very manipulative parents!!!

[gcc4426]

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small world TS. bin there...and i end up rebellious...didnt regret it either. ang wla lng nko gtuyo ky nkapasakit ko sa mga taw nga nisalig nko. pero they undrstood me...they accepted my flaws...kysa sa akong maguwang nga gahi ghpon hangtud kron. even undrestimated my skills. wa dw koy kwenta...tan awn nato ba.

karon mdyo dli na intimate ako relasyon nila, pero naa na koy freedom. sibil lng ghpon mi, respetaray ghpon. though galisud ko gmay, ok ra nq as long as ako ga kontrolar ako lyp. i expected this consequence nga mahitabo. ako man ni choice so akong barugan. im hapi with it man sd.

naa ra gyd na nimo mis, basin magmahay ka ana puhon...

[umpa-lumpa]

small world TS. bin there...and i end up rebellious...didnt regret it either. ang wla lng nko gtuyo ky nkapasakit ko sa mga taw nga nisalig nko. pero they undrstood me...they accepted my flaws...kysa sa akong maguwang nga gahi ghpon hangtud kron. even undrestimated my skills. wa dw koy kwenta...tan awn nato ba.

karon mdyo dli na intimate ako relasyon nila, pero naa na koy freedom. sibil lng ghpon mi, respetaray ghpon. though galisud ko gmay, ok ra nq as long as ako ga kontrolar ako lyp. i expected this consequence nga mahitabo. ako man ni choice so akong barugan. im hapi with it man sd.

naa ra gyd na nimo mis, basin magmahay ka ana puhon...

i salute you bro..sakto gyd na imo gibuhat...there are consequences mn gd..and it was good nga imo na gi prepare imo self...

[junmar4]

small world TS. bin there...and i end up rebellious...didnt regret it either. ang wla lng nko gtuyo ky nkapasakit ko sa mga taw nga nisalig nko. pero they undrstood me...they accepted my flaws...kysa sa akong maguwang nga gahi ghpon hangtud kron. even undrestimated my skills. wa dw koy kwenta...tan awn nato ba.

karon mdyo dli na intimate ako relasyon nila, pero naa na koy freedom. sibil lng ghpon mi, respetaray ghpon. though galisud ko gmay, ok ra nq as long as ako ga kontrolar ako lyp. i expected this consequence nga mahitabo. ako man ni choice so akong barugan. im hapi with it man sd.

naa ra gyd na nimo mis, basin magmahay ka ana puhon...

partly naa sad ko ani... but worse.

I ended up leaving my family and left few traces for them. Don't have any contact for more than 2 years now.

[umpa-lumpa]

partly naa sad ko ani... but worse.

I ended up leaving my family and left few traces for them. Don't have any contact for more than 2 years now.

OT: hhhmmm i suggest you reconnect with your parents bro..after all, they are still your parents, without them, wala unta ka dri..hehe sorry ofr intruding but, naa sa uwahi ang pagmahay, it might be too late..our parents wont be here forever...

OnT: basta TS, mao na to...i open gyd na nila...be strong gyd...

[junmar4]

OT: hhhmmm i suggest you reconnect with your parents bro..after all, they are still your parents, without them, wala unta ka dri..hehe sorry ofr intruding but, naa sa uwahi ang pagmahay, it might be too late..our parents wont be here forever...

maybe yes but maybe not...

mao na magsalig sila because of this statement!

[chanel8]

HELP!!!! i just don't know on what to do. I can't stand the fact nga mag cge nlang ku kahadlok, i just wanted to enjoy my life & a family that is open enough to share those problems. I wanted to learn to voice out my problem towards them. Lisud lang jud kai super lisud jd cla pasabton....



na lisud jud na xla pasabtun kay lge xla baya imog mga ginikanan,,,,antos lg jud sis...until na mka stand na ka on ur own...kulag mn mo ug commncation gud...mao na kamu mahadlok mo kay gamay ra gne sayup daku-on na nla...daun tuyuk-tuyukun pa xla una sa maka sabot sa inyug side....
kaw nlg jud pa bantay2 lg kay naa na bya u uyab...lsod bya na emu situation run...bcn naa nya mahitabo...tugud sa imog parents na wa jud hatag u freedom...

[Soul Doctor]

ever since pa jud, cla nah nag control sa amu life..they forced us to take up the course on which we don't even want. They wanted us to become like them, 3 nami sa amu mag igsuon nga same ug course just like them. Asta choice of clothing, cla pa mag buot. Grbeha jd oe! Hatod-kuha pa jud sa skul, dn asta allowance i.kwenta lang tanan pila ang ma gasto halos wa jd ka sobra2x, grbeh ka tihik nga inahan oe! Mai nalang gni nga wa jud na abot sa am0ng point nga mag rebelde mi, ni respeto ghpon mi nla mski ingon ana ang treatment. Pero naa jud times nga maka pamakak nlang mi just to have some space and freedom, mski gamay lang.

