Unsa man gyud iya gibati ..Your ideas beh "Women"

[hobie]

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bro, confused rana xa... mas comfortable xa nga friends mo. but if wla xa nimind after adtong nahitabo, kay mukuyog pa gud xa nimo, then subconciously she likes you A LOT, pro wla palang jd niabot ang moment na she has to take action or make a decision if it should move on to the next level. right now, comfort zone niya inyo friendship... suwayi daw ug likay2x bro.hahaha confident rana xa nga even without commitment, mustay raka.. and im thinking you gave her the idea na ok lng pud ka nga friends mo.

try daw ug palayo lng sah niya bro... not necessarily nga mustop kag kita2x or text2x niya... but try to make it difficult for her to get your company... pra mafeel niya ang imo importance. and that maybe dli lng friendship iya gipangita nimo. kay kng dli ka available, iya mana mameasure kng unsa imo worth.. kay if you're just a friend to her, kng dli ka available, then she'd ask another friend to go with her.. pro if she does have a feeling for you that's more than a friend's, then marealize niya nga any other friends wont do.. it has to be you. gae pud ug competition pra mas bongga. and by competition, ayw ug ipakita niya nga murag ikw ang naganahan ug lain na gurl, just make her feel nga someone appreciates you. kay bacn nuon if ipafeel nimo nga naa kay ganahan lain, mgthink xa gaduwa2x raka. ^_^

thank you sis ..i like your idea gyud. im too busy today and the coming 2 days ..so mgpalay ko for awhile ..i'll try to check if mgpangita bah siya like what @orvillejoy suggested na pud hehe ..

[ella lee]

comment ko ha... gurl man ko.. ehem... from my point of view.. as of the moment bro friendship ra jud iyaha ika offer sa imoha, dont push it lang sah.. at the same time ayaw lang stop...let it be a reminder to her nga consistent jud ka bro.... cherish the moments na mag kuyog mo and make it a point nga memorable jud inyong bonding together..pero ayaw lang pud pa labi bro ha.... dont expect lang pud too much...

nice pud ang friendship foundation sa romantic nga relationship... *wink

[ilovedogs]

im a girl too... pro muamin ko na we realllllyyyyy like attention. and sometimes we do things to prolong the courting phase kay we like to be adored.hahaha unya there are times na we dont decide right away if sugton ang laki, until we are threatened that this guy might just get away. selfishness ra gyud na sa babae kana muingon nga "be there lang always..." churva2x. for me that's sadistic. talawan lang ang babae ana kay wla pa sila kadecision jd what to do about you, so they like you to just stay put. and the only way to make them decide is if you make her see na you won't be around holding your lovelife off just for the sake of hearing her say "YES".

PERO before you do that, dapat you've given the gurl an ample time to see that you're serious about her and that she's not just your current "HIGH". pra if muabot na xa sa point na she has to really decide, iya maevaluate na you've been true to her, and she was just an ass making you wait so long because she can't decide right away.hahaha

[yvonne6]

she trusts u as a friend and she feels secure nga ikaw iyang kauban kaysa sa laing taw. as a woman, i like ur being patient, wala ka mamugos or magdali. pero sa karon, i dont think, she has feelings for u na but u can get there. when? only time knows. just continue being nice to her. its a bonus na gani nga nahan siya nga ikaw iyang kuyog. just be nice and stay as gentleman as u r, in some ways, nahan nana siya gamay nimo kay nahan man siya mo kuyog nimo but not as a bf yet, not yet. just be patient. i guess maabot ra gihapon mo nga magka kamo, ayaw lang pagdali

[bebe filcher]

bro, I have a friend who's been this kind of relationship.
they hang out to places she's never been, every time the girl has problems it was that guy who'd comfort her, in fact, the guy would sometimes send her off to work then fetch her home.
they spent the nights texting with each other. everyday, they communicate but they don't even talk about their relationship. then sometimes they kiss goodbye and something happened in one night. After ato d na pod nahan mo txtx akong friend kay nakiwawan na xa. mo tx xa for mercy's sake..hehe

the guy admitted to her that he loves her but murag for her it was just merely friendship pwo mu reply man sad ako friend na ok ra daw pwo at that point d jud xa ready because pressured pod at home. It was a love of being more than friends and less than lovers.

murag ge himo xag escape sa problems and ma relieve ra xa hanging with such person kay comfortable man au xa.
relate jud au ang story na the meantime guy bro.

for me bro, just like them ang naka benefit sa relationship is ang girl ra jud, to think the guy has done so much more for her and the least he could get is friendship to that girl ra jud.
wa xa mahimo coz the girl can't commit to him jud and karon ang girl nana lain uyab and ang guy nana pod xa ya own girl pwo they still communicate and less often see each other.

In the end, wa ra jud cla nagkadayon sa tanan2 ge buhat sa guy to my friend..

[miramax]

"Expect more from yourself than from others. Because expectation from others hurts you a lot, while expectation from you inspires a lot.... ! "

I'm sorry to say this to you bro, this is a very common to us that we find somebody we trust, we feel so secure , so comfortable to be with. In short, you're such a good buddy, a good company to share life with.
But it does not mean that I'm open to commit myself to you.
Kasagaran man gud namo career woman, ambot lang, basta lahi man gud ang concept bah bro towards commitments & relationships.
Probably one of the reasons why most career women are hard to get or find the right lifetime partners for them.
Morag permi bah "mind over matter system" Dili sad sa ingon nga tungod kay naay "set of standards to consider" basta lang jud brad.

[hobie]

hala ..makatawa ko sa mga replies kay @ella lee and @ilovedogs encouraging kau tapos @yvonne6 safe somewhere in the middle then @bebe filcher and @miramax kay somewhere not favorable to my side ..hehe

thank you so much sa mga replies sa mga 5 ladies mentioned ..it seems that i still have a lot of things to learn gyud. lisod kau noh, mka. imagine mo na you like this very person pero you have to control yourself hmmm ..i may not have a lot but really my intentions are very true, no pretensions.

@bebe filcher ..sis kana imu gi share bah, ngana gyud kau mi duha, murag carbon copy ..only time can tell, kung kinsa namo duha ang mauna to be with another then I just hope we will be happy with our decisions. Ang ako lang, atleast I tried, I don't want that a day will come that I will wonder what if?

[hobie]

For now, ako gi buhat kay kadto mga suggestions sa mga first posters, kana keep a distance for awhile para mgpangita siya nako ..hehe ..mailhan gyud ni after 3-5 days ..

if wala gyud, ako napud mo dikit, persistent is the right term hehe or patience? haha ..whatever it is, i'll stick around kay na inspired ko nila ella,ilovedogs and yvonne. But, at the same time I wont be expecting too much like what miramax and bebe suggested.

Its time to give myself more time gyud and expect more from myself

Thank you for your thoughts. I love you all

[hobie]

nadawat na nako tanan ..we're friends hehe ..
time for plan B ..

thank you thank you guys for your ideas ..

[bodacious_babe]

glad to know you've accepted the reality, bro.. I was in the same situation not too long ago. Very liberating ang feeling nga ma accept nimo that sometimes fate does not work in our favor.. \

The right one will come along, and whe she does... it will be the most wonderful feeling of all! God bless!