Warning: This is a rant!

[nitwit]

I feel sad reading your story. Be strong, I know they are family but they need to be considerate. I hope this will resolve, after all they are your family. Also, can I work with your company? =)

We run a crane truck company that supplies heavy machineries to the aussie government, to fix the railways and we have a pallet factory but both are mainly a man's job. No room for a woman except for the secretaries which we already have. Sorry

[nitwit]

I think enough has been said for you here TS. It is time for you to evaluate everything and ponder upon how would you like to go on doing things as you used to do.

What your family has been doing is kind of an EXTORTION. I suppose you know how to react with such kind of an act, right? It is your call. If you need counselling then find one and I hope you will listen.

Do what is right, even if it's hard and even if it hurts.

If you have the conviction of helping your family the right way, then listen to the advise of the people who give their heartfelt thoughts on your dilemma.

Ayaw na na daghan palusot diha. Secretary, website, hunger strike, phone numbers, etc, etc... Ayaw kahadlok. Stand on your ground and on your rules. Don't let anyone fool you ever again.

And by the way, it might help if you distance yourself a little bit from them. Contact them as you wish, but not the other way around. Surround yourself with some good friends so you can take them off your mind. Don't think of them too much and don't give in to their threats. Relax and be easy to yourself.

I agree sir. Ive been getting good advices. Ive already made up my mind to stand my ground and not give in their demands anymore.

I left them some rental properties which is very easy to get rented. As a matter of fact we get like 3-8 inquiries from foreigners everyday wanting to rent it but when they get there to see the property, to what they told me...they love the property (beachfront apartments) no questions there but they just cant rely my family in doing business with them because theyre not friendly! They dont talk, they dont smile... They said just plain snob! Theyre main concern is, the way they see it... If they want anything done re repairs they doubt if they will fix it for them. And its hard to do business when im here but ive done the best i can for them to have something that they can live on.

Im just so envious with my older sister living a free life. I just dont understand why my mum let her run wild with a married man while when i was separated with my husband she put all the blame on me as if ive never done anything right. The guy's wife was at our gate last week just hysterical looking for my sister and challenged her to fight. It was so embarrassing according to a friend that has witnessed incident.

She never fails to make a bad image wherever she goes and as a family, we are affected big time.

But thank you all. Will keep in mind all your good advices.

[nitwit]

Bottomline is, i just want them to change their attitudes. To learn to appreciate of what they have and what theyve been given.
For my older sister to take responsibility for her actions because im not putting up finding myself one day to finance another abortion because im sure if it happens, shes definately going to jail this time because of adultery. Then ill end up being responsible for her daughter.

Just the small stuffs really. Just wamt them to learn to love and resect the maid and not treat them like robots. This is really my main issue because i saw my family's cruelty towards them eg one f the helpers just finished cleaning the entire house, my older sister started experimenting food. Made a disaster in the kitchen and just left the mess and took off with her friends.
Everyday i hear them asking the maids for their school uniforms when its just hanging in their closet but just to lazy to go and find it themselves.

Before i left philippines, i have a nanny thats been working for us for over 4 years. In my last visit, she had a heated arguement with my mum. My mum hit her with a saucepan and she grabbed the axe and chased my mum in our backyard. And because i knew its not safe for both of them to still live in the same roof, i had to sack the maid and i feel terrible for doing it. Until now i feel so bad of what ive done. It just didnt end there, as she was leaving, my mum took everything that ive given her ( ipod, phone, dollar notes for souvenir) and my mums reason is its better off for the next helper to use because she wont be no longer working for us. When i found out i tried to give it back to the maid because they were all her gifts from me but it was too late, she was gone and i had no idea where to find her.

Just the things they do to some people are just deplorable. It makes me sick just thinking about it. Makes me want to think to just cut them all off and just let them have everythinh that i have back there and ill just stay here and were n our own.

[ChaosOrb]

if you really want them to change their attitude towards life, you have to change how they live. Aside from not supporting them of their "layaw" and wants, kick them out of the house. Let them live in a meager shanty and start their new life their, sure you may look like the evil one, but the things you have to do to make their life better has been given and it's still not enough for them, ungrateful lot!

they won't appreciate everything you give them unless they know how hard it is to earn it!

[bearish]

I agree sir. Ive been getting good advices. Ive already made up my mind to stand my ground and not give in their demands anymore.

I left them some rental properties which is very easy to get rented. As a matter of fact we get like 3-8 inquiries from foreigners everyday wanting to rent it but when they get there to see the property, to what they told me...they love the property (beachfront apartments) no questions there but they just cant rely my family in doing business with them because theyre not friendly! They dont talk, they dont smile... They said just plain snob! Theyre main concern is, the way they see it... If they want anything done re repairs they doubt if they will fix it for them. And its hard to do business when im here but ive done the best i can for them to have something that they can live on.