When i was in college, mag lisud pa jud gni ku ug pananghid nila if naay school activity or naai project hmu.on. Over na jud kaau. gi agwanta lang nku knowing that im still dependent nla ug naa pa ko sa ilang side karon. Asta mga outings, d jd sugtan dghan kaayo ug rason mahog ra nga dli ilang i2bag. Aku nlng gd tawn mngita ug paagi para ma lingaw ku sa akong life. Mag lakaw2x ku nga d ku mnanghid, wa mn koi ch0ice kysa mbuang ku dri sa amu. Aku jud gi human ak0ng pag skwela kai khbaw ku mao ni mkapalipay nla, pero wa sd ku nag expect nga ni graduate nalang ku mao ra ghpon ila treatment nku. Mas ni grbeh mn nuon pgkbaw nla nga naa nkoi uyab..

HELP!!!! i just don't know on what to do. I can't stand the fact nga mag cge nlang ku kahadlok, i just wanted to enjoy my life & a family that is open enough to share those problems. I wanted to learn to voice out my problem towards them. Lisud lang jud kai super lisud jd cla pasabton....

There are different types of parents.

Naay mga parents nga mosamot ka istricto
when they learned that you got a boyfriend without their knowledge.
It is because they lost their trust in you.

Parents want their kids to be responsible and trust worthy.
When you lie just to get out, they will eventually lose their trust in you.
That is when they get more strikto.
Their is a reason for that.
You must be responsible with your self.
They made sure you would not waste your time on useless activities most kids are into now.
Uyab-uyab, Disco, Inuman, Malling, internet and computer gaming etc.
These things divert your attention to what is really important as a growing individual.

Dapat magkat-on kag panlaba, pagluto, limpyo sa balay.
I-appreciate sad nimo dapat ang ilang effort pagprotect nimo
against the common pitfalls of todays young people. (alcohol and drug addiction, unwanted pregnancy)

And if you are living with them,
you have no choice but to follow house rules.
But in my time, no one complained about things like you mentioned.
This is because, i appreciated their support and effort that for me to complain is simply being ungrateful.

Now that I'm married, I see why my parents were strict before.
Its not easy raising and supporting a child
then just one time you missed and you failed to watch her,
then she go home to you and says that she is pregnant.
And by that time you realized its already too late.

[gcc4426]

some parents have the mindset nga "dli ni cla kabarog kung wla mi.." which i think is being selfish.. nagsalig cla..
these are the traditional types, dli open minded. bsin mao sd ni ila upbringing sauna...lisud gyd cla i please. abi nimo ok na, pero dli d.i...itira sa imo ang imung g-open up sa ilaha.

in my case, i really thought nga it was good for me...pero ngkadugay natuok nko. i got their point nga concern lng cla, pero they tend to be possessive man gud. pugngan nila ang dli uyon sa ilang buot. it affctd my personality...murag wa koy kaugalingong identity d time nga ngrebelde ko. naglatagaw akong utok ato..

nevertheless, u have to RESPECT them. sagdai na cla kung dauton ghapon ka nla. jst wrk hard kung naa man gne ka trabaho rn. karma ray mubaws ana nla...thats d time nga muaksyon dayon cla ug mahay. pastilan...
stay strong lng gyd kung mag-plan ka maglahi. theyre jst waiting nga mu-fail ka...nagpaniid ra na cla kung asa ka kutob. sama nko karon...

bsta be open minded lng sd sa tnang butang, it really helps...ug kaw nay mutimbang ana kung sakto ba pra nimo o dli ilang gpanulti...

[cromagnon]

ang parents man gud , mura rana clag robot nga gi program ba .

programed to program they children .



but if u yourself think that you are a programer urself . and think u can reprogram urself way beter.

then if its for the good , .

dont attempt to reprogram ur parents . kay dili na cla ma hack , bisan unsa-on . .. .sagdi nlng cla.

but of corse mu agi pka daghan trials n error. . . more power comes more be responsibility/

[maddox_pitt]

@ts, maybe if you find a job and can stand on your own, they'll learn to let you live your life the way you want it to be lived.... basig karon, ana lang sila kay you are still under their umbrella... siguro naman if makawork naka, they'll think you're responsible enough to stand on your own... sa pagkakaron, try to build an open communication with them... tell them how you feel about their treatment...na kapuyan na ka ug ingon ana, wala naka nalipay... if they still won't understand, then since human naman ka, try to find yourself a decent job para makagawas naka sa ilahang poder...pero it doesn't necessarily mean burning the bridges between you and your parents, it's more of stepping into the real world and finding your own freedom and happiness..