HELP My Husband is a good man but I'm in love with someone else

[Fern]

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when i left the house sir, i stayed at the park the whole night. and at the morning i went to his place but he was heading off to work, so i had the whole day for my place.i left that afternoon cause my hubby ring me saying that he is gonna call the cops to find me. and i didnt want us to get to that point cause its gonna be so embarassing. ok ra sir,me as well couldnt understand what really has happened.


UPDATE: hubby suggested that were gonna get married in cebu this july.is this a good sign?or what? were already married here. he said he wants all my friends and families to come. do you think we need one?

ahay.... pagka hasol nimu bayhana ka oie..... murag feeling "mano Po the movie" imung freggin life.

and btw... yep im a woman hater....but in your case its not hate.... i just think think BS imung ki pang sulti dire sa forum...

i dont hate the entire femenine psychology.... i just hate the "gabriela" Ultra OA femenist part.

[nitwit]

ahay.... pagka hasol nimu bayhana ka oie..... murag feeling "mano Po the movie" imung freggin life.

and btw... yep im a woman hater....but in your case its not hate.... i just think think BS imung ki pang sulti dire sa forum...

i dont hate the entire femenine psychology.... i just hate the "gabriela" Ultra OA femenist part.

sir did i ask for your opinion sir?sobra ra ayo ka manulti woi.murag kaila ta da.bisan mao jud na nahitabo ako life.difference lang is ang akoa pwede pa ma repair,imo di na. know what?i wouldnt wonder why she dumped you. your such a j*rk! you dont really deserve to be loved know why?cause you dont know how to respect people.

id rather say bugger off! your opinion is not important to me.okay? if i were you, come back next time when your mind is fixed.

[deejayy_214]

naglibog na ko sa imo info sis... buutan man kaha imo bana? you've mentioned this "fact" quite a few times already, saying that he's a good man... pero he's not treating you right? how can you say that your hubby's a good man if he doesn't have time for you and mag sige pa gyud mo ug away... nag-libog lang ko... he's a good provider siguro is what you've meant... sakto ba?

[Fern]

sir did i ask for your opinion sir?sobra ra ayo ka manulti woi.murag kaila ta da.bisan mao jud na nahitabo ako life.difference lang is ang akoa pwede pa ma repair,imo di na. know what?i wouldnt wonder why she dumped you. your such a j*rk! you dont really deserve to be loved know why?cause you dont know how to respect people.

id rather say bugger off! your opinion is not important to me.okay? if i were you, come back next time when your mind is fixed.

lolz..... before you say that.... try also to look at you explain youreself sa forum... utro sad ka nga lupad imung utok. .... i just have a hard time respecting people nga BS ang ki pang sulti dire sa forum.

repair your life.. yeah... ma repair... but not imung utok.

[Sol_Itaire]

oppsss...ayaw icompare sol...kay if thou compare, its an insult to thyself...hehehe

okay, nakasabot na ko sa imong gusto ipasabot bro.

look, women are as capable of straying from a relationship as you men are. do not be naive in thinking that women are angels and should be judged by a higher set of standards. kinsa may gabuot buot ani ba? ah ang mga lalaki ra pod aron naay double standards from which they can benefit. liman ba og kung mangabit ang asawa, i stone to death; kung mangabit ang bana, aw ipaasawa nalang niya...asawa number 4!

men were/are considered the bread winner in their families. karong panahona, praktikal pa ba nga ang bana ra'y manginabuhi? you'd want your wife to have a job too coz you know that one income just cannot support a growing family. and how do wives respond to this? okay ra oi, manarbaho pod. maski inig uli mao pa'y magluto manghugas manglimpyo og unsa pa diha.

in short, society is changing. double standards will cease to exist! and rightfully so. so if a woman strays from a marriage, let us not say "mas lahi man gud kung ang asawa ang mangabit." what the--

so yes, many of you are incensed because of what the TS has done. ako pod i don't agree with what she did. but i tell you, if lalaki ang nag start ani nga thread, i won't think differently. ambot lang kaha ninyu. basig you would start blaming the wife pa for being fat and haggard (she's fat because she bore your children and haggard because she does all the housework!).

@Fern If you think this is ultra churva, you will get some more.

