Who's a Flirt: How to tell if a guy/gay is just flirting?

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This one time a girl was giving me a lap dance that I didn't have to pay for ... I'm pretty sure that was flirting.

[Velvett]

..." I can't wait to meet you when you get here..."

ask her what she means by that. maybe she didnt really mean it, or she doesnt know what it really means

[azwethinkweiz]

pina friendly ra tingali oi ..pero ambot lang kung gi serious to niya. Kay kung serious meaning naa shay hidden agenda, basin tagaan sha money ato or whatever din buwagan ka if moari jud to na tao...pero ambot oi yaw dayon ug judge. Basta storyai sha bahin ana para ma aware sha ba, bhala ingnon ka possessive, ingna nga sayop kaayo shag gibuhat flirting online..... kuyaw kung gi serious jud to niya.

[limunsito]

flirt nmn guro na kay ngno mangita pa man jud cya na naa man ka pwede ra sad rba ka mangitag amigo diri cebu

[rodsky]

The mere fact that you posted here for advice on that situation only means one thing--you are not comfy with the situation! So why ask for advice? When you get cut, you don't go to a forum to ask advice on how to treat your wound--you find a first aid kit, then you clean and dress it Simple as that. In other words, don't get into that relationship, because you're the sort of person who will NEVER understand nor accept your GF's intentions and behaviour.

If you were like me however, that's a different story. I don't care what my GF would do behind my back--she has a life of her own, and if she is intelligent enough to know what she's doing, then why should I worry? I have my own stuff to deal with, so patas ra. Lack of maturity and adherence to stringent "rules" and very constricting "religious" values are the very reason why healthy open relationships will never be possible in this country.

-RODION

[Velvett]

^open relationships you say?

[rodsky]

^open relationships you say?

Admittedly it's not for everyone, but I believe the more laid back people look at relationships, the better the world would be. Marriage, at least for me, is overrated. I have no arguments against people who are doing very well with their married lives--I'm very happy for them. But to make the rest of the world miserable just because you cannot aim for a relationship like that seems unhealthy and unfair to me. Everyone has the right to be happy, and that happiness doesn't necessarily mean an agenda for a nice, fairytale, married life.

-RODION

[cp103]

The mere fact that you posted here for advice on that situation only means one thing--you are not comfy with the situation! So why ask for advice? When you get cut, you don't go to a forum to ask advice on how to treat your wound--you find a first aid kit, then you clean and dress it Simple as that. In other words, don't get into that relationship, because you're the sort of person who will NEVER understand nor accept your GF's intentions and behaviour.

If you were like me however, that's a different story. I don't care what my GF would do behind my back--she has a life of her own, and if she is intelligent enough to know what she's doing, then why should I worry? I have my own stuff to deal with, so patas ra. Lack of maturity and adherence to stringent "rules" and very constricting "religious" values are the very reason why healthy open relationships will never be possible in this country.

-RODION

@ rodsky...You've got a point there bro, but your only half correct, point taken, and thanks to all the people that posted their comments, just wanted to know what other people would do if they we're to encounter such situations.

[cp103]

pina friendly ra tingali oi ..pero ambot lang kung gi serious to niya. Kay kung serious meaning naa shay hidden agenda, basin tagaan sha money ato or whatever din buwagan ka if moari jud to na tao...pero ambot oi yaw dayon ug judge. Basta storyai sha bahin ana para ma aware sha ba, bhala ingnon ka possessive, ingna nga sayop kaayo shag gibuhat flirting online..... kuyaw kung gi serious jud to niya.

mao lagi na ako gproblemahan the whole christmas break... coz I never got to talk w/ her man gud by the time I knew about the stuff she's doing,coz ni-uli man xa sa ila isla,and I don't want to talk about it over the phone,especially serious matters like this...

but anyway, got to talk to her about it na bya, and hopefully everything should be going smoothly...

[cp103]

hey guys, thanks for all the comments...keep em comin'