Have you ever been told you were not attractive?

[WinFlo]

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puera buyag, wala pa jud intawn sukad2x. miski akong timbang mura ug balloon nga dali ra moburot ug mohiyos. hehe

[Namnori]

wla pa, basin sunod...i gain weight rba...
mga suyaon ra na mag ing ana!!! masuya ligid oi!!!

I once saw a bumper sticker that read: I MAY BE FAT, BUT YOU'RE UGLY... AND I CAN DIET

[kyme]

ako kasuway na, way back highschool. mga maldito sad to sila mga bugoy na expelled
sad kay nka sala sa school.suko sila nko kay hilomon kno ko nila niya dili mo apil sa ila
fraternity, muna suko sila nko. ila pa gyud ko gi say diha sa atobangan sa ako maestro..
yes i feeled bad at that time and wla gyud ko kabalos nila. hilumon man sad gud ko
sauna modawat lang kun unsa naa sa atubangan. and dko gusto away....
pero ako nka graduate ug highschool sila wla pa. ilang mga barkada ni undang na ug
scoyla hilabi na si aznar na priso sa manila tungod sa iyang sala na nang rape. And
now im happy cuz mao to ang akong ikabawos nila, sukad wla gyud ko kbawos nila
sa ilang gipang buhat...

[Streetcar]

Yes many times and those words exchanged is deeply buried in me. Hurtful words or mga panaway in my face is not easy for me to forget. I'm in pain eveytime i think about it.

[ANZEN]

wala pa ko kasuway.
ug dili sad gyod guro ko kasuway ana kay attractive man ko! CHARING.......

[lestat1116]

suway na. permi.

[junenine]

yes, when I was little and the sad thing is that I heard this comments from aunts in my father's side always when they got together. They think that I have dark skin, big eyes and flat nose and perhaps that's their defination of unattractive person. They always compared me with the girls my age at that time that have slanted eyes and fair skin which they think is guapa and the worst thing is that they think that my baby brother would have been pretty if only he's born a girl.
then when I reached teens, I slowly change into a swan pretty much like Ms.Beau's experience, Hi Ms.Beau! Now they think that I look like a celebrity,...what?

[Ms.Beau]

^hello to you too, junenine. haha, is this our own version of The Swan? bitaw, though sad, those stories just make a pretty interesting life background now. oh well, even without the "transformation" (lol), being an adult now really helps. unlike sa katong bata pa ta nga ang mga tamay sa uban kay mo affect jud sa atong self-esteem, now we know better. we now know that nobody can make us feel ugly without our consent.

and lemme share this. having some insights into the effects of words on one's self-esteem, i make it a point to build a child's self-esteem jud. when my cousin was 5 years old, he had a big, round head then sungugon jud siya ug "siopao" sa iya mga playmates. his mother would scold those playmates, but i figured that we won't always be around to protect him from mean playmates, so what i did was tell him that a bigger head means more brains...so mas bright jud siya! hehe. i believe that worked for him...and now he's a highschooler and he is very bright indeed. talk about giving affirmations. :mrgreen:

[Ms.Beau]

yup..
mama sa akong bestfriend giingnan ko
dili kuno ko gwapa unless tutokan... hehehe tinuod siguro

ayaw tu-o ana ngel oi...iya ra to opinion. tutuki gud imong nawong di ba maka ingon ka nga gwapa hehe.

ako kasuway na, way back highschool. mga maldito sad to sila mga bugoy na expelled
sad kay nka sala sa school.suko sila nko kay hilomon kno ko nila niya dili mo apil sa ila
fraternity, muna suko sila nko. ila pa gyud ko gi say diha sa atobangan sa ako maestro..
yes i feeled bad at that time and wla gyud ko kabalos nila. hilumon man sad gud ko
sauna modawat lang kun unsa naa sa atubangan. and dko gusto away....
pero ako nka graduate ug highschool sila wla pa. ilang mga barkada ni undang na ug
scoyla hilabi na si aznar na priso sa manila tungod sa iyang sala na nang rape. And
now im happy cuz mao to ang akong ikabawos nila, sukad wla gyud ko kbawos nila
sa ilang gipang buhat...

ay sus bro, kung ingon ana naman sad lang na sila, way timbang ilang isulti nako. and don't worry, ingon ana jud ba basta highschool pa, we seek validation from others. but as you grow older you can validate yourself. mas importante unsay imong ginasulti sa imong kaugalingon kaysa unsa pa nang gipanulti sa uban.

suway na. permi.

bro, kinsa man sad nang sige sulti nimo ana ba? murag kabadlungon kaayu ko.

Yes many times and those words exchanged is deeply buried in me. Hurtful words or mga panaway in my face is not easy for me to forget. I'm in pain eveytime i think about it.

nah, kung sa portrait pa mai, the words they said are just the blurry strokes in the background. past = background. present = subject

[n`gel]

@Ms. Beau about the big head... very nice hehe good for him. Naa gyuy mga late bloomers kay ako late bloomer man pud ko. Bugoy kaayo ko sa una until college until nakauyab ug tarong napanton. The next time gud nakakita usa nako kaamigo nako gianaan ko "ikaw na ne?" hehehe ako lang gingisian murang make-over kaayo.

Ug moingon man gud tang attractive dili necessarily pasabot gwapa ug bone features, which is mo gyuy makapagwapa or gwapo sa taw. Kita pung mga pinoys ang atong common definition sa gwapa kay high cheek boned, nindot ug kilay naturally, nindot ug lips, taas ug ilong... mestizahon. Ako gani babies moana man sila gwapa kaayo ang mestiza pero to many... moana gyud nga gwapa sila in their own ways. Ang usa pinay beauty ang usa tisay. Dili lang siguro ta anad makakita ug fil-am mixed gyud mo na moana ta gwapa na.

Na may attractive ang dating... the way she carries herself... witty... suplada... nya maattractive. Bisan pa magsinena ug trapo lagi basta attractive attractive gyud.

Kato mama sa ko bestfriend wala man ko na-offend nalingaw gani ko. And also? I'm an anti-beauty pagaent person gyud. AS IN. Dili ko motuo ug i-contest ang beauty (it's just the thought of it ba) naa gyuy common definition ang mga taw ug gwapa that's bullshets. College pa ko ako gyung suphon mga bayot kung mosugod na'g pandani nga paapilon ko ako ingnan that's totally nonsense sorry pero I won't degrade myself... basin pa nuon mag swimsuit ko nga ga rubber shoes.