Breaking-Up with my Wife after almost 5 years..I dont have child from her! Unsaon mna nko move on dayon?!HELP!

[bula1980]

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you decided to end your marriage with your wife..question is,did she agreed on it? remember,you are a couple.decisions should be mutual.dili kay ikaw ray gabuot-buot..

i understand nga murag dili na gyud healthy inyong pagpuyo.cge na mog away.but i believe lahat ng bagay nadadaan sa mabuting usapan. (hindi ma-bote ha?) talk things over..be open with each other.kung dili na gyud madala,at least both of you has agreed on a decision to part ways..dili kay ikaw ray gusto.

TS,when you got married,you signed up for "for better or for worst". now asa na man na? gusto nyo kasi lage lang better pero hindi naman kayo gumagawa ng action to achieve it..pagdating naman sa worst,ambilis makapagdecision na hiwalay agad without overcoming obstacles..hindi mo ba naiisip na baka pagsubok lang yan? baka may mga bagay na kelangan nyong matutunan muna?

weigh things over.pag isipan mo at damhin kung kaya mo bang mabuhay ng wala sya..look back and analyze kung bakit mo sya minahal.kung bakit ginusto mo syang makasama habang-buhay. then look forward and see things without her..feel in your heart kung kaya mo ba.

[Ronzkie23]

brader sa akong analyze murag di sguro nimo makaya kay sa imo lang gipamulong diri nga weak kayo ka og love kayo nimo siya , what more kong wala na siya sa imong kiliran ? I suggest brader nga suwayan usa nimo og lakaw palayo pila ka adlaw, go to the province og naa moy probinsya its much better to think away from her para imo sab mahunahuna og maayo unsa maayo nimong buhaton kong wa na siya sa imong kiliran , of course you will feel lonely at first pero kaya lang , much better gani you will go to a place where there its near sa beach kay maayo kayo mamalandong brader nga naa ka daplin sa baybayon makahunahuna ka og maayo ,this is speaking from experience brader , been there done that .

slmt brad.. actually kahilakon kaau ko karon. daghan kaau me kaagi. di rman mga bad memories pati mga good sad.. i know sakit kaau pero lisud mn gud.. gusto ko magbag-o pero di gyud me mahimo mag-usa. mura me mantika og tubig.. love gud nako bro kay gitaban gud nako na xa sauna kay kabit na xa usa ka well-known public official sa city hall (province namo).. sakit jud kaau huna-hunaon bah nga daghan ko nasulti nya mga maot nga nka cause og lala sa amo sitwasyon karon!! nagmahay ko sko mga gpangsulti pero unsaon mn kung masuko ko bsag unsa rman ako masulti gud.. pero wa mn gyud ko mabuhat sa pagkakaron perti jud nako hinaa.. dako kaau gubot ang nahitabo karon nga pra nko murag impossible nmn masolbad.. i guess this is it.. this is the time na jud nga end-up amo 5 years relationship.. yes last option jud nako is mopalayo nya.. but i have better plan pa ana..

[Ronzkie23]

you decided to end your marriage with your wife..question is,did she agreed on it? remember,you are a couple.decisions should be mutual.dili kay ikaw ray gabuot-buot..

i understand nga murag dili na gyud healthy inyong pagpuyo.cge na mog away.but i believe lahat ng bagay nadadaan sa mabuting usapan. (hindi ma-bote ha?) talk things over..be open with each other.kung dili na gyud madala,at least both of you has agreed on a decision to part ways..dili kay ikaw ray gusto.

TS,when you got married,you signed up for "for better or for worst". now asa na man na? gusto nyo kasi lage lang better pero hindi naman kayo gumagawa ng action to achieve it..pagdating naman sa worst,ambilis makapagdecision na hiwalay agad without overcoming obstacles..hindi mo ba naiisip na baka pagsubok lang yan? baka may mga bagay na kelangan nyong matutunan muna?

weigh things over.pag isipan mo at damhin kung kaya mo bang mabuhay ng wala sya..look back and analyze kung bakit mo sya minahal.kung bakit ginusto mo syang makasama habang-buhay. then look forward and see things without her..feel in your heart kung kaya mo ba.

its already too late.. suko na kaau xa nako plus pun-an pa mga istorya2x samot xa kasuko nako.. yes i love her so much.. i hope mkabasa xa ani.. im not perfect husband but in times nga pipiloon ko kung asa sa amo duha e-save.. i rather save her first kysa sko self.. thats how much i love her.. i told her na if masuko ko dli na ako.. pero if malipay ko.. Love kaayo nako xa more than everything.. i lost half part of my life and now im really confused kung asa ko magstart ani.. sayang ang tanan.. sayang..

