should i say yes???

[GAZ907]

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here's my story..i really dont know what to do na jud...i have a guy frnd and i am starting to like him..ahhhmmm we used to go out often but for me it was just a friendly date..but for him it was something more..

there was a time he asked me to be his girlfriend and i declined..i told him im not yet ready..i like him but its not enuf..he's fun to be with but...there's always a but which means im not really that into him..i like him but i dont love him yet...YET..so meaning naa pa possibility magnhn ko niya coz of all d guys na nicourt nq siya ra aku nahan..

yesterday he asked me out.. we watched a movie had a dinner..and asked me again..when will u be my girlfriend?

i dont want him to get hurt...honestly..i like him its just that im not that into him pa jud...i feel so guilty...what am i gonna do?

ayaw huna hunaa ang gasto...dika dapat maikog...it was a pleasure for him to date you man...he was not asking man kaha in return?

[NiveD]

if hes not in to you..then let him come in to you...hehehhe..give this guy a chance...basin diay...trial and error lang gud

[sHenZee03]

You've already told him that you're not ready and had declined twice. If that "like" will never progress into something deeper, then might as well stay friends. What he really wanted to imply when he asked "when will you be my girlfriend", is "when will you be ready". And don't make him hope for nothing. As long as you keep saying "YET", he'll always keep his hopes up considering the fact that you like him.

So make up your mind as soon as you can because you'll hurt him not by rejecting him but by giving him false hopes.

[achinita]

niingon nmn ko niya sq na feel...cge man ghapon xa court...mybe tungod na sa aq na ingn niya na dli pjud ko sure sq feelings...coz dli pmn sad ko sure sq feelings...nahan ko niya kay but.an au..lisud na pud ipangita ug but,an..hahayyy am i being desperate??knowing that some of the guys nowadays are (i dont wanna say it..)...some of the guys rmn pud...

I have a feeling, nanigurado ra ka.. Mao na dili pa ka kabasted gyud niya.. Para in case wala kay makita na good guys, naa sya to be your rebound..

Give yourselves a break.. Sakto to ang ni-advice nga distansya sa.. Think if maka-imagine ba ka with him as your boyfriend.. Think sad if maka-imagine ba ka without him.. Good luck..

[jakobe_04]

ayaw sugta if d pa ka ready...

lisod mn jud na kay sa tanan mn khang nag court nimo xa imong pinakaganahan...pag friends2x lng sa gud moh...klaroha lng na nia...kung asa na maabot inyong closeness,aw!tan awn lang...

correct me if im wrong ts ha...i think d ka ganahan masakitan xa,..usa pa pud,DI KA GANAHAN NGA MAWALA PUD DAYON XA NIMO IF MO "NO" na ka for the 3rd time...tama?

[harhar]

Kung feel nimu it's time so mao nana, kung dli pa ayaw lang at-ha... Makasabot ra dyud ang tarong nga laki, kung dli cya kasabot meaning bati cya...

[idontttknow]

im really thankful i have u guys...thanks sa advice...
at least i already know d exact words na dapat nq iingon...
im a bit confused ghpon but nkahelp jud mo...
sa mga ni advice naa q na realize...like kani..

I have a feeling, nanigurado ra ka.. Mao na dili pa ka kabasted gyud niya.. Para in case wala kay makita na good guys, naa sya to be your rebound..

Give yourselves a break.. Sakto to ang ni-advice nga distansya sa.. Think if maka-imagine ba ka with him as your boyfriend.. Think sad if maka-imagine ba ka without him.. Good luck..

this one is so true...mybe nanigurado ko...

You've already told him that you're not ready and had declined twice. If that "like" will never progress into something deeper, then might as well stay friends. What he really wanted to imply when he asked "when will you be my girlfriend", is "when will you be ready". And don't make him hope for nothing. As long as you keep saying "YET", he'll always keep his hopes up considering the fact that you like him.

So make up your mind as soon as you can because you'll hurt him not by rejecting him but by giving him false hopes.

this one is also true na if i kept on saying "YET", he'll always keep his hopes up considering the fact that i like him...

Maybe nag pa asa ka niya, tell the guy exactly how you feel.

Tell him you only "like" him and you haven't reach the stage where you can say that you love him. Tell the the truth he deserves it..

If you think your feeling can still develop beyond "like" then then tell him that as well, if he is willing to wait then that's his choice but at least he knows where to position himself.

You said, you don't want to hurt him, then just be honest and let him decide what course he wants to go: either continue pursuing you or just let you go.

Good luck.

also this one...

"tell the guy exactly how you feel.

Tell him you only "like" him and you haven't reach the stage where you can say that you love him. Tell the the truth he deserves it.."

"If you think your feeling can still develop beyond "like" then then tell him that as well, if he is willing to wait then that's his choice but at least he knows where to position himself."

You're just hesitant. If you think he's a good person based on your observation and most important is if you think that you like him too, why not be his gf? Don't mind the IF's, it won't go away, everything has it.
You will not be able to know until you try. Anyway you're not marrying him yet, you're just gonna allow both of you to show how really love works on you two.
If you like him also and then you don't want to give chance for it, you will just make him suffer and you will feel the same as well.
Anyway have you tried having a boyfriend TS?

yeah maybe im just hesitant...yup ive tried having a boyfriend..whats d point?

Confuse Confuse... Hmm....


From the looks of it.... Your rushing things.. especially niya... Tell you what.. Hunong sa mo beh.. Take time and just be on a friendly date (if mu treat cya ug date nimo next time)

Ingna cya d ka nya dali.on.. if he can wait for the time your going to say YES.. then make him understand to wait...

Bata paman sad mo.. so there's no need to RUSH love... Love needs space and time to grow..... So DONT RUSH IT...

Ingna cya, when I feel sure of myself, of my feelings to you.. then that will be the time I will tell you.. Ingna cya Dont rush sa tanan...

I know you like this guy TS.. its just your not sure of everything pa karon.. paspas kau ang tanan.. basta take it slow and take your time..

PS..

Dont feel remorse sa nagasto nya sa inyong date.. He was the one treating you.. and if he feels disappointed nga wala ka napasagot nya.. then feel him disappointed.. ayaw kaikog sa guy.. its his decision to have a date with you.. and if wala nya nakuha imong YES.. so be it... pasa sakripisyoha cya gamay...

when you let the guy show more sacrifices to you.. it will show lang jud how much his love for you jud...

basta take your time.. and when its time you feel more and more feelings na para nya.. then mao na na.. Give him the sweetest word he wants to hear....

and also u bowee uve got a point...tnx for d advices everyone...its really a nice feeling na nkapagawas ko and na advise.san ko..i dont have a bro and i dont have a sister...i have no one to share with...tnx pud sa mga ni pm nq...thanks a lot..

[Dickiesss]

sulti.e onsa gyud imo g-bati kaniya, mas maau man gyud mo sulti gyud ka sa tinuod.

[iang]

ill tell u d best way 2 not hurt his feelings s 2 b upfront and say NO.
No matter wat u say he will b dissapointed, but he will get over it.

[ace_82]

tell him what you feel sis, . .mas unfair ka if imo sugton nga dili ka sure sa imo feelings,unfair sa iyaha og unfair sad sa imoha part, . .you may learn to love him but dili na guarantee,anything could happen sa relationship. . .lahi ra jud ang love og kalooy or ka ikog.