lisud gyud kaau ni imong situation girl. parehas mo nga naay baggage, ang i can tell nga ang inyong trials will not end here. u came from failed relationships and maybe u r trying very hard nga kaning inyo mo work out, i dont know if that's the case. based on my personal experience, nag buwag mi sa ako exhubby and when i met my bf (then), exbf na now, i was trying to show my exhubby and everyone that i picked the right guy even if the truth is, i am aware that he is not that perfect, not even close. kahibalo ko nga daghan siya flaws and complications. pero kani laging, gusto nato i prove sa tanan nga malipayon ta ug sakto ang atong desisyon sa pag pili aning tawhana, atong tunlon tanan, atong agwantahon tanan, ug atong itago ang tanan kung puede pa lang. sa akong case, dili ko gusto kataw an sa akong ex husband nga sayup gihapon nga lalaki ang akong napunit after niya. i wanted to ask u, are u in this situation too? kay ako, it took me 6 long years, before nako na convince akong kaugalingon nga wala gyud koy mahimo, sayup dyud na taw ang akong napunit. i did all my best, just like what u r giving in your relationship, but mo abot ra gyud ang time nga kapoyon ka ug mo give up ka. when that time comes, dili naka mo care ug unsa pay isulti sa mga taw. just like u, i have a baby sa akong bf of 6 years, pero eventually nagbuwag ra gyud mi. karon, im moving on with my life and i learned so many lessons. dili gyud ma tunhay ang usa ka complikadong relasyon daan no matter how big our love and sacrifices are. u dont deserve all the sufferings u have right now, ug ikaw ra sad ang maka end ana. i know u r so inlove with ur bf, i was too, i am still inlove with the guy until now, but i also love myself, i have forgotten to love myself more for several years, i guess thats my greatest mistake. karon, i have more reasons to be happy even if i dont have someone special, at least my life is peaceful and not as complicated. u have to make the choice girl.
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06-22-2010, 03:55 PM #31C.I.A.
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06-22-2010, 05:19 PM #32Banned User
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can not help but react at this point. dili man ka selfish sis. and i do understand u in a unique way knowing we are both only child...we have unique traits. ikaw pa gani nag effort ug maayo to give to your bf.
Originally Posted by Blackjellybean27
it seems to me ur bf doesnt give a damn about you....samot karon nga preggy na gani ka. he lives a stone's throw away, he does not have to cause that much discomfort baya.
i know fully well that issue on being comfy sleeping anywhere...trust me i know that.
pastilan...ang question ani, does he really really love you?
based on what you have presented here....from a guy's perspective, i will have to be blunt...he does not know what true love is!
gahia nya musabot nimo oi...sya ang selfish...
be strong sis...it is a hurtful situation...
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06-22-2010, 07:18 PM #33C.I.A.
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That would be the easiest and most obvious solution, to get away and be independent.. But i have to be practical as well. I am practically alone here, and it'll be hard living on my own.. well, i guess this solution would be super okay if i'm not pregnant. but lisod jud sya karon if i go off my own way. Originally Posted by Klave
cge lang, bro.. makaya pa ni for now. thanks for the suggestion and your views. i feel a bit better just being able to talk to someone who understands my predicament, even if diri ra sa istorya.
all my life i have been used to the comforts of getting what i want, and doing what i want. Now that i am in this point in my life, i can't help but think kng asa sya naka kuha ug notion na i am selfish.. Originally Posted by farmboy
i keep hearing from him, "those are my kids!" d-u-h! i know that.. and i am not taking his pgka father away from him and the time from his kids... i keep repeating that to him, but i really don't understand why it's hard for him to understand my part.
maybe ok lang matug cla diri like say twice a month, but to sleep here saturday and sunday every weekend, knowing full well that i don't get the rest i need... hahay nalng.. he says he understand my situation, but i don't see the part where he REALLY UNDERSTANDS ME.. it's easy to say "kasabot ko nimo" dba? actions speak louder than words...
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06-22-2010, 07:32 PM #34C.I.A.
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your post made me cry... iyakin lang jud ko these days.. hahay.. naka think twice jud ko sa situation ko bout that love part. maybe i am trying so hard to make this work out. ever since i separated from my hubby all my relationships were a flop.. Originally Posted by yvonne6
but i have to make some exceptions with my current bf as well ( i dont know if i should call this "defending him" pero i'll be fair to him as well).. well, he's made some financial sacrifices as well. there was a time when i didn't have work and couldn't ask from my parents, nahadluk ko telling them na i dont have a job again.. anyway, he paid for my share sa rent, bills, food, etc... as in tanan...
so i dont know if i should conclude na bsin love pod ko niya because of that
mao na cguro i keep defending him k i remembered when i was so down and he was there..
or maybe you are right sis.. i am just making too much out of this.. na realize ko the past year, i have made a lot of sacrifices as well, not just financial but also emotional. i have been giving too much of myself, taking care of him, etc etc.. maka say jud ko na i love him with my all, so it's sort of easy having him step on me at times... na ma take ko lang na he continues to do this to me... ingon gani ang friend ko, if he wants his kids to sleep over let them sleep over sa sala... nalisoran ko ana oi, maluoy pod ko sa mga bata... i'm not that evil kind of woman, na just because i want to be selfish for once, i'll let them sleep sa sala.
sometimes i wanna lash back and be the maldita person i am, but i just can't.. and sometimes i commend myself for knowing how to sacrifice as well, and sometimes i hate myself for giving too much..
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06-22-2010, 07:39 PM #35Elite Member
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sa kadaghan nag comment mao ni ang para gyud nimo listen to her Originally Posted by yvonne6
dont be stupid
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06-22-2010, 07:42 PM #36Elite Member
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I was saying those stuff with a bit of sarcasm, You are specially not going for the easy way out because that is YOU! Deep love is part of one's character, dili tanan tawo naa ani. I can sort of see that you are willing to do everything necessary even with the kids, even with all the bullshit. You just somehow need the push from your partner, which you feel right now is necessary missing. I wish I could talk to your partner to get this over with. Originally Posted by Blackjellybean27
How you deal with this problem will probably define how you are going to spend the rest of your life.
Again... More power
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06-22-2010, 07:43 PM #37C.I.A.
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i know. mao gani naka hilak ko when i read her post. it made me realize some things, and doubt some things... and think about a lot of things. hahay. Originally Posted by lamangzz
sa kadaghan nag comment mao ni ang para gyud nimo listen to her dont be stupid
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06-22-2010, 08:00 PM #38C.I.A.
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i can see myself failing miserably in trying to make him understand. maybe from other people's point of view cguro he might see it... he's sooo cold to me last night pa, he must have seen my post here.. Originally Posted by Klave
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06-22-2010, 08:06 PM #39
sis why don't you just rent another room or something. you can have your privacy pa.
don't suffer too much. you have a baby pa naman....
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06-22-2010, 08:53 PM #40Elite Member
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@Blackjellybean27
Well when the baby gets out, maka-amgo na siya. Hopefully...
Sayang lang...mas nindot unta nga presko pa ang problem...
A lot of things gets solved when the baby is out.
Unsay relationship ninyo...
Kinsa angay niya iprioritize...
Istoryan sad diay na imo bana?...hala take advantage...
To the partner, muhuwat paka mapugos ka og atiman sa imong "Current" responsibilities?
You should start listening earnestly and don't take her feelings for granted.
Please realize that whatever you did in the past was a MISTAKE,
and the best thing you can do for everyone now is not to do it AGAIN,
and you are about to do it, mishandling your "Current" responsibilities.
Your children will forever live with the fact that they are from a broken family.
Don't add anymore children who will have to live with that fact.
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