HELP How do GUYS show they love/like someone?

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oi c kinsa ka? mora man familiar ang story, yes mahadlok ko coz we are very close frens...saon

hahaha..i have no idea if i know you or not...your nick does not ring a bell to me...well i guess my story is familiar coz this is such a common scenario called the pre-courtship stage hehehehe....anyway if you have your views please share. i'd like to hear from you...

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basic instinct miga :mrgreen:

wla ka kaagi ani sa hyskul? or hyskul paka? mga hyskul expert kau ani nga stage :mrgreen:

yeah as much as i want to depend on my instincts i just feel like to will or might lead me to work on assumptions...well yeah sometimes its clear but then as they say the psychology of men is whole different story so that is why i am asking for men's point of view...

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here's one sign that a guy is wanting to seriously like you.. err, he has intentions..
he'll appreciate whatever you throw at him, even tho he's clueless about it at first..
that's just my two cents, k.

Nemmo723 thats nice..but honestly as of now..i would not know if he appreciates what i throw at him..or could it be the other way around, could i be the one clueless?

[nemmo723]

err.. just experiment on it lng..

like tell a very corny joke, and see how he reacts.
or tell something that you just caught interest in all of a sudden that you think he has very little idea of,
and again observe how he reacts.

if he jumps on ur bandwagon right away, its pretty sure he has serious intentions with you. (or he could probably research about it afterwards and bring the topic up again if he refuses to react at first or keep silent lng for fear of appearing silly.. )

i don't know much about the games both of you play in the pre-courtship stage, but im pretty sure every other guy who has the hots, but most especially interest in the girl, would do what I have just described above. (in different levels of subtlety lng, coz of pride or ego issues.. so you have to be keen at ur observations in his reactions)

good luck, and bless your heart!

p.s. this is just personality we're talking about. if you wanna get serious with anyone for that matter, i would prize character (behaviour, habit, manners, etc.) much in the long run... as personality tend to change over time.

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err.. just experiment on it lng..

like tell a very corny joke, and see how he reacts.
or tell something that you just caught interest in all of a sudden that you think he has very little idea of,
and again observe how he reacts.

if he jumps on ur bandwagon right away, its pretty sure he has serious intentions with you. (or he could probably research about it afterwards and bring the topic up again if he refuses to react at first or keep silent lng for fear of appearing silly.. )

i don't know much about the games both of you play in the pre-courtship stage, but im pretty sure every other guy who has the hots, but most especially interest in the girl, would do what I have just described above. (in different levels of subtlety lng, coz of pride or ego issues.. so you have to be keen at ur observations in his reactions)

good luck, and bless your heart!

p.s. this is just personality we're talking about. if you wanna get serious with anyone for that matter, i would prize character (behaviour, habit, manners, etc.) much in the long run... as personality tend to change over time.

thank you nemmo723, its really nice to hear from you...thanks for wishing me luck and yeah God bless my heart!

well about pride and ego issues this is a given in a men's world so you think i have to deal with this?...
or how bout this: he (or his family) might have certain essential "criteria." For example, some Jewish guys will only date Jewish girls. what do you think of this?...or could it be that he has his own criteria of women to date that could not be me?

i agree with you that its the character that matters a lot since these days thare are so many ways to get away with physical attributes...but if we are only txtng, chatting and seeing like 2 times a week (just so you know the longest time we talk is 10 to 15 minutes and we're not alone ha!), could he tell what my character is? would all these be enough for him to know me? just so you know i'm not putting a front though, i'm showing my true self...but i guess to know one's character would require much time with the other person right?

[rufo]

ang guy na bading kay kanang magkulot sa ilang buhok... hahahha

[rufo]

u really like the guy, don't u? u don't asked this questions if wala lang nimo..

[rufo]

u really like the guy, don't u? u don't asked this questions if wala lang nimo..

[nemmo723]

thank you nemmo723, its really nice to hear from you...thanks for wishing me luck and yeah God bless my heart!

ur welcome ... jst sharing my experiences and thoughts with you here.. (pataas man sab ni sa akong posts gud.. )

well about pride and ego issues this is a given in a men's world so you think i have to deal with this?...
or how bout this: he (or his family) might have certain essential "criteria." For example, some Jewish guys will only date Jewish girls. what do you think of this?...or could it be that he has his own criteria of women to date that could not be me?

pride and ego issues aren't necessarily given in men's world. what im referring to is some men have the ego issue of "masking"/"hiding" their true feelings/intentions towards you for fear of being rejected or getting hurt or taken advantage of or looking a fool.. these types of men probably have had bad (extreme/mild--pretty much doesn't matter) experiences prior to meeting you. so i guess you'd need to deal with that particular case of pride and ego... (its a self-preserving hesitation).

i know some women who think that this is a given, and its a great error on their part because this prejudiced thinking only leads them to guys who are pretty much like that as well (haughty and arrogant characteristic). such bias against men will blind you to that characteristic defect in turn, so I hope you will slowly change that for your sake. sayang kaayo, ive known such pretty women who ended up with half-assed, jerk men, and its so disappointing and pitiful. i guess its part of their growing up.. fortunately though, some of them have been enlightend to reality na (all in their due time i suppose)..

as for his "essential criteria", action speaks louder than words.. so you'd need to really BE with him to slowly learn or know of that criteria. i really don't think you can truly tell what criteria a person seeks for by just merely talking about it. That part of the person you want to know about belongs to the getting-to-know stage na, as in spending time with him/her. Words are words, people put them up for a lot of reasons, for discussions, for impressions, sometimes for mere blabber/talk. but on that pre-courtship stage, you'd have to see to believe, not just hear about it. (trust me, you wouldnt want to jump into the pond without first testing how deep it is.. ) It takes some time to build such belief or trust in the person when he says that as that, and for this matter, when he talks about his criteria.. put him up to walk his talk, yet still giving him the benefit of a doubt. with that said, you'd need to prepare yourself as well if in case you find out that you don't fit his criteria. In the end, its still his choice whether he'll make an exception of you, or stick to his "beloved" criteria. i guess you can begin to learn about his criteria in a couple of dates or so.. remember, just because you went out with a guy on a date a couple of times doesn't mean you're a couple already. there are friendly dates, intimate dates, ug date2x lng.. bitaw good luck on that..

as for his family or circle of friends/groupies, its for him to decide (just as the criteria goes) which he will follow. In the case that he chooses you, families tend to be strict at first, but do soften later on to show real concern for you as well (you'd just have to give it time and perseverance, patience). Friends/associations pretty much stay neutral...

i agree with you that its the character that matters a lot since these days thare are so many ways to get away with physical attributes...but if we are only txtng, chatting and seeing like 2 times a week (just so you know the longest time we talk is 10 to 15 minutes and we're not alone ha!), could he tell what my character is? would all these be enough for him to know me? just so you know i'm not putting a front though, i'm showing my true self...but i guess to know one's character would require much time with the other person right?

hmmm... i guess all i can say to you about this is this pretty much depends on the quality of your conversations/interactions.. i guess you can figure out the rest from here..

cheers!

[RobZ]

I think girls are gifted enough to have that instinct nga maka sense if a guy likes her. . . :mrgreen:

You can tell pud kung gay ang person if mas dali pa siya maka detect ug gwapo kaysa nimo hehe . ..