Long Distance Relationships

[viola]

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I myself am in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now. What is important as everyone is saying here is trust and communication with your partner. We have the technologies to make distance shorter diba - texitng, email, chat..

And naa dapat time for visiting. My bf visits me halos every month and i will always make time for him to catch up on the lost days that we were not able to spend time together. Dapat mag agree mo on when he or she can pay you a visit or vice versa. Love is a risk. You just have to take chances on it.

The disadvantage lang sa long distance relationship is kalas ug kwarta. =) But if you love the person naman money is not a hindrance. Love will always find a way!! char..

[M@rv|n]

hmmm dli ko ka relate ani kay mid distance mi ahehe

[katmanduh]

aw basta lang magpadad anan ug sustento ok ra. pero mapasmo gani aw naa may daghan. sometines we need to avoid believing too much. at times ang sustento man ang issue. daw beh naa may daghan karon nga basta sikit lang bigay lang. o say?

[alas]

Consider:

1) online relationships
2) a thousand-mile relationships (e.g. shes/hes now living in a different country)

Please be specific of what kind of relationship you are talking about.

thanks!

[jellyFish]

online relationships

meaning , you havent met yet personally?... hmmm... if thats the case... it might be less stable..


a thousand-mile relationships

will work .. but wont be that easy.. depends on how much foundation youve got going (love, trust, drive to make it work)

[alas]

this is your personally view, i presume. or are saying this in a general manner?

[jellyFish]

personal view lng po

iv few frends who thrive on these kinds of relationship.. some workd while others didnt.. so based on that im putting into words what i thnk about it

[alas]

online relationships are hard. but if you havent met the person jud then i think it is not very harmful. because it is somewhat an open relationship nothing really happened between the two of you. i mean, all you did was type the keyboard (if chatmates) and thats it. the attachment is not that strong compared to other relationships.

for a thousand-mile relationship, it depends on the couple how they assure each other about their relationship. there are some who would like it to be an open relationship, there are others that want it for themselves. it is because they are sharing dream and goals na. and if they are already working then, future na nila ila gina sturyahan. though hard but very promising for both.

[jellyFish]

yeah bitaw noh... nice thoughts

with the online-relationship.. there is some sort of what i myt call a "blind security"... you could bare your soul to someone.. that openly.. being secure of your anonimity. and i see nothing wrong with that. as long as you could find an avenue to be yourself, and not step on someone else's happiness.. then go for it.

for the thousand-mile rel. i salute those who makes it work... ive seen a lot who made it thru, and i am just amazed at how much the distance is worth it considering that now they're happily "together" at last.. hehe.. (hopelessly romantic na naman hahah haaay )

[alas]

i have a friend you is able to keep a long distance relationship with a romanian for more than a year na. hows that? even i was amazed. and they never met. they only used web cams to see each other. and guess what? they even send text messages..hmmm

thousand mile relationship are somewhat the biggest hurdle a couple can have (my point of view). because you know that your partner can never know what you are doing everytime, unlike when youre together. so, it is also a mental challenge for both to really level up their trust and faith. it is not healthy to always think what youre partner is doing. esp the negative thoughts. it is one of the reason of breakup. how can you manage that, its up to the person. how they triumph over that hurdle...it is the greatest story of their lives. and they tend to cherish it for the rest of their lives.