Ask me any question about relationships

[meimei16069]

hmm. doc.. ako question is ... why do many people feels insecurity when it comes to relationship?
i mean, it's most of the people who are able to experience that.
it seems like they can't find true happiness..
WHY?

[Dorothea]

Doc, nganong nagka daghan man ang mga lalakeng oplok?

A male relative forgave his wife's indiscretions (she got pregnant by another man while this male relative was working abroad) and reconciled with her after everything.

A male friend was left in Pinas while his wife worked as a nurse in the US. She shacked up with another man, got pregnant, and is now asking him to take her back. He's actually considering it!

Another male friend caught his gf in bed with another guy, he forgives her anyway, but she ends up dumping him. A few years later, the girl comes back, and he marries her almost immediately!

Unsa'y tambal sa mga oplok, doc?

[Sol_Itaire]

Doc,

What do ex-gfs and/or present gf/wife say about having a relationship with you. Do you agree with their assessments? Why or why not?

Sol_itaire

[histrionic0311]

But when kids below seven years old fight, its normal.
Young kids fight like puppies.
They need two hours a day of "fight" time.

So when my second (6-y-o) and third (3-y-o) child fights,
I just "time" them.
My wife would ask "ngano sige man na silag away?"
I'll just say to her: "its just normal, wala pa man gud nahurot ilang two hours "fight time".

correct. in other words, leave them be to settle their own until they tire out..

[saturno]

There are lot of issues in sibling rivalry.
It started with the parents.
Parents should not side anyone whenever there is a fight among siblings.
Especially we say:
"ayaw awaya na imong manghud kay bata pa na nimo".
Unya muingon dayon uban parents, "Sabta ra na siya".
This will result to more grudges and feeling of injustice among siblings.
And when they realize that there is no sense of justice in the family,
they will then take matters in their own hands.
That is why the start to fight.

Do not side anyone whenever they fight.
Make it a rule that if two kids fight, they will both be punished.
Encourage them to settle their problems peacefully.
Make them communicate.

Communication is one of they key in solving sibling rivalry.

kini sakto gyud ni 110% approve ko ani!
maski bata pa na sila, duna na clay resentment f in anan nimo sila badlong....

[Soul Doctor]

hi doc...my question is...

nganu naa man jud naay usa,or two ka members sa family naa juy di matagad...

unfair ug sakit baya...nganu man??

Its easy for us to judge parents nga dili motagad.
We see them as unfair.

But it is because we already judge them.
You will understand these things when you yourself become a parent.

There are different reasons why parents ignore their children.
Usually its "emotional politics" that cause these attention problems.
If you cause your parents a lot of frustrations,
your parents may not punish you physically
but they will just stop paying attention.

If they find that you don't care for them,
they just stop caring for you.

But the most common cause is time.
They just do not have the time to take care of so many kids especially if you are a big family.
We parents only have 16 waking hours.
When you divide your time it looks something like this:
Preparing things for kids
in the morning (cooking, fetching) 2 hours

Work: (minimum) 8 hours

Travel time back and forth 1 hour
Wrapping things up in the evening
or preparing for the next day (ex: iron clothes) 2 hours

So you have three hours left to spend with your self, your kids and your spouse.
The way you manage this remaining time is what makes or breaks the family.

[histrionic0311]

doc, i hav a question. what is the meaning of commitment? why do we have to engage in such a relationship with the opposite gender?

[seepshank]

murag ngkadaghan na ang pangutana dah.. murag nag.lisud na ug tubag c doki.. hinay2x lang pow..

[histrionic0311]

^^ aw let's just wait for his response. i know he can answer those questions.

another question, is it necessary for us human beings to be loved by another?

[ceden_yu143]

how to get rid sa pagka manhid sa girl...

kay it seems ssuper manhid jud sya...and i want na ma realize niya nga naa ko na feel somrthing towards niya...


kindly HELP me!!!!