The Girl is INSECURE with the Guy...need advices!

[Col Center Trooper]

@ajol
perhaps, maybe ur right bro... thanks for the opinion...

@Isteb
Thanks for your comments bro... notes taken

I never begged for her, I asked her to be franked with me...told her that we're mature enough to accept the truth.. if she would tell me to stay away from her, I would respect that decision. At this age, I have already experiences when girls say yes and when some say no...

Like I said at the top, she don't want me to go... she wants me to continue courting her, but she said I should wait for her to clear her mind, until may comes.

Wierd though.. at this age of mine, dili naman unta na ing ana... perhaps it's also possible, kay I courted a very young girl, 21 years old... so far she's the youngest one I courted, and the prettiest up to date...

If girls don't want a guy, most of the time either they frankly tell the guy a formal no and "just be friends", some say the NO in a violent way, then some also ... just fade away to nothingness... no text, no calls and deadma.. Honestly speaking, I had experiences before more than once that a girl says NO for the nth time, then at the last nth time, they say yes...

Perhaps for this experience, naninibago lang cguro ako. You are right, right now I just see her PHYSICAL GODDESS-like features...

If I were to explain my feelings right now... at the start of the journey when I met her, it was just like me playing the DEAL OR NO DEAL GAMESHOW at the beginning.. as time goes by... the 3 million is still there, but the 1 peso, 10 peso and 100 pesos are the only one remaining...

@simoncpu

True, true... the longer the courting process, the more things (negative things) the girl will find in a guy...

Also that line when the girl slept with a stranger she only knew days ago.. damn! it's evil...


So.. peps! Since she didn't say no to me, is it possible that she's playing safe? As if I am like a savings account where she might withraw some time later?

I've been thinking also, it might be possible that she DO like me, but wala pa naka reach sa BF/GF level.... Dili cia willing mo let go nako for now kay sayangan pa cia....

[Isteb]

oh don't court. never. court. that makes the whole thing so awkward. it can work, yes, but it takes A WHOLE LOT MORE WORK than if you just hit it off.

i believe the torpe society can be of help.

i myself am not a good repairman, i don't try to fix things once i'm in the damage zone. instead, learn from your experiences, and find someone new.

the first thing you should do is forget her, forget she exists, delete her number from your phone, erase every single trace of her from your life. don't hate her though. just forget about her.

next time you see a girl, be like "hey wazzup" chill, and find out if she's cool.

here's how i do it, more or less.

i see a girl i find attractive, then walk up to her praying to god that she's cool, classy and has something more going for her than just her looks.

then i forget about everything. and i'd pretend i was talking to my friend, an old friend, and i don't worry about things like "oh sh** does she like me? did she notice that my shoes and belt don't match? does she think i'm cool? oh god silence whattosay whattosay whattosay what?"

no i just chill. tell her i need her opinion on something or whatever. tell her i'll only be a minute or so. and i'm always ready to walk away anytime, so i wouldn't feel all clingy and needy. chill bro.

and remember. no matter how pretty or cool or classy or hot the girl might be, there is always someone better, you just haven't found her yet.

practice your skills until you got it all down, so when you do meet the one, you're ready. you're prepared.

love,
isteb

[tribu]

hehehe you probably don't know that if a girls says "she like you" it means "she had someone she loves more than you and she wish that guy would court her so she lets you wait and only when she'll finally know what the other guy really feel for her, that's the only time she'll decide which one she would choose. it's you versus that guy she loves. she likes you but she didn't say she loves you. did you get that?!? watch the girls language most often it reveals her real feeling.

[pac]

bai i'm not a relationship expert or something pero para nako bai ang maturity level ninyong duha bai di level ba.Lets be straightforward mas maguwang gud ka mas daghan kag life experience. kung kaya nimo siyang huwaton di huwata hangtod maready na cya para nimo. Di gyud na nimo cya mapugos kay magkaleche leche niya mo kung mag on namo. Pero kung kaya nimo cya dad on under ur wings then go you'll grow together ba.

