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[diem]

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@chad, sinsiyo is right in a way.. generally women are sensitive to a man's actions and intentions or maybe perhaps a man's actions/intentions are often clumsy and obvious... but despite the matter that they are aware, often they would be confused because a man's actions are not necessarily the same as their words. Women so rely on a man's word and with the belief that a man's words should reflect his actions.. otherwise he would be lying, distrustful, and unworthy.

chad, bro, may i ask.. was your concern could be considered deep and special? Perhaps it is so, why would you be so affected if she considered it to be nothing. Anyway, unless you give further details into your dilemma all I could say is that maybe the thing you are so concerned about her is something that she herself isn't so concerned about and thus her reaction.

[ronna]

dont abide to the saying that goes 'action speaks louder than words"

I've been there. The guy has been so extra caring and the attention is obvious but he barely say a word regarding that.
So how will i know? I might be wrong and just exaggerating.
Gurls hate to expect and get hurt in the end due to that misinterpretation of your behaviour.

words and moves will always go together.

maybe the gurl is already aware of your intentions but wasn't so sure of herself if that's the signal you are trying to send.
Better be more vocal, in return you will also get the instant reply, if she feels the same or not.
Dont you waste time crapping up things with/for her.

You ca do it dude...Be confident.. :mrgreen:

[iskoLares]

dont abide to the saying that goes 'action speaks louder than words"

I've been there. The guy has been so extra caring and the attention is obvious but he barely say a word regarding that.
So how will i know? I might be wrong and just exaggerating.
Gurls hate to expect and get hurt in the end due to that misinterpretation of your behaviour.

words and moves will always go together.

maybe the gurl is already aware of your intentions but wasn't so sure of herself if that's the signal you are trying to send.
Better be more vocal, in return you will also get the instant reply, if she feels the same or not.
Dont you waste time crapping up things with/for her.

You ca do it dude...Be confident.. :mrgreen:

actions speak louder than words?!... ahhhhhh... 1% assurance ra ni..

i've always believed in this but things changed when i got BUSTED( for the first time! twas actually when i was in college)
I've known this girl since we were elementary.. but we are not that close..
xhe actually transferred to another school so I never had the chance to know her better...

Then, we met again in college.. we were blockmates...
she was pretty.. (not hot! but pretty.. simpy innocent looking)..
her smile was like "whoooaa"... she simply captivates me...
Man, I wan falling for her (i guess!)

I actually told her how if felt..
we still remained really close, no awkward feelings and situations,
I waited for so long (the first time that I courted that it came to a point that it reached months of courtship)
but never got the answer (but I was really not transparent in how I felt... I only told her how I felt once..)

I fellt rejected having to wait that long..
But i simply thought that she liked me as much as liked her...
Guess I was wrong..
Guess I jsut misinterpreted her smile, her actions and everything about her..
Guess I made a mistake... hahah...

[ronna]

actions speak louder than words?!... ahhhhhh... 1% assurance ra ni..

i've always believed in this but things changed when i got BUSTED( for the first time! twas actually when i was in college)
I've known this girl since we were elementary.. but we are not that close..
xhe actually transferred to another school so I never had the chance to know her better...

Then, we met again in college.. we were blockmates...
she was pretty.. (not hot! but pretty.. simpy innocent looking)..
her smile was like "whoooaa"... she simply captivates me...
Man, I wan falling for her (i guess!)

I actually told her how if felt..
we still remained really close, no awkward feelings and situations,
I waited for so long (the first time that I courted that it came to a point that it reached months of courtship)
but never got the answer (but I was really not transparent in how I felt... I only told her how I felt once..)

I fellt rejected having to wait that long..
But i simply thought that she liked me as much as liked her...
Guess I was wrong..
Guess I jsut misinterpreted her smile, her actions and everything about her..
Guess I made a mistake... hahah...

bad move bai..
you should draw a line between friendship and courtship.
we are often mislead by that.

mas mau jud start mo as friends para magka ilhanay den wlay mahayay.
then if you think you are really captivated by her prowess then go to the next level.
show your feelings through words and actions..
let her feel that she is specail, if she really is, for you.

communication and transparency are important, para walay masaag.
lisud man jud mo start ug relationship.
dapat you are geared up, and you know what you are doing, and what you are really into..

so guys, if ever kasulti-on na jud ka sulti daun unsa may dugayan diba?
padugayon nimo den gahulat ang gurl?
in the long run mag libog mansad ang gurl if unsa ba jud. pag chur woi.
den maunhan nalang nuon mo sa lain nga nanguyab pud kay wa man mi kabalo nanguyab na diay ka ato.
ikaw unta to yang lab diay.. toinks!

[monrose29]

so guys, if ever kasulti-on na jud ka sulti daun unsa may dugayan diba?
padugayon nimo den gahulat ang gurl?
in the long run mag libog mansad ang gurl if unsa ba jud. pag chur woi.
den maunhan nalang nuon mo sa lain nga nanguyab pud kay wa man mi kabalo nanguyab na diay ka ato.
ikaw unta to yang lab diay.. toinks!

korek ka dyan friend.. then kong ma busted.. lain napod panguyaban.. ana lang ka simple di bah..

