Sister-in-Law's Husband is getting on my NERVES!!!

[yhantrix]

i don't really get it kung unsa man gani ang boot niyang ipasabot anang iyang kalaki ron! okay na gud unta mi sa akong sister in law... imagine, 7 years, i treated my sister in law as my real sister na gud. then karon, ingon ani? okay na mi pero naa ning iyang bana nga maoy NAGPATAGAD?! WTF!!! kung okay mi sa akong sister in law, i respeto pud unta niya oi... ikahig man niya.. kalagot! GGGGRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!

[diehard96]

Second week of January 2010 gitxan ko sa akong sister in law nga candle daw ko sa kasal nila puhon. SHOCKED! Kaayo ko! Sa akong ka shocked, I confronted my husband and told me the whole story. One time, online sa fb ang bf sa akong sister in law, ako cyang gipangutana ngano in-ato kadali ug wala man lang gani cya namalayi. Ang iyang gireply: “WALA MAN KO NANGAYO UG KWARTA SA AKONG GINIKANAN PARA MAKASAL KO, USA PA, DILI NAMAN NA USO ANG MAMALAYI OI”. Ni-ulbo akong kaspa!!

nganong mi ulbo msn imong kaspa kun mo sulti syag ing ana? unsa may problema kun magpakasal sila unya magpa kasal pud mog inyo? ang imo rang gi explain ang problem nimo sa bana sa imong sis-in-law, pero wa nimo ma explain ang imong emotional reaction which preceded that, which possibly triggered the whole brouhaha

[yhantrix]

^read the whole story bro.. emotional reaction was stated..

[bakasyunista]

nganu ganahan man kaayu ka magka ayos mo sa imo brother-in-law in-law? kevs ana niya. mabuhi man kaha mog wala siya sa inyu kinabuhi..

mabuhi ha as in literally dili man kaha siya utangan ug milyones or ang nag sustensya ninyo.

[monrose29]

nganong mi ulbo msn imong kaspa kun mo sulti syag ing ana? unsa may problema kun magpakasal sila unya magpa kasal pud mog inyo? ang imo rang gi explain ang problem nimo sa bana sa imong sis-in-law, pero wa nimo ma explain ang imong emotional reaction which preceded that, which possibly triggered the whole brouhaha

kong ako ang ni ask aneh bro nya ingon aneh iyang tubag.. mo ulbo pod akong kaspa..hilas ra man sya mo tubag..

"WALA MAN KO NANGAYO UG KWARTA SA AKONG GINIKANAN PARA MAKASAL KO, USA PA, DILI NAMAN NA USO ANG MAMALAYI OI"

tarong na nga tubag sa usa ka laki? kong na-a pa koy manhgud nga babaye or bisan kinsa nga relative nako nya ingon aneh-on ko pag tubag.. katilaw gyud sya yaw-yaw left and right...

first.. ngano mo ana man sya wala sya mangayo og kwarta sa iyang parents.. pde ra man sya mo sulti og.. na-a naman koy kwarta na tigom para among kasal....deli na kinahanglan ang supporta sa akong parents kay na-a koy kaugalingon nga income.. in that way nga humble pagka storya deli ka maka trigger og gubot sa imong kapwa tao...... kaysa mang hambug ka nga wala ka mag salig sa imong parents...

second.. unsay deli uso ang pamalaye? nakurat gali ang parents sa babaye nga kasal na diay deritso wa man lang istorya2x kong unsay mga plano.. bisan pa og mapakasal same date sa inyong relatives dapat na-a kay respeto kay imo manang family pohon... deli kay mag bo-ot lang ka... unsa may ma mahimo sa t.s kong mag pakasal sila total wa man sila mangayo og kwarta sa t.s... it shows lang nga hadlok sila deli makasal kay unahan ang kasal ni t.s... WTF murag ma mga bata oi..... sabot2x lang unta.. i think masabot ra man nah....