[Isteb]

para nako pud bay tungod kay mas tiguwang, dili nagpasabot nga mas mature.

i have a 16 year old cousin, and she's way more mature than most college graduates. hell, she's probably more mature than i am.

i have a professor, and she's so immature that it's sickening. she looks so old, and she probably is, yet she's so insecure. and did i mention immature?

point here, bro, is you can still change your life. hopefully for the better. and no matter how far you've gone down the wrong track, it's never too late to turn back.

what i'm offering here is a choice. take the blue pill, you go back to sleep and nothing happens, take the red pill, and you're in wonderland.

bro. forget her. do yourself a favor. it will only mess up everything around you. everything around you will stagnate, your whole life will be put on hold for one girl who probably doesn't even understand what the hell is going on and how the hell you feel.

know that you deserve better than this. you don't need to waste away.

[simoncpu]

Yepp, sakto jud. Personally, I don't believe in a "match made in heaven" or "the one and only right one" or other such things. There are, however, many right girls out there that possess the qualities that I'm looking for. Given the right circumstances, those girls are worth pursuing.

There is no one special girl because... all of them are unique and special! Other girls are deserving of your love and care as well, and are waiting for you to knock on their doors. If we focus all our efforts into someone that won't reciprocate our feelings, well... kita ra ang lugi.

[ simon.cpu ]

[Isteb]

amen brother.

[yokam]

@Col Center Trooper:

She's not playing safe and she's not playing!! She's looking for ways to create distance from you. The way I see it, you messed up with the "Is it ok court you?" line or whatever that is because it's just asking indirectly that "Can you be my girlfriend?" immediately. Other than that, asking her "If she's got feelings for you" is not a good thing either. You can see it in her actions and asking such kind of question is putting pressure on her one way or another (assuming that she doesn't know to handle such situations) and it could also mean that you're rushing things up, a big NO-NO. You've got to read between the lines because she meant something else with what she says, women are not like men who tell things straight. Women speak with emotions, men speak and want to listen facts.

There are a lot of fishes in the pool, you can find another woman. But if you focus and keep your mind locked on her, you won't be able to find one. Go out and flirt with other women and soon you'll just realize that there are still a lot of better ones out there.

You've got to learn how to deal with women, don't base them and what they're doing with your judgment and with what you see in their actions. Women are complex beings.

[joyeeks]

well, i think the girl is just making excuses, the "too good for me" reasons are what we, girls sometimes tell to a guy if we not so like him... of course, its not easy being a girl to turn down someone who's kind.d ba? maconsensya pd baya mi ngana labi na kung naningkamot jd ang lalaki. i think its obvious man ky y wud the girl not want to date with you and asks you to wait, ok man lang muwait pero not to a point nga magrestrict ta sa person of what he's capable of doing. my advise to the guy is to find other girl who's better and more deserving. naa pa dghan babae oi, basin maikog lang na ang babae musulti nimo.

[pls_fixme_imbroken]

para nko lang ha kay babai man jud ko...hehe gipa asa raka nya...murag d jud xa ing ana ka interested nmo pero she still wants u der para sa attention lang na knowng nay naibog nya...f ang gurl ing ana jud ka ganahan nmo noh hagbay raxa ni sugot nmo or mayb ipa wait ka pero not with these conditions:

"Now she told me that if I can wait until four months from now, she'll accept me as her boyfriend... but the conditions are, until that time comes, we can't go on planned dates, go to her boarding house, or even just a simple dinner... but it's okay for her that we see each other "accidentally" or I go and see her at her office. The problem is that, the distance from her office to our field site is as far as TOPS up to SM... and due to that distance and my work, I can only go to her office once every week or once every two weeks."

gets?? kay f ing ana jud kaganahan ang girl nmo magkingdate jud xa or as much as possible magkita jud nmo not "accidentally" ra...and samot pajud na ok ra nya na ma "accidentally" ramo kita kay kbaw xa nihit ra au mo magkita...

and 1 more thng...its rily weird for us girls if mu ingon mo guys if ok ra kung mu court mo namo...kiwaw jud au..as n....so its better nlng na d ninyo ingnon and little by little ipakita ninyo na interestd mo namo...hehehe