HELP Give Up or Give Way?

[galy]

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wow what a problem.....

grabeha pud kagahi sa ulo anang imong friend oi, i think in a way mabasol sad tingali mo kay kamo nga friends niya, wala jud mo ka empluwensya niya , knowing na close friends mo ...

im not saying kamo jud magbout niya, pero, pagkangan na close friends mo, grabeh naman pud kung wala jud moy impact niya.... bisan gamay....

but anyway, i think she deserve it, binuhatan gud na nila, gipalabaw nila ang kalami hehehe...wala sila maghunahuna sa iyang anak....
dapat makat-on sya ug responsibilidad..

advice nako niya....
"stop thinking of yourself, think of your babies."

Kani lang

[rl]

biga ra g apas imo friend and iyang bf, ang anak mag suffer, paeta ana oi, luoya sa mga anak ani nila oi...

[lhyz]

kOrek.. biga ra jud na.. naa bay LOVE nga ing ana?? gosh, nag pa ilad sa imo friend sa iya sweet tongue noh.. iya rana atik para ma HHMMM nya ang girl.. kinda harsh ha but i think nagpa ka tanga imong friend.. how can she say nga love cya sa guy?/ nga gi puli puli man gani sila gamit.. she cant give love if she wont love herself first.. wla naman niya gi respect iya self ana oi..

[rl]

paeta ani oi, and the guy can get away with it, kay di man married dba? baga-a sad nawng sa guy oi... grabe ka irresponsible, grabe, so mag unsa nman imo friend mag huwat e marry cya sa guy? haahaha where gud g butang iyang brain , sis, you friend needs a slap on the face to wake her up , so she can see the reality , coz life's not easy, unsaon mana niya ang duha ka anak? i.. sigh grabe

[lhyz]

as in.. a big slap jud.. cz she aint realizing things here.. wa cya nag huna huna sa babies.. iya ra self iya gi huna huna.. i think ang baga ug nawng imo friend cz iya gi tolerate ang bad deeds sa guy.. if only she would just have a little respect sa iya self, dili cya ing anaon sa guy..

[chormatus]

tough situation to be in! perhaps your friend thinks she doesn't have any choice now since she got impregnated by the guy. She probably thinks that the only way out is "kapit sa patalim", she needs financial assistance for her babies and she can only have it if she stays in that setup.

First of all, what they are feeling for each other is not love but stupidity. A guy impregnating 2 women and a woman holding on to an irresponsible guy - its stupidity! With a guy like that, I'm 101% sure that he is not gonna marry her or if he marries her, he will go hunting for more ladies.

First thing, you have to make her believe that there is a way out. She has to stop that relationship, she has to stop seeing him and concentrate on raising her children instead. Kindly inquire from a lawyer if it is possible to get "sustento" from the guy who impregnated her. Although it requires court hearing but it can be a way to get financial help from the guy without letting herself be used by the guy again. The court will formulate solutions like they will leave far from each other not closer than 30km radius. that the guy can visit the child at scheduled days with time limits. That the guy will give an amount to sustain the needs of his children and so on...

Another way to do it without involving the court is to transfer residence far from the guy. If the guy lives in Cebu, she can move to Davao, etc. from there she can start her life and raising her children.

There is hope still.

[lhyz]

:mrgreen: :mrgreen:

[frenchfries]

hahay...ambot lang oy.
niingon man xa na dli na jud kuno sya.
looy bya xa guys.
lav man jud niya ang guy,i know jud,cge gud xa hilak.
but cge lang,kna inyo mga advices ipaabot na nko sa iyaha.

[mrs_sipi_mr_yoso]

sad-an pud ang imo friend ani dapita, she already knew in the first place, but cge lang japon siya..

it was a fact that before they were together, live-in na sila sa girl and now manuko siya na nabuntis ang ka-live in sa guy.. alang mag unsa man diay na sila sa ilang kwarto magcge ug tinutukay ra... nag-live in sila, and are pretty much very together, though moingon ang guy na di niya love ang iya partner, alang how should he say it man diay to your friend para sugton siya, syempre pakapinan na ug sweet talk sa guy.

And now naa naman jud na nga situation, let the guy decide kung asa jud sa ilaha. Kay basin all these time na naa siya ka-live in, naa pa imo friend, basin naa pa nay daghan nga biktima.

Guys like this dapat putlan ug kalipay.. grabe ra.. and your friend, she should have realized long ago to ditch the guy kung ikaw ang nasa position sa ka-live in won't you be hurt as well??

[diem]

[color=navy]If you really care about your friend, pitying her won't help.

Somehow she's got to realize what is now important, the fate and lives of her children. Can she rely on the man she loves? Can she imagine her children's future if she keeps on crying, on depending on others? Could you be the friend who can be cruel only to be kind, to say the words that would SLAP some sense into her?

Anyway, one cannot help others who cannot or will not help themselves. People can give advice freely, freely it can be accepted. It would be great if the advice is turned into actions but that cannot be expected.

The fact that it was YOU, the friend, who's sharing this problem and not HER, the one who has this problem, indicates that your friend is too reliant on others and doesn't want to face the problem. She's only hiding behind her tears.

When all things considered, she was the one who chose to get involved with this guy. She was the one who got herself into this problem, she is the only one who can get herself out.

[b]If you cannot go the distance for your friend, then better let her be to her sufferings. You have your own life to live.