[nitwit]

naglibog na ko sa imo info sis... buutan man kaha imo bana? you've mentioned this "fact" quite a few times already, saying that he's a good man... pero he's not treating you right? how can you say that your hubby's a good man if he doesn't have time for you and mag sige pa gyud mo ug away... nag-libog lang ko... he's a good provider siguro is what you've meant... sakto ba?

his a good man in the sense sir that he is responsible in raising a family, his kind to others (financially), everything a girl would ask for, he got it except for "time".

my point is..ive been so patient, so understanding and supportive to my husband for 2 years and yet he still couldnt give us time. even a little break .max break he could get to go out of the country is 2 weeks and that seldom happen. due to his hectic schedule, we cant even talk even if were at home. we watch telly separately cause all he watched are those market shows.

i didnt go for a kabit, i love my husband so much but the feeling has been passed on someone else cause he neglected me. we even seldom dine together.i cook,he always say later but he goes to bed without even touching or seeing what i cook. how could that be fair? i know what i did was wrong.i admit that. but can you really blame me? i tried to talk to him, but too busy. wa man ko ga drama diri sir, napuno lang jud ko.

my friend's advice is this: ok ra daw as long as he is making money, if he is busy making money i should make myself busy spending it.( di kaha musamot ka busy ako husband ani ug mag sige lang ko gasto.i do have a job, i got a boutique myself.pero naa man gihapon ko time niya, i always manage my time for him.)

ngano ingon ani man gud ning mga laki. basta ma notice nila inlove ang girl,ila na etake for granted. kapoy!

[nitwit]

okay, nakasabot na ko sa imong gusto ipasabot bro.

look, women are as capable of straying from a relationship as you men are. do not be naive in thinking that women are angels and should be judged by a higher set of standards. kinsa may gabuot buot ani ba? ah ang mga lalaki ra pod aron naay double standards from which they can benefit. liman ba og kung mangabit ang asawa, i stone to death; kung mangabit ang bana, aw ipaasawa nalang niya...asawa number 4!

men were/are considered the bread winner in their families. karong panahona, praktikal pa ba nga ang bana ra'y manginabuhi? you'd want your wife to have a job too coz you know that one income just cannot support a growing family. and how do wives respond to this? okay ra oi, manarbaho pod. maski inig uli mao pa'y magluto manghugas manglimpyo og unsa pa diha.

in short, society is changing. double standards will cease to exist! and rightfully so. so if a woman strays from a marriage, let us not say "mas lahi man gud kung ang asawa ang mangabit." what the--

so yes, many of you are incensed because of what the TS has done. ako pod i don't agree with what she did. but i tell you, if lalaki ang nag start ani nga thread, i won't think differently. ambot lang kaha ninyu. basig you would start blaming the wife pa for being fat and haggard (she's fat because she bore your children and haggard because she does all the housework!).

@Fern If you think this is ultra churva, you will get some more.

sakto jud ka maam. ako pod work man pod ko. bisan unsa ka busy, ka kapoy inig uli, magluto pa,magshopping before mu uli para eluto tapos di pajud kan-on. manglimpyo pa before going to bed tapos next day, mura napud ug kalbaryo ang balay. tapos ingon ani on lang. ka unfair anang magluto ka pero way maka appreciate, ingnon lang kang smell good but im not hungry.

dah ambot oi!misamot naman noon ni kagubot ning thread.

[Sol_Itaire]

^you two should get counselling

[nitwit]

lolz..... before you say that.... try also to look at you explain youreself sa forum... utro sad ka nga lupad imung utok. .... i just have a hard time respecting people nga BS ang ki pang sulti dire sa forum.

repair your life.. yeah... ma repair... but not imung utok.

unsaon pag repair akong utok sir if utrong utok sa akong husband lisud erepair? ako go with the flow rajud ko.im not hard to please type of person. is asking for a lil bit of time together a crime?

libog tingale ko utok karon sir,kinsa man ang di maglibog bah?
ako bana always busy, unfortunately kita ko lain na mapagbalingan ug atensyon (i did this unintentionally), karong guilty ko, i told my husband what i did, ana siya were gonna give ouselves a break daw which is good. and he'll try to give some time. pero murag mao man gihapon everyday.

sige lang ko hatag chance, sige lang ko sabot. mao nayabag na tingale ni ako utok sir kay sa sige nako pagsabot, siya wala misabot!

[nitwit]

^you two should get counselling

we are maam, during our holidays daw cause we cant get counselling here kay busy jud daw siya. iya phonecalls di pwede di matubag. meetings and appointments di pwede ma cancel. sabot lang gihapon ko cause im hoping that if we undergo counselling, he'll have time to hear me out.