Being the 3rd Party in another's relationship?

[laagan_si_organizer]

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in every man and woman relationship, there's always a WIFE in between.

a love story?

[laagan_si_organizer]

for me, i don't want to take anyone for granted. it's not enough to say na we both love each other, that's why we have to hold on and keep the relationship. bisag asa na angle, bottomline is, you've made a mistake and you both know for a fact that it's wrong. it's a selfish reason to say that you both have to stay where you are because that's where you're happy at. you could be happier with someone not attached without feeling any single guilt in you. in the first place, why start such a relationship when you know from the beginning that it was all wrong?

[babypaupau]

been there, done that.

question, married ang couple?

ive read in the first few posts and have this to say, you people are so mean! its easy if you're not in the situation and we can always say the hurtful truths but you can always say it in a nice way. bsides, you're not the one who is personally involved in the situation. making demeaning and harsh comments does not solve the problem and it wont do any gud to anybody.

cheating is wrong. ruining a relationship is wrong but we are not to say that "she is stupid" for being in that kind of mess. we dont know their story so we cant judge just by saying its right or wrong. life is not black and white, there are gray areas. and most of all, why be so self righteous? can we honestly say that we didnt do anything bad that could/might ruin a relationship?

we, as humans, do wrong things for the right reasons.(or atleast what we think is right). same with doing the right things for the wrong reasons.

for the thread starter, watever you're situation is... always ask urself, is it worth it? is the person worth all the risk and pain that you're going through?

[shogunfreak]

kanta nala'g

"SECRET LOVERS... that's what we are.. ".. bwhehehhe

dli wui..kanta na lng ana kanta ni OGI.. Bakit ngayon ka lng dumating sa buhay ko..nakopoooo!

[Soul_Captive]

you're right babypaupau!

people say being the third party ruins the relationship, but what if the relationship is already ruined before the third party arrived? wouldn't be the third party a blessing for making the persons involved in the relationship realize that whatever they have is not working anymore?

another thing is that sometimes even the third party cannot be solely blamed..not all people who are considered third parties in certain relationships knew from the start that they were indeed such..and because of dear foolish heart, once they have dived head first into the relationship, letting go is just next to impossible..

i humbly ask dear istoryans to be more sympathetic..some, if not most, people who rant about their problems here do so in the hope of finding some understanding which they probably did not find with the people around them..and all the condemnation they get does not help them nor make the world better..a little more understanding and care are more likely to do the trick..
being a third party has always been considered negative, but it always pays to take every aspect of the story into consideration..

[laagan_si_organizer]

you're right babypaupau!

people say being the third party ruins the relationship, but what if the relationship is already ruined before the third party arrived? wouldn't be the third party a blessing for making the persons involved in the relationship realize that whatever they have is not working anymore?

another thing is that sometimes even the third party cannot be solely blamed..not all people who are considered third parties in certain relationships knew from the start that they were indeed such..and because of dear foolish heart, once they have dived head first into the relationship, letting go is just next to impossible..

i humbly ask dear istoryans to be more sympathetic..some, if not most, people who rant about their problems here do so in the hope of finding some understanding which they probably did not find with the people around them..and all the condemnation they get does not help them nor make the world better..a little more understanding and care are more likely to do the trick..
being a third party has always been considered negative, but it always pays to take every aspect of the story into consideration..

if the relationship had been ruined before that person came, then he/she wouldn't be called as the third party. it would be possible to call him/her as 'the fallback' or something like that. it may sound very negative, but it is what it seems. i'm not blaming anyone who became a third party for any relationship, because me, myself, had been one...and i should know how painful it is to be just the catcher of somebody's ball.

also, if the person was unaware of the situation (say she/he didn't know that she/he was just the third party), it would be very impossible for her/him not to know about it in the long run. by the time she/he finds out about being a third party, she/he should make one of the biggest decisions she/he should make in her/his entire life...even if it means giving up our own happiness. no matter how happy we are with that person, let's face the fact that we're not "the original" partner. it hurts and it's painful, but that's part of it. eventually, we should look for someone we could love and could call as our own. i know how hard it is, but that's the way it goes. in the first place, it wouldn't be easy if this would happen to us, being the first partner and having someone in between you and your love one, right?

[maritess]

How to stay sane being the 3rd party in a relationship?
guys let me know how you deal with this kind of relationship...

gurl, you better get out of this situation ASAP. ikaw ra masakitan in the end gihapon. yahay kaayo ang guy feeling niya gwapo kay siya kay duha jud iyang uyab. i know lisud mugawas pero mao ma nay sakto. ganahan pud diay ka nga if ikaw pud naay bf kay naa pud kay ka-share niya? diba sakit mana? mubalik baya jud na ang karma mam.

[laagan_si_organizer]

gurl, you better get out of this situation ASAP. ikaw ra masakitan in the end gihapon. yahay kaayo ang guy feeling niya gwapo kay siya kay duha jud iyang uyab. i know lisud mugawas pero mao ma nay sakto. ganahan pud diay ka nga if ikaw pud naay bf kay naa pud kay ka-share niya? diba sakit mana? mubalik baya jud na ang karma mam.

this is so true.

[skadiboy]

aha! sos tagen..... nganung me enter man pod ka.. maau untag kapaweha og nawong ni skadiboy mag shades og yellow ok ikaw katolo,, sos.... kong ingon ana man gani UNdanga na ois,,. ikaw ray louy ana..... mahug kag kabit

[dwardwarbinx]

lol. it's kind of funny how people easily jump into conclusions. there are so many things involved man gd in this kind of relationship. lol. basta. i understand if these things happen, pero as much as possible, i-avoid nalang. or make him choose.