Your Lover's A Cheater? What would you do? Why?

[boting]

bro if paminaw nimu nga naa pa gihapon cyay gusto sa iya giingon nga kabit then ayaw nalang cguro pakigbalik kay basin masakitan lang ka og usab...

suggestion lang ni ako bro...

[tro_Jan]

fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

hoping for the best...

[missie22]

we all make mistakes..were not perfect..have u ask ur self y nabuhat na nya?or bsin naa kay pagkuwang? coz even if u have given everything it might be on her end di ghopn enuf.. u said u made some restrictions..maybe possesive ra kaau ka, remember gf pa nmu xa di pa wife..and even if shes ur wife already she still needs time for herself; to grow ,think and have to space..she also has her life..have u ever thought nga bsin ghigpitan nmu xa or na higpitan na kaau xa sa imu restrictions that she also cant do what she wants?(permitted that shes doing the right things).. u need to evaluate urself and ur relationship..tell her to evaluate herslf too..give urself a break and space, take some time to heal..coz if magbalik mu dayon gyud sir, naa gyud tendency nga ma recall ang past specially if magaway mo and for sure the trust that u have given her before will never be the same..wid love u need trust..true that people can change and people deserve a second chance, if u think shes really worth it, give it another try but make sure to be extra careful this time..but if not then just take time to heal and move on then love again..the question is are u willing to take the risk and possibly be hurt again?....have faith in urself and in ur relationship..5 years sad gyud na, di gyud na xa lalim..can u live widout her? and if u cant can u live wid the pain that she has inflicted and eventually forget it.. goodluck sir..

[sho-es]

My answer is:

He / she is involved in an emotional triangle. To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something
else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn't separated from his or her parents financially is the classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money.

Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You will not be their number one priority. And that is no basis for a marriage.

[andch81]

WELL ITS UP TO U...

[Unmei]

the thing here is that.. about the restrictions that im giving.. its just plain and simple stuff like:

1.yaw pag bnuang
2.yaw lang lakaw if dili important
3.yaw txt or call anyone if its not that imp't (coz ive noticed that she's bee acting weird lately)

the restrictions are not for her alone.. but it applies to me as well..

hayyyz...

[vaughn]

the thing here is that.. about the restrictions that im giving.. its just plain and simple stuff like:

1.yaw pag bnuang
2.yaw lang lakaw if dili important
3.yaw txt or call anyone if its not that imp't (coz ive noticed that she's bee acting weird lately)

the restrictions are not for her alone.. but it applies to me as well..

hayyyz...

If i'm the girl....ok ra na xa na mga restrictions basta u do the same coz the relationship is that important to me.
Well, i cannot say anything against the girl bcoz wa ko kaila niya....maybe she has reasons why she did that but
as i said, if the relationship is very important to you, you won't do such things to ruin it.

But it's up to you bai if unsa jud....we can't decide for yourself. Just weigh things. If she's sincere ba with her words, if she's worthy of a 2nd chance, wa ba xay emotion toward sa guy kay if naa, ay nlng woi.......basta e sure lng jud ang imo decision.

[Unmei]

ambot ani.. duda nako na-inlove gyud na sa guy kay.. ngano nilast man ila relationship then gitagotago pa gyud nako.. question is.. nganong dunganon gyud.. kbalo man sya na sayop gyud iya gibuhat.. ang reason nga iya gihatag nako kay.. "posesib daw kaayo ko" unya mao raman na restrictions basically.. then we've talked yesterday.. mao man daw gihapon na ang reason.. pero murag dili katuhoan...

it all started from a msg that was wrongly sent to her number daw.. wala man gud ko phone adto nga time kay ako phone nahulog sa taxi then wala naulis.. so sya ra ang naay phone...

salig rasad kaayo ko.. pero little did i know.. nagbinuang na diay...

i was making restrictions just set some limitations bah.. para iwas maka-commit ug sin sa relationship... pero negative siguro pag-tan aw nya sa restrictions

[monrose29]

everyone deserve another chance to prove that he/she is worth to be love, the problem is we cant have that trust back to us, of course it takes time, explanations, crying time, regrets and etc.

what if someday you will experience that kind of scenario? what will u do? begging for sorry? asking for another chance? u will do same as like she do... but its only depend on you, how will you solve that problem...

if i were u, i will give her a chance, but not now, of course thats a lesson for her, and it takes time to heal the wounds she cause me,

and if that time she is still waiting lets says after 3 years... then we can start a brand new relationship...but make it sure before you commit you accept her and forget all about your past.. dont commit if you are not sure,

and that time, i CANT buy her anything if nots important, thats a waste of money, she can go out and hang with his friend, she can make call and txt to everyone, she can go shopping if shes getting bored, she can do what ever she wants basta di lang maka guba sa relationship, and if your relationship still not working, then break up with her,

life begins at 40... how old are u now?

[diem]

@Unmei, apparently she did because this is your situation right now.

We cannot expect the best from people you should know, we can only hope. People, for better or worse, have choices and we have to respect that. If we don't, then we're not recognizing what makes us human in the first place, the capacity to make choices.

Yeah to repeat master monrose's question, how old are you? And how young is your girlfriend?