hubby caught cheating!badly need an advice..

[anggwaponi]

hi fellow istoryans!

I juz would like to share to u guys what happened last tuesday, Oct. 28. Sorry if this is a bit long (so you can have a better understanding).

I have a boyfriend of 4 years na (although we go on and off before), now that we have a baby na, i call him hubby na (force to because according to them he is now my hubby na daw)..

Before that night came, I already have doubts nga he is doing something not good because he was so eager to go back to his home (we are living on the same roof now wth my parents) last Sept. 22, he said he is going to get few shirts left there and then on Sept. 24, he said he is going home again because he is going to sell his account in cabal (an online game). I thought he was going to just get back home sa amu pero nibuntag nlang wla jd sya nauli. That was the first time that he ever did it. Prior to those dates and incidents, nibalik sya sa ila og puyo mga 2 weeks because of a rift with my parents and went back sa amu pag Sept.21 lang.

Ds hubby of mine (kunohai) hilig kaau ni sya mang delete og messages sa inbox, call logs and ang sent items off jud nah! If ako e-on iya sent items, e-off ra pd na nya'g balik. Sept. 23 evening, I check his inbox, saved messages and call logs, halos wlai info kay deleted kasagaran. And so I decided to turn on the sent items of his phone. It was like my first time to evade his fon again after 2 weeks nga wer away so wla guru ni sud sa yang thinking nga basin gi on 2 nako because he was also not there that time that i checked his fon.

So Sept 24 evening came, i checked inbox and call logs, no pertinent info found. I was about to put back his fon inside his bag when i remembered i turned on the sent items so i check it. To my great surprise, I found 2 globe #s nga yang gipang txtsan. One is his ex-gf and one was still a stranger girl to me. The messages he sent were naughty. It is all about seeing each other when and where. I also read a text that goes this way "wen tah s3x balik" and messages like they're on *** over the phone. And there was even a text nga ni-ilove yuo so much sya sa isa ka gurl. I was so disgusted. It was a blast in my senses! I was so shock..i was in deep pain.

I kept calm. When he went upstairs na coz he was taking care of my baby during that time, i slap him super strong. I guess he already has an idea of why I did it. Ako gisampal sa iya ang ya fon tungod sa ako kalagot. I cried! Ako sya gipalayas pero di sya. He said being separated is not a solution daw and we need to be together for my baby's sake. He didn't left that night jd. He asked for forgiveness to which i answered a no because what he did is unacceptable. He said his only fault is they were texting with his ex but with the other girl, it is all for fun. He said what happened was only SOT(s3x on text). I didn't believe in him until now nga i still ask questions about it.

I was ignoring him for 2 nights and just earlier, I hugged him, I don't know for what good reason.
Now, I am so confuse, should I forgive him and give him another chance or should I just end my relationship with him for I can't trust him anymore. Please tell me guys what to do? I am so disturbed.

Thanks!

i understand their is always a second chance ... and if the second chance has been consummated, give another chance.

as the saying goes, " ... it is better to give than to received ... ".

afterall, other factor should be considered nganung di makigbuwag diha2x dayun sa pares nga nasakpan nagbinuang


love thy neighbor

[medjz]

btaw sis, naa ra pud nimu f magpa ubos ka, for d sake of ur child. and to save ur family..

[yaya_ikid2004]

sis ako lang pod advise nimo is give him another chance... why i say that? it's because nasakpan pod ko sa akong wife naa ka txt lain nga girl, me and my wife both studying at that time pero night class lang ko cause nag work pod sa adlaw. sa akong pag eskwela naa ko meet nga girl sa school hubag jud pod mestisa katsila hehehe. mao nga sige na mi og text2x but one day na sakpan ko ni wife cause ni text ang girl while naligo ko pag gawas nako from bathroom gi palantig ko niya sa akong fon, gi sagpa, gi sipa, gi kambras sa iyang kuko nga baling haita, gi bunalan sa iyang tsenilas og bisan unsa nga butang nga iya mahiwaran.. wala nako sa opisina kay na puno akong arms og nawong og samad.