@T.S

ayaw na tagda mga tawo nga deli ganahan ninyo.. isa pa importante man to-od nang makasal mo para na-ay blessing pero mas importante nga deli ma guba inyong relationship tungod lang ana nga issue.... na-a bitaw nag pakasal diha nga bong-ga2x or nag dali2x unya resulta mag away2x mag bulag pa kogn magkalisud.....

ayaw pa apekto anang mga isyuha gamay ra ka ayo nah.. kong tagdon ka...aw okay kong deli okay ra pod...

[yhantrix]

nganu ganahan man kaayu ka magka ayos mo sa imo brother-in-law in-law? kevs ana niya. mabuhi man kaha mog wala siya sa inyu kinabuhi..

mabuhi ha as in literally dili man kaha siya utangan ug milyones or ang nag sustensya ninyo.

KEVS jud nya... i really dont care about him! ang akong kalagotan nya, ngano malain man cya kung nibalik na among closeness sa akong sister in law? which noon karon, ni distancya na pud noon akong sister in law...

[yhantrix]

@monrose29: exactly my point! kuha nimo..

btaw, respeto lang gud unta.. ga hilas-hilas lang sa last email nya nga: "taas kaayo ko ug respeto sa imong bana.." sus! mao nay taas ug respeto, nga wala man lang gani cya kasulti nga naa diay clay plano..dba?!

im done with our past. ang ako karon kining iyang kalaki nga murag nikalit na pud ug dstancya ang aakong sister in law.. unsa man, malain cya nga ni balik among closeness sa akong sister in law?! wa jud ko kagets!

[0kimangel0]

@TS: I believe you owe them your sincerest apologies for what you have done before. Reading your whole story of what happened, I strongly believe that they have not done anything wrong. "Is it wrong to get married if you love each other?" Why would you stop them from doing so just because you are bounded by worthless old beliefs or paradigm. Do you believe in sukob? Is that your reason why you felt disrespected when they decided to get married? You did not consider that as a person they have also the FREEDOM to do the things they want to do as long as they don't violate any human law or God's Law. And as far as I am concerned, I believe there is no law that is stopping you from getting married if your older sibling is not yet married. So why blame them of your mistake of not getting married in 2009 when you planned for it? If you have budget constraints, you can always join mass marriages sponsored by the church that is free or you can have a civil wedding and invite just close family and friends right?
What I am trying to say is you were blinded by earthly things which led you to plan a big wedding which led you to destroy your relationship with the persons that matters to you, your family. Then now you realize the things that are really more important is not those materials things and you are now losing them.
I end with a quote from the book, The Little Prince - "What is essential is invisible to the eye."

[yhantrix]

^the issue is not about the wedding.. humana man to... ang akong gikalagotan karon, ngano ma lain man ang bana sa akong sister in law if mag communicate mi sa akong sister in law? mura man gud ug iyang but-an kung kinsa lang dapat i-amiga..

wala clay gibuhat nga dautan? yes. kay its really not wrong to marry the person you love.
naa clay napasakitan? naa. kami. to think ha, everyday magkita ang magsuon, wala jud cla ka open ug topic nga mag minyo na cla, dba? its all about RESPECT... mskin dili na lang sa akoa, sa ako na lang untang bana ug sa ginikanan.

[0kimangel0]

Yes indeed sis. The issue not about who was wrong. But it is all about forgiveness. I can see that you have not yet forgiven them, and maybe led you not to ask for forgiveness from them. It is unhealthy to keep a grudge in your heart. If you keep on holding to that grudge it will not hurt the person you hated in anyway, you will just end up hurting yourself. Learn to let go of that anger and hatred. Humble yourself. Ask God for forgiveness and ask for the grace to forgive the persons that have hurt you. It maybe their fault, but in the end what would matter is how you resolve this conflict. God taught us to be humble and compassionate. As what Jesus taught as "Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who trespass against us".Try giving them the benefit of the doubt for they may also have a valid reason why they did it. Try to look at things at a different perspective or point of view.

"To err is human, to forgive is divine."