
Originally Posted by
Ryan Tan Yu
With all due respect, I don't believe anyone is qualified to tell someone how to live his life ...
No flame intended Sir ha, but from my perspective one must live his life the way he believes, regardless of whether right or wrong it is as we see it. I have met people who have achieved true satisfaction in life. Even when that person probably has less than 10k of financial circulation each month, he is one worth being jealous of. Why?
Life isn't about being rich, having savings, being better than others. At least that's the way I see it.
Now regarding cirilae's spending, as advised by his parents, I don't think we are qualified to judge his parents. Just because someone ate his Oreo without dunking in milk first doesn't mean he didn't know he could. For all we know, the parents may have found life's true meaning, and are trying to teach him just that. By saying it's "bad advise" we're projecting ourselves to know better man gud, we don't even know his/her parents.
This is a lesson I've recently learned. I remember being the happiest person, back when I earned 200 pesos per day. I could go home, lay down, smile and sleep smiling. I was very contented. I had no hobby, no access to Internet, my small world rotated around going to work, coming home and just letting time pass by.
Things changed. I got gadgets, computers, a hobby, businesses, much greater income. But guess what, my standard for happiness raised to seemingly-unreachable height. Now I sleep 2-4 hours per day, I've two pages of undone tasks in my to-do list. I developed a hobby, had to give it up to make way for business and other priorities. I'm happy, especially each time I come home to my daughter and wife, but I've grown 'less-happy' without a doubt. Wifey and I once had this deeply-intellectual discussion about our lives, and we both agreed: "We were happier then"
This is some sh!t I don't usually tell, I've just grown a little too grumpy to give advice. But let's pause for a moment to think about what we truly want. We have savings? We have a better life than others? We feel good about ourselves? But then, is that our true happiness?
In an effort to regain our contentment and happiness, I'm seeking to get a place less infected by human civilization. Bukid-style ba. No phones or anything. Akong mga negosyo diri probably akong manghod ako pa-tiwason or whatever. Now I understand nganong akong Papa kontento na lang sa simpleng kinabuhi'. I sometimes brag [only to him] about my big financial and business achievements (especially having big companies as my clients), he gives me a meaningful smile. Now I get the message. "You have so much more to learn, son."
So anyway back to topic. I know you all feel good about bragging about your savings, and I am not qualified to question or ridicule that. But my message is, rethink your happiness. I could feel good about narrating my achievements and my unacknowledged participation/contribution in big marketing gimmicks, but I'd rather say I'm 23 and only have 1k in my savings account right now.
I'm still looking forward to living a happy, content and simple life uncontrolled by money. But sometimes I begin to doubt its likeliness to come true.