FOR THE GUYS: Love & Friendship 101

[ryeaka]

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Girl's fall easily? -- well, it's nothing to be embarassed of. Females are emotional creatures by nature. That's one thing they have that men don't. Emotions tend to navigate their actions (most of the times, but not all). When it comes to romance, females tend to grow weak in the knees, regardless of how intelligent she is.

BUT, this shouldnt be an excuse. Like i said, learn how to control feelings. It'll take a lot of practise, but it's worth the effort, in order to keep yourselves from the pain. Keep your feelings at neutral to avoid being hurt. only if the guy spills that he has feelings for you, then let your emotions go free.

Men, on the other hand, we are rational beings. Therefore, we shouldn't use the excuse that "it's normal for us. i didnt mean to make you fall for me.". "most" men know what theyre doing and the effects of it. Most guys intentionally do these to get an ego boost. once they know that the girl likes them, they feel more "desirable". But ofcourse, this is ethically wrong! men need to consider that that female is a friend, and not a toy. Be responsible for one's actions and make sure not to step on others' feelings along the way. If a man can't do this, then he's perhaps too immature to think of others yet.

OT: i know someone nga maigo ani nga statement hahahaha

[angel_brey]

Lemme just quote this:QUESTIONS:

1. What are the things a GUY/GIRL shouldn't DO or SHOW to someone if FRIENDSHIP ra ilahang pakay? (FRIENDSHIP 101)

2. What are the things a GUY/GIRL should do na dapat SPECIAL ra for that person THEY LOVE or intend to be with? (LOVERS 101)
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The answers to these are subjective, but here's mine:

1. Don't flirt too much, don't say sweet words that you can't swallow and don't act like your the bf. In short set limitations.

2. I say it. My words are the confirmation.

KOREK! hehehe It works both ways! On the part of the SWEET one and the part of the one being sweetened at! Sakto ba? hahaha Basta mao na siya!

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NOPE actually! He is really genuinely Mr Nice Guy gyud! The only problem is the dilemma the girls get when they get to know him! Sa mga dili kapugong, ma IN LOVE gyud niya! Sa mga mu really get to know him, ahw sayu pa lang kahibaw na nga "FRIENDLY" ra na iyahang pgka ingun ana!

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There's a thin line between being friendly ug magpadahom...

Yes korek! For him ana lang gyud siya NORMALLY or NORMAL ra na niya! But for me, if SHALLOW ra kaayo ko na pagka tao, ma IN LOVE kog apil nya I told him that. Then I told him MY LEARNING IT THE HARD WAY experience which was like this...

Way back in High School and college and blame it on an absent father kay SEAMAN man, mas close ko sa GUY friends and naturally sweet gyud ko niya! During the start of the age of INTERNET & FRIENDSTER, I got to meet people there and if daghan LAKI diri sa CEBU nga na migo nako, samot na dungagan because of the internet and what and who I am to my friends here in CEBU is thesame as I am with those on the net!

1 time, there was this one guy from ATENEO who was really cool and kung baga, permi nako maka PM then evolved to CHAT then evolved to TXTING! I was just being my plain old SWEET self pero for me it was only in a friendly manner and then later on he said,

"I am coming over to CEBU!"

In my head I was like, ah ok basin naa siyay business meeting diri or what or basin ganahan lang gyud siya mu visit and see CEBU but it never crossed my mind na he was coming here for ME!

When he arrived, he said he would stay here for a WEEK! Whew! When he told me he was here because of ME or for visiting ME, ahw didto nako murag ang haba ng hair ko kay ge gastuhan gyud kog ari ug ge absenan gyud ko ug ari! BUT, he never said anything na nanguyab siya nako or what, diretso ra siya ASSUME na KAMI! In my part, cge go nisakay nalang ko! After that 1 week, he went back to MANILA and in a way, kami na of some sort.

THIS time was when the TROUBLES started! He would call me 24/7, kung mahimo every second akong fone mag ring ug mu ask siya where ko or nag what ko. If manawag siya ug akong mga bugal bugalun na mga barkada na lalake mag binuang sa back ground moaning and saying,

"Brey ari na brey kay lami na kaayo!"

He would violently react like,

"Putang ina sino yun? Sino yun!!! May BF ka dyan?"

Etc and so on and all the violent reactions etc. I made him understand the situation that most of my friends were guys and then he was okay. Then later on in only a span of like 3 weeks, he asked me to MARRY HIM! In other words, na ADDICT siya nako! Hahaahahaa When I said NO, he got mad and furious and nang buyboy na sa iyahang gipang buhat for me daw na ni ari pa siya ug CEBU and all etc. And then the final straw was it came to a point nga mura na siyag desperate and he made up something to BLACK MAIL me daw!

