You're in Love with Your BEST FRIEND!

[stealth]

hmmmm..... it happened to me once. I told her about it and I'm glad that the feeling is mutual.... c",)

It actually depends on the situation but for me I'd rather tell the person and I guess she would understand becuase she is my best friend. Besides what are best friends for - you should always be open to her. And if both of you are mature enough then you can always talk about it and how to deal with it. c",)

It reminds me of the story.... c",)

The one that got away

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you
shared something special, ones who will always mean something.
There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your
virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're
with...and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who
everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.
There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the
cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime
partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can
actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do
with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle
down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of
giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When
you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who
you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big;
inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you're not ready and it shows.
It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it's just that it's
not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens
you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most
perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned
in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It'll work because it's
the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make sense, it really
will.


So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you
find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your
approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and
you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you,
there's no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you're single but you
could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it
doesn't matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some
reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.


You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were
here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am
and not as I was?" That's what the one that got away is. The biggest
"What if?" you'll have in your life.


If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one
that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think
your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you're
mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and
this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen
your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every
so often, but it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have
been," but it happens.


Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In
which case it's the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your
memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in
the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you
do if it's not yet too late? Simple...find him, find her. Because the very
existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder,
what if you got that one?


Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if
you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just might be
"the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that
got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference.
If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow
and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be
able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that almost got away."



Hope you like this becuase this touched me and happend to me.

[Cardinal Bunal]

I will tell her...

[grlnxtdor16]

naa man jud na risks involved... but if redi na gyud ka to accept whatever may happen especially sa inu friendship then, GO FOR IT!!!

[chellee]

i'll observe my bestfriend ist bana- bana-on sa nako then if i think he value me a lot or im special for him pud i'll take the risk to tell my bestfriend that i think im falling to him...kana kung dili pa taken ang ako bestfriend but if naa na cya gf better forget the feelings nalang....

[clare]

I think he/she deserves to know about how you feel. Otherwise, magtinga ka diha parts!

[Cardinal Bunal]

If there's so much by-play you run before even tipping your feelings to her, then it might just contribute to her negating response after you're gonna drop the bomb to her, how you're gonna spill the beans, it might just take away from that - know what i mean?

Sometimes it's nice to tell her, right on the nose - than if she finds that you've got this thing for her, you call her all the time, you talk to her all the time but you're NOT giving her any information about what you've got going? It's frustrating. Sometimes women wanna get something from that... They might go "What you're NOT man enough to tell me how you feel??" And - frankly, that's not a good thing.

So at some point, just tell him, but not-so much hiding or red herrings or by-play. Cut down with that. Express your feelings at some point, and after a few years later, get married. It's that simple.

[kyuusai]

it would be much better if you tell her how you feel.. we don't know, she also feel the same way you do..so go for it!..

[babymiki]

i think i wont tell him. it might destroy our friendship. and friends love each other more than lovers bya so i want him to be my friend nlng. i don't care if it hurts me.

[alindo]

need advice naglibog ako kng ano gagawin ko.

[isone]

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