Being a Parent to your Parents

[hera_82]

Life is a never-ending cycle.
We should not take our parents for granted. As grown ups, we should realize that it's now our turn/responsibility to take care of them. They have already served their purpose.

Here's a story I'd like to share... nice.

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Do you love your parents?
Do you love  your parents?

An 80 year old  man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45-yeas old  highly educated son. Suddenly a crow  perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"

The Son replied "It is  a crow".

After a few minutes, the Father  asked his Son the 2nd  time, "What is this?"

The Son said "Father, I have just now  told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked  his Son the 3rd time, "What is this?"

At this time some expression of  irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff.. "It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had  maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in  the diary :-

"Today my little son  aged three was sitting with me on the  sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times  what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I  hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and  again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for  my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times  "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the  same question all 23 times and When today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So..

If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.

[usrolla]

its true there are caregivers out there...well trained...but they do it for money! its different when you do it with a personal touch...

[Rakuen]

i'd rather take care of my parents myself.......period..

if i don't have the money to support them, then i'll give up getting married...

but, either way, i still want to give them the care they have given me from the time i was born inthis world as a sort of thanksgiving...and that's it.....

would you really give-up marriage? hmmm...
and by the time you get old? how would you handle things?

hats off to you!

[nolex]

would you really give-up marriage? hmmm...
and by the time you get old? how would you handle things?

hats off to you!

i'll think about that when i'm already old....


and oh by the way i would like reiterate my sentence "if i don't have the money"...

[hera_82]

^^ ur so drama nol2x...

[nolex]

^^ ur so drama nol2x...

owtie: ayay!! nagmata pa d i ka her2x?..bie diha.. tugpa na woi.. hehehe..

usahay man ning kinabuhi gud butangan jed nag drama.... mao ni true to life nga drama..

[Ms.Beau]

On Being a Parent to Your Parents - this is role reversal and traumatic for the children. An example is the daughter who does all the household chores coz mom is depressed and is in bed all day, or the son earning a living and supporting the family coz dad is an alcoholic and is jobless. In less visible scenarios, the children "advice" parents or become their emotional support. These are breeding grounds for co-dependency.

On Placing Aged Parents in "Homes" - Retirement Communities is the wave of the future (for the Philippines, that is). These are unlike what we know of "homes" now. These places will have aged-proof facilities, assisted living care, medical staff on call, varied activities suitable for seniors, etc. I believe seniors will have more fun here than in grown children's homes.

On Supporting Parents Financially - this is part of our culture now. The downside is that some parents feel "entitled", to the point that they expect or demand their grown to support them. Errrrr, feels just not right.

[sassy_suzzy]

now... ako ang head sa family... lisud because i am a girl... my mom was so dependent on my dad and eversince he passed away, the responsibility is with me na...

you see, my mom can't make decisions all by herself because when my dad was still with us, he gets to decide permi...

now, ako na sad... i give my mom advices on what's the right thing to do in certain situations and before i left for work, naa pa ko mga pahamilin niya. i call her at home to check if she's ok and if naa problems sa balay... hehehe

makes me feel responsible jud... im lovin it...

[Ms.Beau]

now... ako ang head sa family... lisud because i am a girl... my mom was so dependent on my dad and eversince he passed away, the responsibility is with me na...

you see, my mom can't make decisions all by herself because when my dad was still with us, he gets to decide permi...

now, ako na sad... i give my mom advices on what's the right thing to do in certain situations and before i left for work, naa pa ko mga pahamilin niya. i call her at home to check if she's ok and if naa problems sa balay... hehehe

makes me feel responsible jud... im lovin it...

hi, sassy_suzzy. it's good to know you have positive feelings about your status now. being responsible and feeling competent do give a boost to our self-esteem.

one good thing about your situation is that you are an adult now, and adults are capable of adult responsibilites. children are not, therefore imposing adult responsibitlies on them can be traumatic.

[boobadoll]

hahah! yesterday i called my father "hoy unsa buntis si mama?! wtf! ikaw ha... ngano wa man mo nag family planning?1 sa man mo oi..." tapos i called my mama "ikaw ba gadanghag ra man ka pataka ra man kag bikang___ asa man diay imo IUD? imo gihatag sa atong iro?" and then mama said "ngano nag lecture na man ka karon nako? wa man gani ka pod protection diha!"

I realized na as we grow older murag magkabaliktad na jud ang situation no? haaaaay... i cant imagine jud yesterday nga halos magwild ko when i heard the news nga buntis akong mama... i was like naa ko 16 years old na kid nga nabuntis... hahahha!