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[jugs_06]

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^^ok.. my bad for not having to properly read that part of your post.. anyway, she might not have said anything like "giving you a chance" but the fact that she gave you a certain timeframe, that should've sound pretty much like it..

you guess you've tried it a "many million times"? i certainly can tell you that there's absolutely something in there that the girl wants in a guy that you don't have.. that's how other players participate in the game of love.. and it's for you to figure out how to play the game and how to win it.. if you lose it, then the stategy didn't work..

[iskoLares]

^^ok.. my bad for not having to properly read that part of your post.. anyway, she might not have said anything like "giving you a chance" but the fact that she gave you a certain timeframe, that should've sound pretty much like it..

you guess you've tried it a "many million times"? i certainly can tell you that there's absolutely something in there that the girl wants in a guy that you don't have.. that's how other players participate in the game of love.. and it's for you to figure out how to play the game and how to win it.. if you lose it, then the stategy didn't work..

guess you're right with that.. but I dont wat to play other people's games!.. I obey rules.. but I also create my own rules.. but it's just that
she doesn't understand.. or wont even care to.. hahaha.. guess that's it!...

[ronna]

@isko0o0

hmmm..

Know what, there are times that a gurl will regret turning down a guy without even knowing the real him.
She might have realized your sincerity and importance when you stopped pursuing her.
Dont worry, if she wasn't really for you then be it. Learn the mistakes you think you did and try to make it right the next time. "Life is empty without someone to share it with", you might luagh with this remark but i know deep inside all of us felt this way at one time or another.

There are a lot of fishes in the ocean, you might be installed for the bigger catch.

Im here bro daghan pa tawn baje, tabangan tika ngita.

[mata_hari]

guess you're right with that.. but I dont wat to play other people's games!.. I obey rules.. but I also create my own rules.. but it's just that
she doesn't understand.. or wont even care to.. hahaha.. guess that's it!...

there you go... ISKO, you know yourself better bai... If there's a shed of hope take it... if none.. then you know what to do.. Just don't try to fit yourself in the image of her IDEAL GUY... that is the most pathetic thing you could jump into. extend your horizons specially with your preferences... don't be drowned by a smile .. as proximity theory goes-- most likely your partner is someone you see everyday... and to whom you are communicating with everyday... meaning... look around... nasa tabi tabi ra na imo girlash!

Vaya con dios!

[diem]

@iskolares, bro Love is the Game best played when both sides aim to win for each other! Strategies can help set the score but it doesn't necessarily make one win. In the end, its the feelings that make the decision.

The ladies ronna and mata_hari were right with their advices to you. As you say, you've tried 'a million times' but your lady just wouldn't budge. In my opinion, true love isn't supposed to be that hard, is it? It should come naturally, right?

As ronna said, your young lady might come to regret it. One never knows the value of something until that thing is gone. Then let her regret. It'll be a favor for her maturity.

As mata_hari posted, broaden your horizons-- it is a big big big world out there bro and you are still young. Live your life to the fullest by filling your days with new experiences, new avenues, new journeys and definitely along the way, you'll find the One Companion to share all your adventures!

All the best in love and life!

[dondon2208]

to let go of da person u love is really very hard... although she didnt hav a commitment wid our relationship but what we did and planned was way too high if it was just MU... da reason we stopped da said relationship was bcoz she still love her ex... she was so affected wen she confirmed dat her ex was wid anader girl... as of da moment, dey r tagging along well... it seems magkabalik jud cla... but stil wen we r 2geder, sweet au amo treatment wid each ader... in fact, just yesterday, i kissed her...

she keeps on saying dat for now, i'm her bestfren... but do bestfrens kiss in da lips jud ha... im totally confused... b4 we always talk about our baby(we thought dat she was pregnat but it was just a delay in her monthly period), recently we r talking about it again...

guys... wat do you think is da real score between da 2 of us

Thnx a lot....

[diem]

@dondon2208, the truth of the matter is bro, it is not for anyone else to say what is the real score between you and your lady. Basically, it is up to BOTH of you to define what is the state of your relationship. Basing on your post, you love her, she loves another, but stays with you...

We are in the modern times. Through the years, there are many types of relationships that we see and hear. Yours is apparently an exceptional case to the conventional. Ganyan talaga basta human affairs, its not pretty and often messy.

My advice to you is to set matters straight and clear. You have to gather the courage, force the young lady to come into a decision to choose, you or her ex. If its you, all is well then. If not, then take heart in knowing that losing your love is no defeat, it is just the way of life. Learn, live on, and you will love again.

I know you love her, but for the sake of your sanity-- make her choose. Whatever the outcome may be, you love her enough to do what is best for her. That's what true love does.

[n`gel]

I think that's why she opts to be with you is because it's an "instead". Coz she can't be with her ex, she turns to you. She feels she needs to be loved, to feel important kay wala na na niya na feel sa iya ex. She's wallowing, and wallowing through you.

It's normal for her to feel rejected coz her ex is already involved with somebody. Makasuya pud, and maapektuhan gyud ta when once kita moy pinangga and then karon kay lain na, and sometimes even comes to a point nga mawala pud ang friendship.

Give her a little time. Protect her, love her, make her feel she's important to you pero you have to be conscious at the same time. Expect the unexpected. What she's going through right now is inescapable. Getting over somebody is not easy and it doesn't happen overnight either. I know some people would say, she needs to snap out of it, pero normal ra nang feeling of rejection basta gabuwag na and especially nakauyab siya ug lain dayon.

It's all up to you. If you love her, then you wouldn't mind being there for her, to comfort and make her feel she's still a wonderful being. I'ts better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Sakit gyud ning motuo ta ani. Pero hey... gamble man gyud ning love. Although sahay we think we can do calculated risks pero in reality, gamble gyud siya.

Here's my last question. Makaya nimo mobiya niya totally even being there for her bahala na friendship lang iya gusto just to safeguard your heart? Ako, naa gyud koy murang lifetime admirer who never made that next step again, when i changed my mind and said no. He's still a very good friend. I don't know how that feels, pero basin happy nalang siya being there for me when I need someone to talk to. Pero la mi ga kiss hap.

[jugs_06]

@dondon2208:

do bestfriends kiss? yes they do..

tell you what, communication.. communication.. communication.. that's the key to it..

you said that you guys never had any commitment whatsoever? that's probably why she thought of going back to her ex without even thinking of the consequences, like leaving you all alone suffering from her sad but tsk tsk, confusing loss..

what's the score between the two of you? see my post above regarding iskolares' problem about the "game of love"? if you compare the game of love with that of a real game, you'll be able to see what i mean in just a sec..

a spectator like us won't be able to see what's the real score between lovers unless of course the obvious has been pulled out.. and, if you ask me, i guess it's pretty apparent that you love the girl, but the girl is making her own strategy to win the other guy's heart which, unfortunately, IS NOT YOU..

what to do? diem is right.. MAKE HER CHOOSE.. that would be hard to do in your part i bet.. but you just have to do it for your own good and of course, for hers too..

[n`gel]

She might be just feeling a little rejected that's why she goes to her ex, but reality is, it's a hard task to win somebody over nga nana puy laing girl.

I don't think it's the right time to ask her to choose. I still say give her a little time. Because eventually time will tell her if after all much effort she doesn't win her ex back nga the fight is useless. And then when that time comes, clear na pud iya huna-huna.