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[zzexniwp312]

doc pa tambag ko.. naa koy probz ba..

sa ako gf now 5 months nami.. mauwawon Kaayo sya as in!... nya kung mag storyaanay me about sa amu relationships (labi na kanang away) ma speechless man xa kung sa personal dle xa mo tubag... sa txt ra gyud niya ma ipa buhagay iyang ge bati.. unsa diay angay buhaton nako ani doc??
By the way she`s still at teen age..


Ganiha Pud doc nag palit ko ug snacks niya this afternoon then i told her na..

"mhie nag palit ko ug snacks nimo" ni kalit man sya ug ingon nga unya nlng Busy kaayo ko..
So murag nasuko xad ko ad2 kay ge reject akong ge hatag nya murag ni taas pud ako pride ad2 gamay wla koy gana managad.." so until now wla jud nako na hatag...

[chinody]

walay pride2x basta when it comes to love bro.. dapat.. give without expecting something in return.. padayun lang gihapon bro.. ayaw nang pride2x..

[anjerika]

basig di pa kaayo siya comfortable. just because uyab namo doesn't mean she's ready to be all out sa iyang feelings nimo. especially when she thinks she doesn't want you to get hurt too. anyway, you will reach that level of openness soon madugay.

[anjerika]

Nice to have found this thread.

Anyway, i would like to share a situation from a good friend and would appreciate if there's anyone who would like to share their thoughts with this. I know this might sound like the usual story, but if you can spare me some thoughts, i would really love to hear your opinions and help convince my friend on how stupid she is.

"I have an officemate, a few years my senior,and single like me. And in the past year, we have been hanging out almost everyday. He used to drive me home everyday, talk about our lives, dreams, families, etc. But it never felt like 'dating'. (Well, being the proud and independent person that I am, I never made any thing out of it or at least showed that I was romantically interested even though i knew i was starting to really like him.) This went on for more than 6 months --eating out, drinking, sleeping drunk in his car, endless flirting-- until he told me that he was planning to date this girl. This girl that our other officemate hooked him up with. Since I was in no plan to show i was interested nor did i think that he was serious about this girl, i encouraged him. So it goes without saying that i suggested all the things he should do in dating this girl. Even to the point of constructing his text messages for the girl, etc. Most of the time, he complained that the girl was rather plain, boring, and conservative. With that, i took to mind that that he was never serious. So it was quite a surprise for me when after 2 weeks of courtship, they became an item. Shocked because i thought it was not serious and that he was partially interested in me, i stopped the whole lets-talk-everyday-on-what-you-should-do-next. I told him he's already in the relationship and its only right that he does things his way and not with my advices all the time. But even during this time, he voluntarily complains to me about the girl, on how she's too silent, boring, frugal, etc. and all those times, i just kept silent.
I was just too annoyed. I mean we flirt for several months, drop me for someone else and constantly complain to me about it?? Cmon.
So i chose to enjoy my own life and stopped hanging out with him.
Then after 2 months, he started asking me out again--this time with his girlfriend. They would drop by my place, or invite me dinner, and drink together, etc. One time he offhandly commented, "Turuan mo nga tong girlfriend ko.."
Anyway, i found it to be a friendly thing lang. Til one night.
He asked me to go with him once to buy presents for girlfriend. Then we had dinner and a few drinks after.
Needless to say, we both got drunk and ended up sleeping together.
Of course, i felt all emotional. I like this guy. This guy who chose to date someone else, this guy who complains to me about this someone else...and this guy who i considered dear to me.

I know he just used me. But i couldnt bring myself to hate him or delete him out of my life. I tried.
But after i ignored him for 2months, we had a chance to hang out again (remember we're officemates) and bam, slept together again.

I honestly do not know what to do with him."

I vote, kill him. haha What do you think?

you've allowed yourself to be used. sorry but for me you look desperate. though nothing wrong about being a friend nga tigluwas niya, it's great to be there in times of trouble but you've gone too far. i've had this same situation before, angay ko niya and everytime he breaks up with his gf ako ang takbuhan and it wasn't easy coz it breaks your heart to see him get hurt yet it also breaks your heart coz there would never be the two of you. for me lang ha, it's not going to be healthy on your part to keep standing there waiting in the wings when he will be yours. we don't know what's going on with these kind of men but i bet they view us as the "convenient friends", naka standby lang, duty on post kon manginahanglan silag tabang. again, para lang sa ako, pangita og para sa imo jud for real.

[rr_sipat]

@aGoi...Gihimo raka niyang panakip butas sis, unsa-on nagpakabuta bungol man ka sa imo gugma niya gud, gwapo ug arangan jud ning lakiha kay naa man wheels.
Maybe comfortable jud ka ani niya sis...poor heart. though it was hard to refuse him coz officemate man gud mo, taga-adlaw magkita...
My advice is fine nalang ug lain work kanang di mo magkita, den avoid communicating with him,
Keep busy urself on anything else kanang hilig nimo buhaton, then ask guidance.

[DocLove]

doc pa tambag ko.. naa koy probz ba..

sa ako gf now 5 months nami.. mauwawon Kaayo sya as in!... nya kung mag storyaanay me about sa amu relationships (labi na kanang away) ma speechless man xa kung sa personal dle xa mo tubag... sa txt ra gyud niya ma ipa buhagay iyang ge bati.. unsa diay angay buhaton nako ani doc??
By the way she`s still at teen age..


Ganiha Pud doc nag palit ko ug snacks niya this afternoon then i told her na..

