how to come out as a lesbian..?

[ashley85]

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pagsure oi.. my question is how..

[Sand Man]

Kebaw ka, Ash, Ricky Martin’s coming out of the closet did not come as a surprise, kay tungod there have been speculations about him during his entire career (ako included). In fact, legions of people appreciated what he did: being honest to himself and everyone. According to him, he has lived with the secret for as long as he possibly could, since the coming out needed proper timing. Now, he is happy with his revelation and the public being cool with it is part of it.

Pero .... coming out of the closet may not come that easy to others. People who know your friend (apil gani tingali ka) may tell her not to do it, and that she will just ruin her reputation and everything she has worked for. But that is just their opinion and everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. What matters mostly is hers (ang lesbian -- kinsa gani name niya?).

No matter what age siya, if she feels like she wants to come out of the closet, here are some tips for her:

* Proper timing is essential. Do not pressure her or even let anyone pressure her into doing it. Those who have admitted that they are homosexuals may try to push her into confessing about her status. Do not let her be persuaded into doing so. She should make her own decision about when she wants to come out of the closet.
* Make sure the revelation comes straight from her mouth, not somebody else’s. Nothing good comes out when people try to meddle in other people’s affairs, especially if it concerns her family. Her family will be hurt more if they find such secret from a third party. They may or may not accept her for what she is, but she should be the one to tell them in person so she can explain her side clearly and in a way she knows they will understand. She should not push them to understand and accept her right away. Try to be patient because not everyone can handle such news easily.
* Tell your closest friends first before anybody else. They will be both honored and thrilled to find out that they are the first to know about it. With this, you will know who your real friends are. Some may be shocked at first, even avoid you, but later on, will accept you because you are a friend. However, be prepared because some may not be glad with you coming out of the closet.
* She should not reveal her true self when in an emotional state. Patience and understanding are commonly absent during these times. She might attract negative vibes, which may result to heated arguments. When she wants to say something personal, she should do it with a clear mind.

She should be honest to herself so she can also be honest with other people. Admitting that she's a homosexual takes a lot of courage; she may be admired for it, or she may be avoided. If she thinks it is worth the risk, if she thinks she can live better by coming out of the closet, then let her do it.

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[ashley85]

Thank you very much Mr. Sandman for your sensible advice..I really appreciate it..it will really help a lot..

and I hope she can do it sooner..

and thank you for being broadminded and open-minded...

[naborbong]

Nice advice jud ni si Sand Man dah..... Pa advice nya pud ko pohon.... Kong ako na sad.....

[cesski]

timing is everything jud. it will come in due time that she will feel the urge to confess and come out.

pero para nako, lisod kaayo na buhaton. kay what if, your parents, family and friends, don't accept you diba? mao nang saludo jud kos mga taw na naay guts mu-come out, labi na karon na ang mga taw kay mga hypocrites kaayo.

[agillite]

she should be honest first to her family and friends

[KASAAC]

just let her be... ingna sya magpakatotoo ka sistah!

[ashley85]

timing is everything jud. it will come in due time that she will feel the urge to confess and come out.

pero para nako, lisod kaayo na buhaton. kay what if, your parents, family and friends, don't accept you diba? mao nang saludo jud kos mga taw na naay guts mu-come out, labi na karon na ang mga taw kay mga hypocrites kaayo.

you are absolutely right, gurl..it is easier said than done..daghan pa jud kaayo dili open sa gay community diri sa pinas that is why she's still afraid to reveal her true colors..not like in other countries..

[Maew]

Nice advice jud ni si Sand Man dah..... Pa advice nya pud ko pohon.... Kong ako na sad.....

Dont tell me bro.. ga duha2x nsad ka........ btw right timing lang dyud and accept what will be the outcome. Be brave and be honest to yourself and to everyone that sorrounds you. They will accept you ra for who you are....

[anjerika]

dress like one. hehehe. that's the first start to exposing one's identity.