Im just so envious with my older sister living a free life. I just dont understand why my mum let her run wild with a married man while when i was separated with my husband she put all the blame on me as if ive never done anything right. The guy's wife was at our gate last week just hysterical looking for my sister and challenged her to fight. It was so embarrassing according to a friend that has witnessed incident.

She never fails to make a bad image wherever she goes and as a family, we are affected big time.

But thank you all. Will keep in mind all your good advices.

Bottomline is, i just want them to change their attitudes. To learn to appreciate of what they have and what theyve been given.
For my older sister to take responsibility for her actions because im not putting up finding myself one day to finance another abortion because im sure if it happens, shes definately going to jail this time because of adultery. Then ill end up being responsible for her daughter.

Just the small stuffs really. Just wamt them to learn to love and resect the maid and not treat them like robots. This is really my main issue because i saw my family's cruelty towards them eg one f the helpers just finished cleaning the entire house, my older sister started experimenting food. Made a disaster in the kitchen and just left the mess and took off with her friends.
Everyday i hear them asking the maids for their school uniforms when its just hanging in their closet but just to lazy to go and find it themselves.

Before i left philippines, i have a nanny thats been working for us for over 4 years. In my last visit, she had a heated arguement with my mum. My mum hit her with a saucepan and she grabbed the axe and chased my mum in our backyard. And because i knew its not safe for both of them to still live in the same roof, i had to sack the maid and i feel terrible for doing it. Until now i feel so bad of what ive done. It just didnt end there, as she was leaving, my mum took everything that ive given her ( ipod, phone, dollar notes for souvenir) and my mums reason is its better off for the next helper to use because she wont be no longer working for us. When i found out i tried to give it back to the maid because they were all her gifts from me but it was too late, she was gone and i had no idea where to find her.

Just the things they do to some people are just deplorable. It makes me sick just thinking about it. Makes me want to think to just cut them all off and just let them have everythinh that i have back there and ill just stay here and were n our own.

That's good news nitwit if you have made up your mind. Be guided accordingly and good luck. I know you can't turn your back on them. You're simply not that kind of person. But it is important for you to toughen up yourself. Be a little bit hard to them. I know you have a kind heart. But it is necessary to combine your heart with your mind. You could be crying every night thinking that they might be suffering, but it is a lesson they need to learn. The solution to your problem lies within you. So you are the solution to your problem.

As per your statements, it seems you are still confuse of what to do. You may need some professional help. A guidance councilor may be in order.

Your family is not bad, they are just misguided. Whatever happens they will always be your family. The world is round. You don't know that somebody you'll be looking for them, so don't turn your back on them this time. They are lost and they need you to find their way back. Show them the right way. Good luck nitwit - all's well that ends well.

By the way, it doesn't sounds good to say bad things about your family. Ikaw ra gihapon ang masakitan sa imong gipang sulti. It only add insults to injury. It is enough that you have expressed your frustrations here.

[Istudyante-Ni-Pikoy]

Lisoda sa situation oi. Murag in the end kun man loud imong mother, murag diha jd ka ma hina --labi na magka sakit na.
Gawas lang kn d ka mo care.

[bleedingboi]

just how you treat those poor maids disgust me, I worked just as hard as them and I know what they felt like but the only problem is, I worked to be able to provide all your demands! My older sister has not once ever helped this family. I gave up my dreams just so you can fulfil your dreams and you still called me ungrateful?
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Amen to this Sister. This paragraph briefly describes how pathetic the people around you are.

Maam, I'll picture this for you....

There are only two people in the world that's worth worrying and dying for. Your son and Your Husband.

If anything gets screwed up in your life, these are the only two people who can lift you up.

Forget the rest of the pondscums.

[adminroot]

i wonder sa nagpuyo ilawm sa bridge o istero ingani pud ba kaha ug problima

[PR0CESS0R]

Walay balaod gihimo nga ang anak maoy breadwinner.

Kana hulga-on ka ug hunger strike kay kulang imong gipadala, dili jud na dapat tuohan. Pasagdi-e na sila nga mag hunger strike tan-awon nato kong dili ba na mokaon basta dili na maantus ang kagutom. Dapat gani imong mama ang mangita ug way para makapakaon sa imong mga igsoon.

Kana mag sige ug tawag or text, pwede na nimo e disregard. Sabota ang sec nga dili ipatubag basta gikan pinas ang number.

Hinumdumi permi TS, gitabangan na nimo sila, nag abusar pa.

Sugot diay ka abusaran?


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[kageron]

remember this TS

I still have the ace