"mhie nag palit ko ug snacks nimo" ni kalit man sya ug ingon nga unya nlng Busy kaayo ko..
So murag nasuko xad ko ad2 kay ge reject akong ge hatag nya murag ni taas pud ako pride ad2 gamay wla koy gana managad.." so until now wla jud nako na hatag...

Hi there, thanks for somehow trusting me or adding me up as a person who could somehow help you out with this problem of yours. Kaw na may sabi na 5months pa lang kayo, so siguro hindi pa enough yung time nyo sa bawat isa. Maybe you need to spend more time with each other and start asking her a lot of questions about her family so you would understand why is she reacting that way. This will help to develop trust and maybe she will end up opening everything to you in the long run. Mao sad ni ang disadvantage kung bata pa kaayo imong uyab kay la pa gyud buot intawon. Well if kaya mong tiisin yung ugali nya sa ngayon hanggang sa magmature sya eh di hala padayon.

[DocLove]

Nice to have found this thread.

Anyway, i would like to share a situation from a good friend and would appreciate if there's anyone who would like to share their thoughts with this. I know this might sound like the usual story, but if you can spare me some thoughts, i would really love to hear your opinions and help convince my friend on how stupid she is.

"I have an officemate, a few years my senior,and single like me. And in the past year, we have been hanging out almost everyday. He used to drive me home everyday, talk about our lives, dreams, families, etc. But it never felt like 'dating'. (Well, being the proud and independent person that I am, I never made any thing out of it or at least showed that I was romantically interested even though i knew i was starting to really like him.) This went on for more than 6 months --eating out, drinking, sleeping drunk in his car, endless flirting-- until he told me that he was planning to date this girl. This girl that our other officemate hooked him up with. Since I was in no plan to show i was interested nor did i think that he was serious about this girl, i encouraged him. So it goes without saying that i suggested all the things he should do in dating this girl. Even to the point of constructing his text messages for the girl, etc. Most of the time, he complained that the girl was rather plain, boring, and conservative. With that, i took to mind that that he was never serious. So it was quite a surprise for me when after 2 weeks of courtship, they became an item. Shocked because i thought it was not serious and that he was partially interested in me, i stopped the whole lets-talk-everyday-on-what-you-should-do-next. I told him he's already in the relationship and its only right that he does things his way and not with my advices all the time. But even during this time, he voluntarily complains to me about the girl, on how she's too silent, boring, frugal, etc. and all those times, i just kept silent.
I was just too annoyed. I mean we flirt for several months, drop me for someone else and constantly complain to me about it?? Cmon.
So i chose to enjoy my own life and stopped hanging out with him.
Then after 2 months, he started asking me out again--this time with his girlfriend. They would drop by my place, or invite me dinner, and drink together, etc. One time he offhandly commented, "Turuan mo nga tong girlfriend ko.."
Anyway, i found it to be a friendly thing lang. Til one night.
He asked me to go with him once to buy presents for girlfriend. Then we had dinner and a few drinks after.
Needless to say, we both got drunk and ended up sleeping together.
Of course, i felt all emotional. I like this guy. This guy who chose to date someone else, this guy who complains to me about this someone else...and this guy who i considered dear to me.

I know he just used me. But i couldnt bring myself to hate him or delete him out of my life. I tried.
But after i ignored him for 2months, we had a chance to hang out again (remember we're officemates) and bam, slept together again.

I honestly do not know what to do with him."

I vote, kill him. haha What do you think?

Alam mo, maybe you should try to ask him personally kung ano na ba talaga kayo para maklaro kung unsa man gyud ang iyang tan-aw sa imo at ng di ka umaasa specially na may nangyari na sa inyong dalawa. Do you really love the guy? Kasi most of the time ay namimiss-interpret natin ang love, akala mo yun na yun but the thing is baka naman akala mo love mo na sya sa dahilang palagi kayong nagsasama?

[zzexniwp312]

Hi there, thanks for somehow trusting me or adding me up as a person who could somehow help you out with this problem of yours. Kaw na may sabi na 5months pa lang kayo, so siguro hindi pa enough yung time nyo sa bawat isa. Maybe you need to spend more time with each other and start asking her a lot of questions about her family so you would understand why is she reacting that way. This will help to develop trust and maybe she will end up opening everything to you in the long run. Mao sad ni ang disadvantage kung bata pa kaayo imong uyab kay la pa gyud buot intawon. Well if kaya mong tiisin yung ugali nya sa ngayon hanggang sa magmature sya eh di hala padayon.

ahh ok2.. cge salamat doc.. hehehe more power to you!..

[DocLove]

ahh ok2.. cge salamat doc.. hehehe more power to you!..

You're very much welcome. God Bless...

[aGoi..]

Alam mo, maybe you should try to ask him personally kung ano na ba talaga kayo para maklaro kung unsa man gyud ang iyang tan-aw sa imo at ng di ka umaasa specially na may nangyari na sa inyong dalawa. Do you really love the guy? Kasi most of the time ay namimiss-interpret natin ang love, akala mo yun na yun but the thing is baka naman akala mo love mo na sya sa dahilang palagi kayong nagsasama?

It's so hard to ask without fearing rejection. But I know i have to. The question though is when?

Sometimes, I don't even want to make a big deal about it since I know I allowed myself to be in that situation. I mean I know he has a girlfriend, I know it's wrong. In the end, parang kasalanan ko lang din lahat.

I'm not sure if i love him. But i must like him a lot for me to allow him to do this to me.

Thanks for the insights DocLove.