Ug mao to siya akong FIRST PSYCHO STALKER EX BF or ADMIRER! Damn! Mao na akong gepasabot na I learned it the HARD WAY and mao sad na akong gusto ipahiwatig ninyu na para dili ninyu na ma experience if you are single and ready to go out and mingle out there.

Pasalamat ko nga naa siya or taga MANILA siya kay kung na taga CEBU pa siya, basin pa ug nahitabong ge KIDNAP KO, GE RAPE ug GE CHOP2x ug save akong SKULL as TROPHY kay ang iyahang e ingun...

"Kung hindi ka man lang maging AKIN, Papatayin nalang kita!"

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh

[reigel99]

Originally Posted by Exodus.Genesis
True, but take note. Some cultures use kissing or touching as a greeting gesture. Or something that's normal. we should control our emotions so that we dont go falling in love right away. haha.

It's hard to find a definite line between love and friendship. so becareful..

good luck TS


CGe, ako nalang ni especific.. french kissing (tongue tied,lock up,jaw dropping kisses) , touching private parts.. ciaro..
hahaahaha mao na ako g mean na kissing and touching..
ok ra na beso2. kiss sa forehead, sa cheeks or hug goodbye pero ayaw sad ng morag tuko..

maka define man gani tag lust.. what more sa love..

its all in our mind how to control it man jud... and besides, we, are just human..
we need a HUMAN TOUCH.. would it be much more to ask.. a HUMAN CARE...
but if dili kaya. dili ta mogos.. ngeta tag lain freinds na makasabot nato..


and if by lover jd imo gipangita.. aw sorry cant relate..
resigned nako ana. HHAHAHA

OPEN COMMUNICATION and OPEN minded lang guru mo sa opposite ***
and it depends if u close or OPEN ur body to that..

thats ur decision na

usa jud ni si rhex sa akong mga idol oi basta mga ingon-ani nga topic...

pero rhex, mostly sa lalaki baya basta naay tumong nga di mao, buhaton tanan para makuha lang ang gusto...
ang tinood diay, di nila love ang girl... ambot ma-consider ba sad na as friends.... and unsa man nang friends with benefits? murag commitment na man lang gani ang kulang ana...

[annerhexian]

usa jud ni si rhex sa akong mga idol oi basta mga ingon-ani nga topic...

pero rhex, mostly sa lalaki baya basta naay tumong nga di mao, buhaton tanan para makuha lang ang gusto...
ang tinood diay, di nila love ang girl... ambot ma-consider ba sad na as friends.... and unsa man nang friends with benefits? murag commitment na man lang gani ang kulang ana...

Blaming one another or someone is a tired thing to tackle.
Waste of energy, waste of time
and self pity will accompany to that so called thing.

if kana ela naman na gibuhat.
desisyun na na sa babae/ lalaki
and if by reason, she/he is inlove.
then eya na.

There are a lot of REASON why people succumbed to a situation we are in
They are a lot of events that can lead to that consequences.

and people say, its up to us, on how to control it.
thats why our head is above our heart


but with different attitudes, and different lifestyle
plus the fact, we encounter different people.

Then, I might say, this is the REALITY .

and bye bye fairytale...

Next time, ask your mom not to give him cinderella
hahaahahha
maka mislead na...

[Exodus.Genesis]

OT: i know someone nga maigo ani nga statement hahahaha

Haha, you and me both dear. I know a lot of people who experience that. It takes one to grow up and be mature in order to control feelings and think of others at the same time.

We'll all go through it. So there's no hurry

[yiennahs]

naa koy iask, if manghagad ug sine ang girl, is that okay? i mean to a friend ba....

[samurai-xyz]

for the girls/guys, mao nay ginaingon na do not assume unless otherwise stated...never assume or expect anything sa iyang gibuhat kay anha man gud ka ma frustrate or ma disappoint

[angel_brey]

naa koy iask, if manghagad ug sine ang girl, is that okay? i mean to a friend ba....

Para nako ok ra as long as right from the start you make it so clear na FRIENDS ra mo or PLUS 1 ra siya nimo! heheheh

OT: Palihug ko ninyu ug ANSWER sa akong mga PANGUTANA intawn arun dili na OT kaayo tanawun! hewhehe

[yiennahs]

what if you know nga dili friends iya pagtagad nimo? bad ba?

[yiennahs]

anyways, to add up

1. What are the things a GUY/GIRL shouldn't DO or SHOW to someone if FRIENDSHIP ra ilahang pakay? (FRIENDSHIP 101)

- a guy should never be sweet to a girl who likes him if he knows he can't reciprocate
- if guys have abs or good body built don't it to you friends that are girls lol
- ayaw pangatik kung wala kay guto niya
- put some limitations