pag human niya og kulata nako tibook adlaw jud ko nya gi kulata ga iyak ra gihapon sya then nangayo kog sorry niya, pero iya ko napasaylo after 1 week na with the promise nga og mo usob ko iya nako patyon then i agree i said nga dili nato ma utro.. happy nami, hehehe

after 2 years gi pull-out ko ni erpat sa office from office clerk gihimo ko sa ako papa og official driver sa government vehicle because he is an goverment official.. mao to nga tag dugay nami maka uli kada adlaw, dayon every saturday dili ko ka uli sa among balay didto rami matulog sa among farm house kay naa pod mi disco og videoke-han didto.

naa napod ko na meet didto nga girl nga ni uli ra diri kay nag vacation nag eskwela sa malaysia mura jud siya si snowhite.. dayon sige nami og txt.. one night nag text ang girl beacause naa mi sabot nga before sya mo balik sa malaysia mag check-in sa mi sa hotel. mao to ni text siya pero si wife naman pod naka basa.. gi kulata napod ko mas grabe pa jud kaysa pirmiro, gi pa undang pa ko ni misis og trabaho. ingun siya mag buwag na daw mi pero wala ko ni sugot kay mas love pa jud siya kaysa sa girl.
then iya ra gihapon ko gi pasaylo pero this time ni promise na jud ko ni misis nga dili na jud ko mo utro.

akong pangutana? kung wala ko niya pasaylo-a dili unta niya mahibaw-an nga tinood nga na usobb nako, karon 8 years nag nag ipon 4 years na ming kasal... happy na mi. mao akong advise nimo sis tagai sya og second chance. ako third chance gani ayha ko na usob nga dili na mangita og lain...

[Tre]

simple buwagi dayun......

[rAiNe_]

ahmm ..

i believe in second chances..
if di na jud mag usab then thats enough na jd
time for you to let go..
second chance was given and if he blew it then kick him out of your life..

[purix864]

hi sis.. mka relate judko s mong experience i.. ive been there njud! but the difference lng is wla mi baby and were not living on the same roof.. that was 2 yrs ago! and up to now wla ghapon ko k get over though i tried many times to forget anything,, but still mg cge ghapon xag balik2 skong utok b.. but kami ghapon kron.. mkita nko nya nga naningkamot jud xag mau s mogn relationship.. ni baws ko nya (though sayop pud nga moves) nka uyab pudkog lain.. pro gi dawat ghapon nya tnan.. i guess if mkita jud nmo nya nga ng change jud cya.. well give him another chance.. im not saying nga kylangan jud k mo baws nya in order mka kita k nga g.mahay jud cya

[binarypill]

holy shiyat!!! that sux! reminds me of my situ too! lyf sux

[ashira]

I understand that most of us, me included believe that people can make mistakes and forgiveness is the right thing to do sometimes. However, an affair is not an effortless mistake by any stretch of the imagination.

[ashira]

Sometimes the cheating spouse learns a valuable lesson, but not all the time and this makes me wonder why some people continue to give their cheating spouse multiple second chances.

Yes, people do make mistakes but an affair is not a mistake it is a poor choice, cheating is a choice, which should not be excused as a mistake at any time. Mistakes happen accidentally, affairs do not. If your spouse admits to the affair and calls it what it is, then fine work on the marriage, but if the cheater cannot be honest, please do not give that spouse another chance.

When a spouse who has cheated before has another affair, it is not a mistake , it is a choice that your spouse made. That cheating spouse never stopped to think that his or her affair has affected you at any level. Your cheating spouse does not care that they made you feel sad, cry, hurt, angry or any of those other things.

[ashira]

If you burned your hand on a hot stove once before I am sure, you will by no means make that same mistake for a second time or if you broke an arm jumping off a roof the first time, chances are you will break it again by jumping off the same roof. These are mistakes, which happen, but when you learned the lesson the original time, you do not let it occur again typically.

If the stove only hurt a bit but did not burn or scar the skin, you may accidentally touch the stove again and this time if you are lucky you will get a severe burn and learn the lesson. If a cheating spouse feels that, he or she got away easily with cheating once they will often cheat again.