kinsa gikan broken family diha share your experiences

[cassiopeia]

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Ay ok ra. Pero its bloody frustrating sometimes knowing naa ka sa middle pirme and no one wants you kai naa na silai ilang own families and wla kai labot. *sigh* pero cge nlg. maningkamot nlg. but i swear never nako pa experience-on ug ingon ani akong kids.

[agnesc]

gikan sad kog broken family..ni leave ako amahan 3 years ago kay nikuyug sa iyang kabit..pero weird amu situation kay siya gihapon nagpaskwela namu. Matud pa niya, wa man mi niya byai, amung mama ra daw iya gibyaan..pero way mas bugu ana bai? Kinsa kahay dili malain kung gibiyaan mus inyung papa para sa kabit unya gubaun pa jud ang pangalan sa imung mama sa iyang family para ma accept ang kabit..nya ang kabit awayun pa jud imung mama...zzz

so ako plano ig graduate nako mularga na jud ko..tingae mas naa koi mahatag na future sako mama and brother didto sa gawas.. T_T

grabe sad ang trust issues if gikan kag broken family ue..murag maglisud jud kog salig run sa mga laki tungod sa pagbiya sa akong dad namu.. -_- major depression sad..hahai..pero mayta positive ra ghapon ang outcome sa future..

[sammedriano]

Let me bring the dead back to life. Meaningful thread like this shouldn't go "old".


My mom and dad broke up when I was 4. Just like almost everyone else, the story was an MMK qualified.

I had the sense of understanding back then, of what's the real story behind dad's bring a "maid" in our house that tend to be so sweet on him. We were in Pardo that time, my mom's in Mepz working her ass out all week long and sacrificed to see me every Sunday only to save up a lot.


One rainy night when mom went home due to a very high fever on a late Friday evening, she caught my dad on the act. Out of rage, my mom fought so hard just to get me out of the house to no avail. I was crying back then. I didn't saw my mom til I became 5.

I stayed happily with my mom until she met her husband now. He was so rude to me and had devastated my dignity in our town badly. He made me do things that are totally a disgrace. (and oh please don't ask me what are those. You won't want to know)

I prayed so hard that hopefully I can manage to move forward. My dad and mom kept pushing trash talks about each other. I said -oh please this is my life now. Spare me from your never ending war.

I am now living alone. Renting and working graveyard. Next year, I hopefully can get back to College and pursue my dream.

Now? I've planned with my gf how we must handle our future families. I want to make it certain that I won't have my kids suffer the way I did.


oh by the way, thanks to the people around me and my ofcmates who were so supportive to boost up my confidence.

[sammedriano]

Hala sorry, double post.

[lhorenzoo]

i am also a product of a broken family and now my kids are also a product of a broken family but what can we do , just have to keep moving on .that is life .

[havaianatic01]

mao gyud ni rason ngano gisumpa nko na never jud ko magminyo og pinoy tungod sakoa amahan. wala nay laing sakit pa sa iyaha gibuhat samua. aw nakarma ra man sab hinuon sya, galaway rag pangangkon na anak daw mi nya.meresy ra. taman nalang siya dhaa ky di na jud ko moila sa iyaha pa.swear.

[cheztong]

ako gkan sad ko sa broken family since bata pa ko grbe jud ako na agian ky only child sad ko bsag asa lng ko mapunta wako khbw kung kinsa nla duha ako pili-on, na trauma ko sa nahitabo sa among family, nya naa koi uyab karn though almost 6 yrs nami mahadlok ko magminyo mi kay basin maparehas nya sa akong na experience..

[sammedriano]

Actually, not marrying a pinoy isn't an answer to this continuous issues, Havaianatic. Different races have their own personality, and thinking they will never be like pinoys is a very misguided thought. No offense, but Americans do divorce too. They sleep with you now, they will sleep with your sister the next day. Choose the right person and ask God to guide your relationship, that may work.

mao gyud ni rason ngano gisumpa nko na never jud ko magminyo og pinoy tungod sakoa amahan. wala nay laing sakit pa sa iyaha gibuhat samua. aw nakarma ra man sab hinuon sya, galaway rag pangangkon na anak daw mi nya.meresy ra. taman nalang siya dhaa ky di na jud ko moila sa iyaha pa.swear.

[havaianatic01]

Actually, not marrying a pinoy isn't an answer to this continuous issues, Havaianatic. Different races have their own personality, and thinking they will never be like pinoys is a very misguided thought. No offense, but Americans do divorce too. They sleep with you now, they will sleep with your sister the next day. Choose the right person and ask God to guide your relationship, that may work.

yeah, i know man pero mao man sab nay majority akoa nakita gud gikan sa amahan, mga uyuan, silingan og mga friends so di sab ko mablame anah. sarado jud akoa utok anah.sugod pa lang samua relasyon sakoa bana, si God na jud ang ngpatunga.

[beyee]

I'm thankful that my parents are civil to each other since they separated
since I was little. My Mom is free to see us or be with us every summer
when we were kids since she left us. I believe it takes two mature people
to make the separation work that is to spare the children from all the
nightmare in having a dysfunctional family.

However there's no denying the fact that the separation has changed my
mindset. I have reservations on relationships and marriage. I programmed
myself that people come and go. Even for a hopeless romantic like me, who
gushes over romantic movies and happy ever after endings but I always
believe that in reality, guys never meant to stay. We may be happy at first
but later on I always find faults in everything or I messed things up to push
the guy away whenever he's too close for comfort. I know it's sad to be alone
but it's the best consolation rather than getting stuck in a sick cycle pattern
of what my parents had gone through in the past.

From all this, I have gained wisdom and authority to help young kids who go
through a difficult separation. When I used to teach before, I talk to these kids
and make them feel that it's never wrong to belong in a broken family. I make
them feel their worth and make them feel loved especially those whose parents
neglected them after the separation and left them to their relatives. I became
their second parent and made them realize that they are not less of a person if
their parents separate. I know it didn't fill in the void that they have but loving
them is more than enough.

So I hope those single parents who have their kids with them, forget about your
no-good exes and focus on your children. You may be going through a lot with the
separation but your children are feeling the worst kind of hell. Shower them with
love and affection so they won't feel abandoned.