How to let go ? :'(

[xienyl]

mao d.i nag buwag alam na .... TS first thing to do is fix your post and make it more like everyone can understand and read....mao tingalig nag buwag mo kay dli ka kahibalo mo gamit sa G og Q ....bitaw2x seriously taronga lang imong post its not so hard to replace "C" to "K" = Ko..kaya mo yan TS !


Let Go first that jejemon thing...wahaha

WATEVER ! but I do appreciate your advice though I really DONT need it this time . Other's can understand so I really dont care if you CAN'T ! okay ?!!! tssskkk and one more thing , anq acung EX kasabot ug kahibaw mo basa even if mag gamit ko uq Q instead of G and C instead of K , so stop saying some STUPID stuff , it's not helpful . pfft

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loslosa anang naay letter G nya Q gyud ang gamiton....

mana SIR , ako na gi usab .. okay nah ? dli na LOSLOS ?

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sorry huh ? I was using my phone man gud when I posted . I'll be better next time sir para dli ka maglisud ug sabot .

[my_hEaD_isBIG]

murag kanang imong pagtype sa mga words una nimong sulbaron TS kay ara na nagsugod ang problema. hasola.

[xienyl]

Hi there, first, welcome to the forums.

Based on what you have shared you are in a relationship with a committed to another, you have been raised in a socially proper and moral manner but have made a mistake or have been lead to commit such mistake and now it is consuming you with guilt from the inside, and some advice of close friends or relatives perhaps who are affected one way or another with your liaison.

I am not here to judge, only to give my two cents. You have said it yourself, you believe that what you have is wrong in the eyes of your deity, therefore you also believe to be wrong for you. The guilt that has been festering is nothing but a sign that you still hold to that belief of moral code and want uphold it. on the flip side of the coin is your emotions which I will not question, that you may indeed love him, and having invested so much you feel that you need to protect your relationship even if you had very well went against your belief and up bringing.

How to get through this, no one can tell but you yourself, what I can offer is that you ask yourself some questions, questions simple enough people tend to dismiss.
1. How well do you know yourself? we do what we do because it is how we think who we are.
2. Is it worth it? your relationship that is, to destroy another regardless of their current situation.
3. Can you make the sacrifice? losing respect and even dignity not as a person but as a woman, thus may result to you becoming an outcast from your friends and family.
4. Can you bare the burden? this could be a life long stigma.
5. Last, can he do 3 & 4 for you?

That's all what I can think of with the glimpse you have given us to your life, I sure do hope that you would find your way and stand by it.

- I really appreciate your advice . Thank you very much . It really helps .

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Yet I'm still on the process of letting go, I believe that the best est thing you need to do first is to 'Cut all strings'.. I know the memories will still be there. You cannot just throw it away whether you want it or not but it's the least thing you need if you really want to move on. Sometimes you get paranoid because almost everything reminds you of that person but you have to getaway from it. The first step is always the hardest but you have to realize that there's no other way but to move forward and live your life free from the feelings and memories that are dragging you down. And one last thing is to 'Cry until the last drop'. Cry whenever you want to until there's nothing left. It'll eventually loosen up the burden within you. Good luck!

I'll do that ! Thank you kaayo madaam . Great help

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everything starts with ACCEPTANCE. kung makadawat naka sa reality nga wala najud mo.. everything will just follow. acceptance is the most important part jud. it will be your foundation to letting go and moving on..

- you're right , it's the hardest as well .. LISUDA uyyy ! tsk

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sorry TS pero nag nganga man ko nagbasa sa imu post uy. tsk. guba ang letter "G" sa keyboard?

not really , I edited it for you who gave me a little consideration . My apology as well .

[xienyl]

murag kanang imong pagtype sa mga words una nimong sulbaron TS kay ara na nagsugod ang problema. hasola.

- LOL , lisud kaau sabton ? awww .. sorry ! ako na gi edit ..

[xienyl]

For those who were not able to understand the post that I shared , I am so sorry , that was the first thread that I made and I was just used in using Q instead of G and C instead of K and I wasnt thinking that time nga naa d i dli kasabot .. hehe naa jud d i maglisud .. SORRY kaayo mga MAAM ug SIR . d na mausab !

and ..

For those who gave their pieces of advice , I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU a lot , kay wa jud tawn mo ne parehas sa uban nga nagbugal bugal and instead naningkamot jud tawn mo nga masabtan ko bisan ang uban dli . Salamat sa advice ninyo , great help kaayo especially karun nga I really need it the most . Thanks again .

- Awesome day ahead everyone .
- Continue to be a blessing !
- Stay happy !

[xienyl]

kakapoy sad nimo ....

first off, you came here to ASK for advice and people gave that to you. You should be prepared for whatever reaction they might give.

and if your attitude is like this :: . that statement of yours negates the purpose of your thread. and if you continue like this, well, better think of a new username .....



edit lang ni nako .... kay nag dungan ta ug post ... salamat na nagpaubos ka sa imong pride ..

as for your problem ... just keep in mind your life doesn't revolve around your ex, you're still young you still have a lot to experience in life ... think about yourself and be selfish sometimes FOR YOURSELF ...

- yes , I really WASNT prepared that's why I reacted that way , not to mention this is my first thread , but anyway SIR , thanks for the stuff that you just said , kapoy man gud sad huna huna new username nea love sad kaau na nako ako username now .. hehe , I'll be vigilant with my words next time and will prepare my heart as well for the next coming comments .
Thanks again , good day !

[SnowPH]

kakapoy sad nimo ....

first off, you came here to ASK for advice and people gave that to you. You should be prepared for whatever reaction they might give.

and if your attitude is like this that statement of yours negates the purpose of your thread. and if you continue like this, well, better think of a new username .....

Definitely harsh but true.

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Good luck, TS

[engrkarlneal]

ok TS. ako nlng gisabot imu post. hehe.

hmm. ask pd ko TS ug nganu sayop man in the eyes of GOD? naay third party? kabit2x? in.ana? kung mao na ky kelangan gyd ka mubuwag ky tinoud sayop man jud na. Pero kung sa imu question nga "how to let go?", hmm kanang keep yourself busy lng. madugay makalimot raka anang imu feeling. i know it's hard because i've been through pd ana. lisod kau kalimtan, lisod kaau mu let go. hangtod karon i remember the feeling gihapon. that's why i'm always keeping myself busy para pud dili ko makahuna2x ana. ana lng gd.

[medwarc]

at first sis, lisod jud na but anam-anami lang ug putol ug contact niya like cp. location pud mu matter na kay if cge pud mo magka kita kay silingan mo, murag lisod jud na and dako ang chances nga magpadayun lang gihapon mo sa inyoha bawal na relationship...

[Meeyah_16]

If he is going to cheat with you to someone else dako kaayo ang chance nga he will cheat ON you with someone else... ambot ug tama ba ang gra

TS samtang di pa kaayo lawum ang bangag inyo gikalot, gawas na daan samtang kaya pa...
about moving on.. ingon pa nila: Sa sugod ra na sakit...