Clingy, Manipulative and a Nagger Boyfriend: What to do?

[estoyra]

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wel sis i dnt want 2 take sides but i undrstnd ur bf... dba kta muingon ta nga dpat salig ta sa usat usa? sometimes mn gud bsag salig pa ka sa uyab nmo der wud alwys b fear nga madala ug temptatxn imong uyab and ang bhaton sa imong uyab 2 make u safe nga wlay mkaduol nmo ug temptatxns mao na nga possesive au sya n vry strict ky hadlok mn sya mawala k ug makuha k sa lain... and i assume vice versa na sya dli lng ky sa laki, dba kmo sad gals dli sd mo gus2 gro nga nay mga babae magduol2 sa inyong mga uyab ky bsi matintal or wat labi na ang mga muduol nga babae ky igaton? im not tellin sak2 imong uyab bt u shud tok 2 him n make him fil secured na bsag knsa pa muduol nmo or bsag knsa pa mgparamdam nmo dli ka muentertain nla cos ur taken already n u loved ur man dats ol its jst a matter of undrstandin... jar...!!! hehe...

[pigrah]

oh god gurl! wake up and smell the coffee
guys like these will make ur life miserable.
u must enjoy ur life. do u like it when he's holding u down by the neck like that?
agoi! ka bata pa ninyo. enjoy ur freedom usa. enjoy ur friends.
this guy is CLEARLY holding u back on ur happiness, on whats good to come.
sos! maka sabot ra unya ka if ma guwang2 nka. faet!

[bbnescia]

Just give the control freak an ultimatum. If he attempts to control you again, leave him.

You're still schooling anyway. Focus on that. Why should you allow yourself to be manipulated like a puppet on a string?

aii... agree ko ani sis! korek jd kayo ni nga advise.. unsa may pagtuo niya sa imo?robot? kay pede ra ka niya ma remote control...sus kung ga skol pa ka mas maayo imo sa na e cool off sis, mas maayo na.kay para maka lie-low kas mga text nga maka irita..bati jd kayo na nga kinaiya nga gipakita sa imoha..kung love ka niya dapat hayaan ka niyang makig mingle sa imo friends.unsa may gusto niya?sa iya ra mutuyok ang imong kalibotan?wa siya malifong? ang minyo gani kinahanglan pud makig mingle ug friends though limited nalang pero need na nato kay diha man pud ta mo grow as a person gud.d man pud pede sa usa ra ka taw motuyok ang imong attention.. d na healthy para sa imoha ug sa iyaha mismo.

[rl]

INSECURE ............... paeta dako kaau na problem

[lorainz]

hay,,,
nakarelate jud ko sa imong situation girl..
same thing did happen to me with my ex bf..
it's really hard for me to say nga wala na mi ky in the first place i do really love him..
but just because of that stupid attitude he had, i'd quit...yes!! i did it..
kana bitaw na bawalan ka molakaw, u have to inform him first whatever you do, wherever you go, ug kinsang mga tawhana ang imong kauban....i nid to name all the person i'm to be with, but i must be sure nga kaila siya tanan sa ako mga koyog...as in makasapot jud to the max girl...
i was able to survive that attitude for almost a year..but then i realized na it's too much, i nid freedom and peace of my mind..
mao to naki pgbreak ko niya last march lang jud..
and as of now..happy nako sa ako relationship kay ang ako bf now is very opposite with my ex's attitude and mature na sd xa ug huna2..then i realize na wa jud d.i ko masayop sa akong gibuhat kay happy na man ko now, although sometimes makaremember gihapon ko niya and ma missed sd nako xa..but that's all my past...

i have to move on,,,

and it's your choice na lng jud girl if padayonon ba ninyo inyo relationship,,
ky para nako d jud ta happy if in.ana ang attitude sa guy, even if you love each other..
as what i had xeperience, i know he loves me ky nakita mn jud nako ug unsa iya mga sacrifices but sobra na man gd..

more power...

[Soul_Captive]

Hmmm...Clingy, Manipulative and Nagger are best ways to describe girls than guys..Just my two cents..

[emjee17]

Thanks guys for all of your advices! Naka-refresh jud sa akong huna-huna. Anyway, I just decided nga it really is the right time to stop this relationship.

Karun lang adlawa kay wala nako mu reply sa iyang mga text, ug wa ko makigkita niya sa school. Though I really wanted to see him, nagpugong jud ko kay i know i am doing the best and the right thing for myself.

I'm very happy sa inyung mga advices, most especially:
"oh god gurl! wake up and smell the coffee
guys like these will make ur life miserable.
u must enjoy ur life. do u like it when he's holding u down by the neck like that?
agoi! ka bata pa ninyo. enjoy ur freedom usa. enjoy ur friends.
this guy is CLEARLY holding u back on ur happiness, on whats good to come.
sos! maka sabot ra unya ka if ma guwang2 nka. faet!"

*I thought i was doomed to deserve unhappiness. I thought okay ra na ma tied down kay nana may uyab. Pero nanubra na ba, sobra na kay ko katuok. Ambot ug nganong insecure kay na siya nga arangan man unta siyag nawng, and he knows how much i love him- pero still, mao lang gihapon ang iyang gipakita.

" and it's your choice na lng jud girl if padayonon ba ninyo inyo relationship,,
ky para nako d jud ta happy if in.ana ang attitude sa guy, even if you love each other..
as what i had xeperience, i know he loves me ky nakita mn jud nako ug unsa iya mga sacrifices but sobra na man gd.."

*Yes. It is really my choice. Wow! It took me almost 9 months para makakita ug klaro sa realidad sa iyang batasan. Thanks to all of you, kay if walay mu ingon nako aning mgabutanga, still magpakabuta lang sad gyud siguro ko hangtods hangtod. Don't worry, hapit na mahitabo ang grand event. Hehe.

Nagpa bugnaw lang sa kos akong utok ba kay lisod na ra ba kay kog utok if mu buto ko after all those months.

[xxSTARLIGHT]

he's very p0ssessive. . obsess cgru na nimu mam. . kp0i k.Au na n.Ana. mksap0t. . aq uyb ky mypgka p0ssessive mn pd bt naa sa Lugar nd if mu expLain nq daLi ra sd ksab0t and wa na daun away. . pasabta dw na imu uyb nga wa pka naminy0 and naa pkai auth0rity mkgmingLe sa im0ng mga friends. if d ksab0t,aw nganu mg.Ant0s pmn ka? it's ur ch0ice kng mk.Agwanta ka sa n.Ana nga partner. .

[rennyvonne]

oi oi oi... dili na ni sakto.... ok ra nga dapat xa makahibaw kung asa ka but dili xa dapat magbuot... unsa minyo na mo? pskot nlng jud niya... na possessive bah buwagi na...

[emjee17]

I actually broke up with him just yesterday. Long story made short: "he admitted that he was/is possessive".. karun he wanted a last chance kay dili kuno makaya nga wala ko. Ug nakita man nako nga di jud diay niya kaya. Pero, is it too late na ba? Kay para nako, murag it is na kay karun ra siya naka realize nga nanubra ra iyang ka possessive which is unhealthy na.. He cried actually, i saw real tears and i felt he was sincere.. pero mind vs heart ni run..

my heart wants to give him another chance pero my mind wants to stick with the decision.

SIGH!