[Zakary]

brader make sure nga imo siya sultian og magkastorya mo about sa imong plano make sure you also have plan a , b and c. di lalim makig end sa usa ka relasyon but usa sa imong gisulti diri nga ingon ka maldita kayo imong asawa .maldita to the point na kong mag away mo siya ang muyawyaw og maayo ? kana maldita na way pakialam og mag away mo nga dako kayo siyag tingog nga way pakialam sa mga silingan nga makadungog ?

[Ronzkie23]

brader make sure nga imo siya sultian og magkastorya mo about sa imong plano make sure you also have plan a , b and c. di lalim makig end sa usa ka relasyon but usa sa imong gisulti diri nga ingon ka maldita kayo imong asawa .maldita to the point na kong mag away mo siya ang muyawyaw og maayo ? kana maldita na way pakialam og mag away mo nga dako kayo siyag tingog nga way pakialam sa mga silingan nga makadungog ?

both kay siya maldita jud xa.. dako iya tingod pero ako sad modako ko tungod kay suffer mn gud ko depression beffore tungod sa trauma sko life.. then naa sad ko pagka bipolar but ako nmn control.. pero siya murag sugnuran ko nya kna mag-away me.. dali rman ko pakalmahon pero siya if makdungog xa istorya maskin dli tinood... motoo dayon xa. og grabeh pud xa ka selosa nga usahay dli npud tama kay wa sa lugar.. mao na cge awayan namo sauna bro...then every time mag-away me cge nya balik2x sauna..

[bula1980]

you said 'sayang ang tanan,sayang"...

if i am to interpret that,i sense regrets on your part?

here's my question,do you believe in yourself that you did your best already for this relationship to work out? i guess the answer is no coz there are regrets in you.

[Zakary]

brader daghan na man gyud nitabang nimo og advice diri , timbang timbanga gyud og maayo , ayaw anang spur of the moment nga desisyon , weigh things carefully before you will make your final decision , basta make sure as I have told you , be prepared , mentally , emotionally , financially and have your plan a, b , and c. control your emotions kay usahay ra ba mao ni maka pa samot better keep your emotions in check

[jesselyn]

mag counselling mo bro. basin ma tabang pana inyong married life. .

[lovender]

paghunahuna lang usa before ka mu decide bacn d-i mausab.. kung ang usa mahigh blood dapat naa jud magpa ubos nin-ung duha para dili magkadaku n-ung away... normal rman gyud na sa manigtiayon ang mag-away dili jud na malikayan so dapat dili jud na mawala ang open communication sa usag-usa nin-ung duha para magkasinabtanay mu... like magstorya mu na kalma namung duha ug storyahan nin-u inyong mga problema / magsabot mu... open communication jud ang pinaka importante sa manigtiayon ug ang pagsinabtanay... don't forget to pray sad ni God pangayo niya ug lamdag kay usa sad na xa na makatabang sa n-ung hapsay sa n-ung pagpuyo pwede sad mu mu apil ug mga organization sa church.. God bless

[M.A.D.]

At your current mental condition I don't think you have what it takes to do the ultimate. You are clearly depressed and can't think straight and you may have lost appetite in the past few days.

You still can't think straight with what you are going through, separating ways at this point is still not recommended. See a shrink/psychiatrist immediately and have yourself medicated for your depression. At some later point in time, you mood will improve and you will be able to think properly. I do think your depression has contributed to the deterioration of your marriage and it seems your wife can't bear to see you feel sorry for your self.

Your self-pity will go away if you see an professional and let them give you advice on what to do. Your chronic depression is not something that will go away as what most people would tell you when they advice you to just "think positive".

Go see a shrink, take some medication, wait until your mood improves and talk to your wife again. You will be surprised how much improvement you have made in a span of a couple of months.

Lastly, did you know depression, bipolar disorders or other related mental diseases can physically shrink the size of your brain? Think about it. If you keep at your current state, by the time you reach your 40 or 50s your mental condition would be very worse you might already have severe dementia and Alzheimer's.