
Originally Posted by
brightside
1. validate your evidence
make sure that the person txting your husband is really a girl and from hubohubo place. make sure you read the text carefully. just read it and dont put meanings into it. just accept the text.
2. communicate
the best thing to do about this is talk with your husband. this is the critical part. i know he is the one doing something bad so he should be punished but punishing him will not stop the problem, it will just make it worse. prepare your self and dont be angry nor affected. dont threaten him coz it will just make him hide some more. the goal here is not to make him admit but for him to have confidence to tell you everything and for you to accept that he can be tempted sometimes and needs your support. again the goal here is to make him open to you and he will not be open if you will bite him. just accept and guide him not to hide from you if you are his wife. convince him that he can tell you and will not be angry as long as he knows his limitations. if you can make him tell the whole story why it end up him texting the girl, it will be much better and never interrupt.
3. be good
never change your attitude. dont hate him, dont be angry and more you should be sweet to him. this is a way for him to know that you are the best and not that girl from hubo-hubo. make him realize that he is so lucky to have you. if you will treat him bad, his affection will be transferred to the girl coz that girl's job is to accommodate unsatisfied husbands.
this is how to fight, not killing each other