Possessive Friends

[Blackjellybean27]

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maybe there's another side to the story? like maybe she's not really threatened by your presence but is "scared" that some of her "secrets" might be shared to you, since you and your common friend are getting close...
well, let me give you an example lang ha. actually tinuod jud ni. i have a close friend, nice kaayo sya. and she's a good person to talk to. you know how it is sometimes na you really need someone to talk to, especially kng sensitive issues... and you need someone else's opinion or advice, stuff like that. well anyway, i've shared some stuff with her. unfortunately, it was too late when i noticed that what you share with her, gets shared with a new close friend... i'm around man when she shares it, but those stuff weren't meant for sharing.. mao man ni linya nya, " wla man ta secrets noh? k close man ta tanan diri.. e share lang nako ha, kato gi ingon mo nako.." then proceeds to chika..
so mao na naka think ko na basin your friend's friend is not really possessive.. whatchu think?

[Sol_Itaire]

^hmm that didn't cross my mind coz it really feels to me like the jealous person is just possessive, exclusive. i guess some people are just like that, say some clans, families, or groups that are so exclusive that they'd raise eyebrows when there's a newcomer from outside.

[bowee]

@TS

the friend of your common friend feels sort of 'threatened' that you came along to their world...

you may not have known her or your common friend that much(maybe you just entered late in the picture) but.. nevertheless... from what I am understanding...

her friend might be wary that she might lose her friend because of you, the real issue is that, her friend (your common friend) which she has grown fond of, might have developed a comfort zone already to her.. and she hates the fact one day she would lose that comfort zone to you...

I guess that's how I look at her on being possessive to your friend...

[bowee]

comfort zones among friends is ordinary... especially if suod na jud kaau...

there is an unwritten law between friends.. they cry together and they laugh together... when an outside 'threat' comes in to their world.. one would always be threatened that their friendship or bonds might be pulled apart by that threat....

[Sol_Itaire]

^and i've always thought that if a friend of mine makes a new friend, i'd be happy coz that means OUR circle is expanding. If a girl friend of mine finds a new bf, that means the guy could be a new friend too. if my sister gets married, her husband would be a new family member; their kids, a new joy to me.

but putting myself in the jealous friend's shoes, i'm getting the idea that perhaps i (the jealous friend) need this friend so much that a potential separation, whether physically or emotionally, would disable me in some way. if the friend is a source of comfort, identity, or self-esteem, and i can't generate those on my own as an individual, then there's fear and anger targeted either at the friend or the threat.

so yeah it would be good to extend understanding but with the mood i'm in right now i think i'll just ignore them both.

[kurdapia.nikki]

I came across this page yesterday morning and in the afternoon,
I saw this movie entitled "ROOMMATES." This thread ran through my head! HAHAHA.
Grabeh jud ang movie! Though the kontrabida was a PSYCHOTIC.
Freaky jud kaayo sha. She's so obsessed with her frienddddddd. OVERPROTECTIVE.
To the point, she hurts the people who influenced her friend the most.
Ganahan jud sha nga sila ra duha ang mag-amiga!

After that movie, nahadlok na nuon ko. HAHAHAHA.
Freaky jud kaayo to have possessive friends!

[LeeLeePot]

naa jui ingana nga mga tao..akong bestfriend kai ana man...gihilakan pa gne ko nia..after that, i always find time na for her kai basi unya muhilak na pud nga d bya ko gnahan muhilak akong bestfriend...ok ra sa iya ang mga new friends nako however, i still have to be with her when she needs me the most.

[epoaxlan]

I am and so are my friends..common raman ni sa mag amiga specially close kaau mo.

[Sol_Itaire]

this is a life-defining moment. i've decided not to be a possessive friend coz the examples i see around me just turn me off! dunno, but they just look weird to me.

[EightEqualsD]

nagselos ra to cya hekhek or she is just amazed on how close you and your common friend can get hekhek he might have thought that the friendship offered by your common friend is exclusive to her hehehe don't mind it she is the childish one not you hehehe unless you do what you said... tease her.