[ronna]

korek ka dyan friend.. then kong ma busted.. lain napod panguyaban.. ana lang ka simple di bah..

murag ana jud na padung noy noah..
ay lang kayo mo pada sa tama gud.. hehehe.. look hus talking..

[mata_hari]

bai isko, asa naman diay nimo gibutang imo talent sa pagdiskarte?!

never misconstrue actions for confirmation jud oi... have you courted her formally?! di ba courtship includes having to tell her how you feel about her... then she would reply something like giving you a week or months to get to know each other... then after the elapsed time she will then have her answer...

sus basin nagpacute ra to... kahibawo naka sa mga girls... Palugit kaayo...

If you feel something for her... Go and tell her, would you rather keep it for the rest of your life then regret?! Bahala na maulaw ka basta u did your best... Kung ma busted ka... It's a loss for her for having turned-down such a wonderful and sincere person.... hahahaha...

Bitaw... Don't giive up... Good luck

actions speak louder than words?!... ahhhhhh... 1% assurance ra ni..

I fellt rejected having to wait that long..
But i simply thought that she liked me as much as liked her...
Guess I was wrong..
Guess I jsut misinterpreted her smile, her actions and everything about her..
Guess I made a mistake... hahah...

[iskoLares]

I told her how i felt...

Ambot oi!...
Ana mn gd ni.... If mohatag ang girl ug timeframe .. it's like saying nga naa kay "CHANCE" db?!
so niana siya nga dili sa siya motubag.. no comment whatsoever blah di blah......

Ambot kung kuwang raba to sa pursige or wala jd to chance..
Ani man gd.. ang akong image sa akong mga friends kay "MALDITO", "ASSERTIVE", basta .. everything negative ( pero dili adis adis!)
then mura nitagam na siya sa iya last nga BF nga pare pareha nako ug batasan...
pero dili jd mi pareha... lau ra jd!.... BOGOY mn to .. ako dili man... haha....
niya mura naa nay barrier... grabe au ang fortress.... dili ma penetrate...
mao to wala najd ko ni follow up...

bai isko, asa naman diay nimo gibutang imo talent sa pagdiskarte?!
your best... Kung ma busted ka... It's a loss for her for having turned-down such a wonderful and sincere person.... hahahaha...
Bitaw... Don't giive up... Good luck

Ambot kung kita ba siya ato... bisan tuod.. MALDITO ni.. buotan ko oi!.. hehe...
pwamiz!... haha... basta!...

[jugs_06]

@iskolares:

i feel for you bai.. waaaaaaaaaaa.. shets nga gugmang g-liver.. i've experienced being in that situation before.. i expected too much from a girl that i felt i was being betrayed in the end simply because she wasn't too sure about her own feelings.. and tell you what, with that experience i've learned something important although i admit, sometimes i just can't avoid to see things this way.. and that is----------->EXPECTING TOO MUCH..

bai, i'll just give you my own opinion about this coz i don't wanna be someone who wants to show you the DO's and DON'T's about courtship.. we all have different styles and approach regarding this subject and i can't tell you hey dude you shouldn't have done this and that.. or, sayup ka bai kay dli mao imong approach..

maybe kuwang ra sa pursige, is that how you feel? you might be right, maybe it is in the first place.. she might have expected more from you as much as you expected more from her.. when she told you "naa kay chance", she must have told you that because of the spur of the moment.. but then you failed to see that girls are sometimes impulsive to different changes.. they change their minds so easily..

should you take that as a disadvantage? of course not, ikaw ray luoy.. if that's how she quickly changed her mind then you should've quickly change your approach towards her.. then again, it all depends on how you handle the situation.. how? i don't know.. i'll give you one example though.. you can prove it to her that you're not "MALDITO", "ASSERTIVE", etc. by changing for the better..

[iskoLares]

thanx jugs...

btw.. wala xa niingon nga naa ko chance... kay kung moana siya naa koy chance.. it is like saying "SUGTON LAGI TIKA.. LUGITA sa KO!.." hahaha... "murag kugmo".. mag pakuot....

@iskolares:
should you take that as a disadvantage? of course not, ikaw ray luoy.. if that's how she quickly changed her mind then you should've quickly change your approach towards her.. then again, it all depends on how you handle the situation.. how? i don't know.. i'll give you one example though.. you can prove it to her that you're not "MALDITO", "ASSERTIVE", etc. by changing for the better..

I've tried to prove it many times (i guess "MANY MILLIONS" na nga times.. haha).. pero I really dont freaking know where I lacked.
i was just being true to myself.. I cant act meek, gentle and geeky in front of her.... so that she will like me.. ayt?!
I was just showing who I am.. I am a crappy person who was never worth it... hahhah...

I guess she did not see the real me!... and it sucks!.. hmmmm...