehas ug surname...both our mothers were sisters...so dili ghapon mailhan na cousin mi if ang apilido ang tan.awn..hehehe

ahhhhh simple rana imo situation. you have to choose between ur family and your partner. because never jud i mean never jud mo madawat sa inyo family. thats my opinion!

[kimleeKINO_choi]

dili mnsd mi parehas ug surname...both our mothers were sisters...so dili ghapon mailhan na cousin mi if ang apilido ang tan.awn..hehehe

dli mn mailhan TS..the fact remains THAT U TWO ARE COUSINS..hahayyzz..naguol lge ko inyo situation ai.... saon nalng ig daku sa mga bata mg ask apilido sa lola pgka dalaga on both sides..saon nnyo pg explain nga same ug surname? then worse is: mg igsuon pjud..hala paita tawn. Inyo mga anak jud cguro ang cnter of attraction when it cums to family history. nguol ko for u TS. Hope kaayo ko nga u'd find ur answers on this. Just pray to God that he'd give you the strength to decide for the best.

[cjmagowan]

ok ra na oi.. naa man gani igsuon mag unay...