Friendship, How far wil you go for a friend?

[Bruhita]

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You shouldn't expect too much from people, and you cannot expect everyone to give something in return.
It will be hard to find true friends, but you can be sure you can be the truest (naa word ani?) friend you can be to everyone. You cannot control anyone, but you can change yourself.

I know... I wanted to please everyone not knowing I would hurt my self in the end.. I would always feel that I owe it to people. That's always how it goes for me.. even on romantic relationships I would end up being the one bled dry.. I'm working on it.. well I did worked on it but I had distanced myself too much to people just to avoid getting hurt which is wrong i guess. I'm so confused when to stop. One thing or another I still ended up hurt

[Tirong-say]

Their is a very wide distinctions between companions and friends, you can always find true friends in your most difficult time............

[anjerika]

Yes, most of the time. Maybe they really stick around when you have plenty to give...well the people that I met back at school.

nothing wrong about being generous but pagbantay lang. coz you can't control people around you - naa gyuy mga mang take advantage. naay uban pasipsip. naay uban buotan kaayo pag naa silay kinahanglan nimo.


what i do is di ko manglibre og tawo nga di pa nako close - i mean like once or twice pa lang mi nagkita / nagtalk basta wa pay na establish nga trust. kasuway sad ko ani sauna but wa lang ko gipangwartahan, fortunately. but it came to the point sa sobra nako ka buotan in assisting my friend in her school duties, niabusar siya nako. gi bully na nuon ko. since then i became vigilant. and even right now i'm eyeing at a person who i think has this potential. unta sayop ko.

[Bruhita]

Thanks anjerika how I wish I would have someone as positive as you around. I'm normally jolly around people but the mask peels off when I'm alone.

[Blackjellybean27]

for the record TS
I only have one TRUE friend... proven!
100% sure she won't talk about me behind my back
100% sure she's not balingbing

i met and been around groups of different people, been close to most of them.. but i always find out they're not the friends i thought they would be..
only one friend remained true... '
it's like a ratio of 1:1,000
how sad

[anjerika]

I know... I wanted to please everyone not knowing I would hurt my self in the end.. I would always feel that I owe it to people. That's always how it goes for me.. even on romantic relationships I would end up being the one bled dry.. I'm working on it.. well I did worked on it but I had distanced myself too much to people just to avoid getting hurt which is wrong i guess. I'm so confused when to stop. One thing or another I still ended up hurt

don't try to please anyone. you don't owe them anything. sometimes the best way to spot the "real" people are those who are going to accept you as you are - maski pa unsa imong batasan, past or even bisyo. when i was in high school, i was a probinsyana who went to the city to study. i had no friends. so i had to try to "fit in" with the groups nga naa ngadto. and kay gusto sad lagi ma "sikat sikat", i tried hard to please one circle of friends. pero di jud mada, i couldn't cope up with their "standards", i "wasn't of their type", sometimes i can even catch them nga libakon ko nila and magpalibre sad pirmi so i stayed away from them and eventually found for myself my best friend.

[Bruhita]

impossible na kaau ng taw na d kamao mo back stab miga..anad2 nalng ana! be careful lang kung makigclose ka ug taw taronga ug pili trust ur instinct kung d ka ganhan yaw pugsa imong kaugalingon para lang naa kay matawag na amiga/amigo.

why do you say its impossible? are you saying that I'm lying? I don't stab my friends at their back. I'm straightforward if I want to set things straight. If I don't like the person I don't say anything bad about them.. I would simply not know them, that way.. I can't say anything that I wouldn't like about them since technically I don't know anything about them.

[Bruhita]

don't try to please anyone. you don't owe them anything. sometimes the best way to spot the "real" people are those who are going to accept you as you are - maski pa unsa imong batasan, past or even bisyo. when i was in high school, i was a probinsyana who went to the city to study. i had no friends. so i had to try to "fit in" with the groups nga naa ngadto. and kay gusto sad lagi ma "sikat sikat", i tried hard to please one circle of friends. pero di jud mada, i couldn't cope up with their "standards", i "wasn't of their type", sometimes i can even catch them nga libakon ko nila and magpalibre sad pirmi so i stayed away from them and eventually found for myself my best friend.

I understand. But its so hard to go against your nature in the first place.. It will be baby steps for me.

[Klave]

I know... I wanted to please everyone not knowing I would hurt my self in the end.. I would always feel that I owe it to people. That's always how it goes for me.. even on romantic relationships I would end up being the one bled dry.. I'm working on it.. well I did worked on it but I had distanced myself too much to people just to avoid getting hurt which is wrong i guess. I'm so confused when to stop. One thing or another I still ended up hurt

That is also a wrong notion of gaining friends, trying to please everyone...as in murag sayop gyud ni nako sa una...and it never goes well...

You just have to be yourself, you don't have to overexert yourself for anyone. Also one of the easier things to do, spot the spoiled... Make sure you are able to say no them...at least half of the time...
That way they will get better respect of you. Also spot the hilumon types, they are usually the types nga true sad, hilumon + kuyog baboy... as in... the cutest friends you can find.

[Bruhita]

That is also a wrong notion of gaining friends, trying to please everyone...as in murag sayop gyud ni nako sa una...and it never goes well...

You just have to be yourself, you don't have to overexert yourself for anyone. Also one of the easier things to do, spot the spoiled... Make sure you are able to say no them...at least half of the time...
That way they will get better respect of you. Also spot the hilumon types, they are usually the types nga true sad, hilumon + kuyog baboy... as in... the cutest friends you can find.

hahaha thats cute indeed.. hmmm I wonder where to find them..