Am I right to ask for space from the girl I love but who only sees me as a friend?

[InChaos]

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ive already made my sorry to her, though tru YM lang. wished her happpiness wherever she is. dont knw if she has read it or not. right now, its better that she's d one nagpalau nako. seeing her and asking for this forgiveness might not be a good idea. she has a tendency to have emotional breakdown, even hurts herself just to get what she wants,in this case, she doesnt wants me to go. knowing being there for her was good enough to her. this has happened many times before, the reason i wasnt able to let go of her daun coz. she has returned in the past, i dont think if she will this time. I only wanted to stop our closeness, and just be a frend like how i treat my other friends.but she cant accept that,and she has been always the one who stays away, but returns. This is sad..but i have done my best..

[UtOkbOlinAO]

some things are not meant to be.... mao lang jud na ang huna2x.a bro.... daghan pa dinha bro....

but dont close ur door to her as a FRIEND nalang... no more no less..

[the Messenger]

In the first place, it was wrong of you to stick with her, EXPECTING her to return your feelings eventually. Your motive for "keeping the friendship" was just all so wrong.

Feeling BF man gud ka even if the girl made it clear that you have no chance. Expecting too much has caused you so much pain.

To answer your question, your decision to let go NOW is right. Wake up. Move on. You know you deserve better if you start looking elsewhere. You can't force people to reciprocate your feelings. Stop the drama, please. You're only making a fool of yourself.

[P-Chan]

move on na bro oi.. if mag kita mo tagad then walk away..

[KASAAC]

m.o.v.e o.n

[thinkspace]

move on dude! enjoy life. hang out with your barkada.

[hunt99]

am i right to ask for space from the girl i have done everything for her but only sees me and just wants me as a friend?

i have been with her for almost a year. even though she said she can only offer friendship, i still stayed with her and do things together hoping she would someday learn to love. from time to time i opened up the topic if she will learn to love me, and when she said she cant, or just want to be friends, i would make it an issue so i can tell her i want to leave and ask her space. she would then do anything for me not to go. something like has been goin on. and when i ask why she doesnt let me go when she doesnt loves me she would said she cant. that there has been never a guy that has been this nice to her. that never has someone understood her. never she has sombody that has the same common interests as her.

2 weeks ako was the worst. wen i again, tried to tell her i want space for the reason she doesnt love me... she then said she loves me, but doesnt know how to show it. long story short, i knew she just used the LOVE coz it was the only last thing she can do because at that time i was really decided to cut things off with her. but i decided ride-on her LOVE even though it was a LIE. hoping she would change or something would change.

i let things roll until Valentine's came. the next day we met and told her that i really want that space. it hurts me that i know u dont love me. she even gives a lot of reasons why i cant get a kiss from her lipz. she then admits that the love thing was a LIE. and from the day she said she loves, all she did to show that she loves me was a lie too. the HUG and kiss on cheeks. thats why she cant kiss me on the lips coz she cant do something to somebody who she only sees as a friend. because to her, she loves me nothing more than a friend. that night i was really trying to break things gently. but something she said made my blood boil. she said she will return the cellphone i lent her(this was 1 thing i kept trying to get when i tried to ask her to let me go) and told me she will return it coz she does want me to "HUNT" her. i mean, wat dah. after all i think i was just nothing to her. so i said. ok u ddnt love me. you dont even care. you only wanted the things i can give you(i spoiled her, u know) and you never want to be with me. i said d only reason why u dont want me to go is because i will get the cellphone and you will lose your friends,right? so keep it(in an semi-angry voice, and i broke both my sim-cards on my phone so i cant contact her) treat it as my last favor to you. at least u have a remembrance of who and what i was to you.

she tried to give it back. followed me wen i walked. i stopped and told her. there is nothing else more to do. this is what u wanted, right. not me. so please just walk away. you already have what you wanted. she then walked away. i am really harsh, wen i get mad.

staying friends with her would not give me peace of mind too. ive told her countless times, i understand if u cant love me. but showing luv as frends isnt that hard,right? she keeps saying she shows it but i was blinded because i wanted her to love me. but it wasnt the case. for the only time i feel i was somebody to her, or i mean something to her is when she asks for favors, or its when i walk her home. any other time i was just nobody.

like what happened last Feb14. the night was really cool. if there was a time i could say that it was the most precious time for both of us, it would have been that night. but i was still with her, talking, walking just the both of us. but wen 11:30pm struck, her friends called her on the for for conference and there it seems i wasnt even there and ignored me until i made it an issue that cant she just spare some more time to be with me? wen she was the one who wanted to be with me that night in the first place. yeah i knw she nid time for her friends too, but was it right that it was a night for both of us, a night she asks to be with me and just like that, she ignores dat i made her night complete? i dont think thats fair.

i should have walked away the first time she said she cant love me more than friends. i should have believed things will not change. though right now being apart from her doesnt hurt that much already, but it was just a waste. i just wanted to exist. to be appreciated for what i do, and i would be happier even if she cant love me as her bf.being appreciated for what u done should have been enough for me to accept her friendship....

since monday i never seen her. she blocked and deleted me from every list( YM, frendster etc). i sent 1 last message to her saying i never was anybody or somebody to you after all i did. and im not expecting anything more...

now is this the right thing to do for me? to let her go? to tell her i need space? that if there was a reason you would stay, thats if she loves me or accepts me for who i am? i was hoping if were not together, she would realised what she will miss. but i dont think it will never happen. so im thinking this is the only way i would be free and have peace of mind. knowing the person i love will never love me the same way i do! i could have accepted friendship, if only on those days showed that even if she cant love me, she would still be able to accept me, and not because of what i can give her.

any inputs is appreciated!

in your story bro it's painful like my past my Gf is the one playing games gi dowa dowa-an lang ko pero gi pasaylo na nako siya tongod ky daghan naman naka balo siya ry nag binoang then na owaw siya pero sa imoha bro ky di pa man mo uyab as a friend ra gyud iyang tan-aw nimo pero ang reason na ganahan siya na-a ka ky mo help og care og comfort gyud ka niya you have good attitudes moves and style towards her og mo respetar ka niya onya pede sad na ang another reason ky naka hatag ka niya pero di paman kaha na sure na mao ny reason onya sad noon sakto sad to imong gi buhat na naka ing-on ka niya na basin mao ny hinungdan nano di siya ganahan ma wala ka and another reason is basin gi testingan lang ka niya kung asa ka kotob or pede sad di pa siya ready into relationship or na-a na siyay na gustohan lain onya di ganahan niya onya na-a man ka tarong gyud ka niya pero gi used lang ka aron di siya ka huna huna atong iyang na gustohan but actually bro it's your desisyon na makig talk ka niyag balik in a calm way na tinarong pagka storya but for me mas ok na mo move on na lang ka bro and pangita og lingaw basta wala paka kita og lain gyud na partner na love sad nimo og love sad ka niya na malipayon mong duha ky di ka mangitag lingaw usahay maka huna huna ta sa nahitabo onya sakit gyud na pareho sa ako-a pero advice rani nako bro ky actually past is past man sad most important is your present

[honey89]

seriously, move on na... if the girl really wants you, she will do whatever it takes to get you back.

[P-Chan]

a person who likes to sing finds a song..

[YJOB]

reading your story i imagine a 40 year old rich guy loving a 23 year old girl.
i hope that's not the case.

anyway, sh*t happens according to adam sandler.

i see no reason why you should stick to that girl, have self-respect once in a while bro, ayaw buanga imo kaugalingon, you deserve somebody better.


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