Too much complications..H-E-L-P me!!!!

[i-c-u-p]

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It sounds like both your NATURE is not aligned...
I believe this did not happened just recent, they are stacked emotional disturbance that you fail to understand and resolved to. Remember that learning is most achieved with failure and adversities. I believe you both are not connected to start with, chances are you commit out of Economic stability and and financial happiness.
On the contrary do not limit your decision because you stress more on what people around you, friends, family and neighbors may think of you. Life's ultimate goal is happiness. These can be fulfilled with honesty then taking courageous steps-getting married to your husband is one of those, unfortunately you are doing it for the wrong reasons. You are actually doing him a favor if you decided to end the relationship-for it looks like your husband is not as happy as you are. Do not wait for the time that you succomb to extreme sadness and so hurt that you despice man and its hard to get back to being social, you need to avoid these.
The Common things that resulted to a Ruined Relationship are
1. Resistance - something that you keep things to yourself even though it did not gives you pleasure, and you say nothing, you did not make things known by your partner.
2. Resentment -
3. Rejection - You overreact things, SIMPLE things, because you've build to hate the relationship. You are the one who look like the idiot at this stage. Worse this can be overtly or covertly done or expressed. This are the kinds of personality you see mostly in your workplace where someones character seems so bitter to everything. They intimidate, and descriminate.
4.Eventually this becomes a Repression - you are like roommate, no passion,...mostly caused by anger. It shuts of the emotion of love. This when you pour out stuff at the outside world....You see this co worker who stays longer hours at work....take 2 jobs for no reason or work overtime even though they dont get paid....Worse...they found love to someone else....This is where you find FULFILLMENT...Instant pleasure...When you are still together at this stage its mostly comfort and stability. THIS IS THE TIME TO STEP UP!!!

The solutions is to be aware and understand what is it all about.......

I guess i have to stop here...I may have posted more than whats needed.
Good Luck!

[maitoots]

^^ so true..

[mataid]

@ Van: I bear that in mind. And I agree, sulat is a good idea...I may try that. Thank u..thank u..thank u..

@ sweetplayer: I wish I do. Or else, I won't bother to make a posting here..and published my dramas.

@ cool: pila kaha ibayad sa mmk if ako ni ipadala ako story? LOL

@ vanav: No worries. I appreciate your opinion. However, there are things that we have no control over and we cannot predict and expect what will happen next. I think I know what marriage is all about before I let myself got into it..that's why I am seeking advice here..trying to sort things out. I am torn between sa pag reserve something for myself and bahala nalang na mag antos ko ani just for the sake of not being immoral and unethical.

@ maitoots: You are right. I did try settling the issues already..but I will try it again..and this time, i'll make sure to give my best shot. thank you.

[maitoots]

@ maitoots: You are right. I did try settling the issues already..but I will try it again..and this i'll make sure to give my best shot. thank you.

your welcome if you have tried enough already.. give yourself a break.. you deserve to be treated nicely. if you think that your husband does not deserve you and that the relationship is hurting you as a wife and as a person already, i guess there is no point in staying. i don't believe in staying just because you have to.. stay because you want to.. good luck

[vanav]

sorry maybe i was wrong the way i deliver my point, maybe before u settle to get married, u should have understand how a married life goes, but then my advice wont affect anymore in the situation u have now, so as other people says, u must talk about and settle things up, all relationship will gone bad because of a simple non-intimate/less communication with each other. try asking pointing each others weaknesses and strengths, or the things both parties needed and not neccesary, the happiness u needed is not on other guys presence, but within the both of you(you and husband), its just like a phone call, communication is just like a network, just for my situation ok, i really hate talking to my girlfriend with the network we are using, that when the coverage is not that good, i hate it when it turned very chuppy, i can't understand what she is talking about, that leads me not to get interested with the conversation, and i wanted to end the conversation even though i really miss her, so we decided to swap network with a wide coverage that makes our call clearer. as for the point, the communication between the two of you is not that clear, which leads to misunderstanding, so clear communication is a must, so maybe u need an intimate one on one or with experts advice to work on detailed problems, try to work things out, but then if nothing will work out, life must go on. just put urself back together and make the best out of you. ENGINEERING, u can't solve a problem without knowing the formula and understanding the problem. problems in the world have all its formulas, we just have to find it. that's y there are friends, families, and experts to help us with this problems.. i hope, you and your huband will bring back the joy and sweetness u had. god will make a way. god bless

[arndtnelson]

Though im still young and still a lot to learn, to be married is really a commitment jd, nd kailangan na love jd nmu xa despite na ingana.. Learn to love your husband/wife as a whole jd..

[okoy]

@mataid: There are different situations that can be applied to every problem, that is first finding the root cause, why your husband is like that? or your relationship is like that?

There's a problem we have encountered here but later on it turned out that the person making the thread is the problem as to his attitude and behavior towards her girlfriend, who later decided to marry another guy. And most of us are already giving advices of this and that but its not the girl's fault.

So please give us some info's about your marital relationships, from there we can start.. If its too private to tell, then analyze it on your own. If can't or still looking for another opinion, just send me a private message or any of us in istorya whom you think can give u some effective advices.

[tamse]

mataid: ai sis.. till death do us apart gud nah... let him go if he wants to be free lang sis...

[monrose29]

kapoya sa basa sa tanan tambag oi. maka remember man lang pod ta sa atong kagahapon nga gi takuban og bagol... hehehee..

bitaw girl.. ayaw lang pag dali2x girl..kay wa gyud pag mahay mag una...e fixed sa na imong problema before ka mangita og lain problema.. hehehehe...karon problemado ka ayo ka... ikaw kaha sa imo lang desisyon maka ayo kaha sa inyo situation makig kita ka ana guy nga minyo man diay ka nya problemado pa gyud.. istead of imo na sulbaron imo problem. maka puno ra na sa inyo problema... agwantaha lang usa ng mga kainit or unsa ba kong ma o man gali na ang problema.... think of something else nga balik inyo pinagsamahan katong init pa ang pandesal.. este init pa inyong pag minahalay nga nag plano namo nga mag minyo..we know deli in ana ka sayon buhaton pero salig lang sa gino-o og pag ampo lang nga e guide ka niya sa imong mga desisyon aron deli ka masa-ag sa sayop nga agi-anan..

ayaw palabi ka attached anang mga lalaki nga ma ayo ka ayo nimo...huna2x imong situation.. ayaw padala sa imong kamingaw or unsa ba nah imong na feel nga imong gipangita kay wala mahatag sa imong bana.... after all.. bana gihapon na nmo sya.. kong unsay problema ninyo.. kamo ra duha makasulbad ana.. deli lain tawo....

good luck...

[emnace09]

kmusta man inyu relaxon sa uyab pa mo??