BreadWinner - kaya pa ba?

[chad_tukes]

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i should also mention that i do care for my mom. just because i asked that question doesn't mean the question applies to me. when my mom turns 80 (or even younger than that) and she becomes disabled for life, she becomes my RESPONSIBILITY and no one else's (i should mention that my mom is separated). same is true when she becomes jobless and has no other means to survive.

[fruit salad]

There's a Spanish saying "Ybarra Ybarra" I don't know if it is spelled like that but it's like the golden rule gihapon. Do unto others what you want them to do unto you. If we take care of our parents when they need us, we will be taken cared of when we grow old too. Buhaton pud na sa atong anak.

[joshua_loquias]

I know its hard for you to be in that situation bro, just think that you're doing good deeds, especially half bro nimo cla. Pwde rman na menyo bro, ingna lng imo partner daan, para way away sa money. Such a noble job. wa jd nimo biyahe imo family. I think bro, 2-3 yrs pa guro, pwde nka settle. Ingna daan mo siblings na pagtarung pd, bsin mao pay magmenyo una..kana moy faets.

[gdy327]

sir... dghn jud kaau na ing.ana nga problem... ako mama nlng for example, 10 cla ka siblings, until now 4 of them rely solely on her, the other 2 mangayo lang panagsa... and from what i saw, since bata pa ko i always tend to scold her.. yes they are family but it doesnt mean that you are the ones responsible for them... she tells me that what will they do if she wont help them.. its simple really, let them work for themselves teach them some responsibility... ang ka paet pa jud with families na tanan with more than 5 children in the family.. there is really a point when you really should stop and let them experience the work for themselves for them to learn... ang added sakit ana, everyday nag inom and mamangka sa mga barkada, mag bet anang lotto... she tried giving them business but inig ka hurot sa baligya, mangayo balik pra puhonan, and it simply isn't right... think about this: yes you are helping them at one point before, but do you really think by helping them that way they can learn in the future? all they will put in their mind is that they have you if they need anything, and it just wont stop until you stop... remember, it is not really your responsibility, your life is!!!

my advise for you is to really set your priorities straight... think of what you really want in life, think of yourself and what you want 3-5 years from now... remember, they are family, they can come to you for help and advise but it is YOUR LIFE, you decide for yourself if you help or not.. think of yourself first before putting their needs in front of your dreams... they hold their own lives to, it is up to them what they do with it... we have our own dreams, lets not waste it or delay it just because or some imaginary responsibility...

[jblim1980]

yes lisod jud ang breadwinner but kaya pman cz dli man ko magmund sa ako nagasto as long as nagtinarong cla unya ampo lng nga mkasurvive ta permi

[missy21]

hmmm...lisod jud basta pamilya noh...dili man hinuon ko bread winner kay ako man youngest and 2 ra mi ka sis...
pero if ako ang naa sa imu place, akoa sa pahumanon ang isa daun once mu-grad na cya...mu-help sad cya mahuman ang iya manghod...aron sad nya ma-value iya gigasto sa imuha...
ana man jud na pamilya, sharing..
=)

[Sol_Itaire]

Nice idea but I've been there sending my eldest step bro in school but I need up being decieved hahays... I hope karelate mo, lisud ngita kwarta nya wa diay tarong skul bnuang ra...

As i observed lisud jud diay magminyo na naa pka obligation sa imu family noh?

what the

i dunno why the eldest always has to assume the role of father. wa man na sa balaod di ba? balaod ba sad na sa ginoo? im not sure. Common sense tells me though that i dont have to support EVERYBODY. my, ako ra ba diay kabalo magitag kwarta?

see it this way. supporting everybody in your family is like telling them that they cannot make it through life without you. that they don't have what it takes. patrabahu-a nang mga igsuon nimo bro. tell them to find ways to support their college education, that you will only give them a portion of their schooling.

bottomline: each has to pull his own weight.

[the Messenger]

TS, I think your half-siblings are abusing your goodness already (I mean those who aren't serious with their studies). I can relate with your problem; murag kita ray gigago sa atong own siblings na abusive nato kay ato sang gi-anad sa easy life and easy money. Maybe you can gradually reduce the financial support you're giving them so they too can learn to stand on their own feet and stop entirely depending on you. Then, start getting a life which you can call your own because you deserve it. If you continue what you're doing, you'll just burn yourself out. The cycle will continue.

As to your mother, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Antosi nalang sya, but not with money matters or business ventures. Too late for that. Take care of her basic needs and treat her out once in a while. You don't have to give her cash.

[jewel_anne10]

need lang jud nimo kayanon... and kailangan ipaintindi mo sa mga half-brothers mo ang situation:
dapat they have to study hard habang may source of income ka pa... para pagdating ng panahon sila naman ang tutulong o may katulong ka na sa lahat ng gastusin etc sa family nyo. ayun...

[tallthel]

naa ko friends na same sa imong situation..pareha mo age na hang2d karn dli pa pd minu ky mglisod cya biya iyang mom ug sis ky pareha mga wala work...

gpalitan na cla blay but nag problema pd cya ky ganahn na cya mg minu w/ her gf...

but sa imo case u hav 2 options:
1. kng hiskul pa imong brothers,mas maau ayaw lng sa ky looy pd cla... huwat2a nalng sa cla matapos den mkakta work pd dats the tym na pwd ka mg minu na...(duagy2 pajd hnun na)

2. pwd ka mg minu na but let ur soon to be wife understand na ur mom and ur bros. stil nid ur help.mka sabot man cguro na imong maging wife..

storyahi nalng na nnu....