Being a Parent to your Parents

[rey04]

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yup, because i myself saw the hardship of my parents taking care of their parents before. i just conclude it because what the western now do with their old parents. practical lang bah. same as we have babies and both spouses were working so what happen is you depend on half hearted maids to take care of you kids and it would be the same too with your old parents. that's why I'm asking if you have the time, effort and financial capacity to take care of them. for me i don't have those though its too early to say that since they were still young but the probability is high having the conditions i mentioned. if you question my love for them, my answer is i love them most.

^^^u r jst thinking of the worst to come bro, bt if u start caring 4 dem n little ways den a little more wudnt do any harm, jst balance evrythin

[jugs_06]

IMO, putting parents in an extended care facility is solely for pure "practical" reasons.. as what you guys have stated, the time.. the effort.. the patience.. the money.. all of em put together is enough reason for sons and daughters to put their parents in such a place (in a westernized perspective)..

of course, in the Philippines lahi ra.. if you guys would ask me, i wouldn't dare do that either.. i mean, i believe that as sons and daughters we have that "responsibility" that is somehow passed on to us from our parents that THIS TIME, it's our turn for us to show them how thankful we are..

depende ra jud na sa culture.. sympre maka saway ta sa amerika but for them, ok ra kaayo na nila..

[doce_pares]

^^^ well bro, d situation w ur grannies may b differnt 4 ur parents. mayb it was dat hard coz 2 start w ur parents only did deyr share in d later stages of ur grannies lyf bt if u try 2 start caring 4 ur parents now den it wudnt b dat lyf changing n d later end. as for d resources bro, as ive said u can always earn d money dat u lose but u cannot buy d tym dat lost tym u shud hav spent w ur parents. dat's y it's called love bro, evrything u do s beyond reason, beyond practicality

[usrolla]

its not only time or money wer talking about here...eventhough how much bz we r w/ our lives the little time we could spend it w/ them would mean so much to them....at list they woulnt feel neglected or forgotten...everytime naa ta sa haus they could always see us...i could say mo matter a lot na kaayo na sa ila...

[doce_pares]

^^^agree bro, it is jst way 2 different wen u cant c ur loved ones though wen we r bc it is easy 2 take things 4 granted, bt try 2 slow down n reflect, ul c dat even a meal together w ur family wud mean so much n wud do wonders n ur relationships

[kenoidz]

its not only time or money wer talking about here...eventhough how much bz we r w/ our lives the little time we could spend it w/ them would mean so much to them....at list they woulnt feel neglected or forgotten...everytime naa ta sa haus they could always see us...i could say mo matter a lot na kaayo na sa ila...

agree...8's rili dfrnt wen dey c us nd dat dey liv wd us

[rey04]

HHMMMMMMMM.....

[doce_pares]

^^^convinced now bro?

[rey04]

nop, sorry but wala pa ko convince. my reasons were in my responses to the different topics here in the family matters. connected ra gyud tanan bro's that's why i conclude this as for this time of my life.

[usrolla]

rey04: well i respect ur perception regarding this issue...imo sad ni nga gusto...