Unsa'y buhaton ninyo sa imong mama ug naa mo sa akong kahimtang?

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[lady_blackrose]

i know the feeling sis...since my father died and our business go broke im the one who shouldered all the parents responsibilities to think im just the second child from the eldest. from decision making up to finacial matters.kapoy ayo woi.sakit ayo sa ulo...but i can never complain coz my mom doesnt have a choice either so what i did is i just put up a business for all of them that way they can get a monthly income to sustain their living. so far my mom have never stole money from me but sometimes she asks for money esp.if she has nothing and no one to turn to. there are times that i hated it coz we used to be well off...no.she used to be well-off.she has a company with 300 workers but she prioritized her workers than her family...she acted like her workers were her family. she lend them money without expecting them to pay her back..at the end of the day...though its too late..when our company go broke...no one was there for her to help her instead of me and believe me..its not easy esp.we just lost our dad recently.

instead of giving ur mom money...try to save bit by bit and set them up a business and if u can do that...u should warn her that it would be ur last help that way she will stop relying on you.

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[lady_blackrose]

bitaw, it would be nice if i could do that. mao man jud na ako plano, kay naa nama'y negosyo gamay si mama sa laundry. i'd save up para mahimutang jud na nga negosyo. pero with what she just did to me, as in dili nako ganahan mupadayon ato. i feel disrespected jud. the respect and trust that i have for her kay nawala najud. tanan2x...

i understand that sis.ako bitaw...when my mom prefered to prioritize her workers than us..as in galagot jud ayo ko.i moved out and lived independently bisan lisud. i quit school to show them that i can work things on my own and i turned out to be the rebellious child.infact during my first engagement...i didnt inform my mom,twas my dad who told her that im getting married so she was really shocked and the more she realised how much i hated her back then.but then lately ive realised too that no matter if theyre the worst peoply in the earth...even if ur gonna move the world upside down...at the end of the day..they are still ur parents.i know how hard it is coz ive been there. the business that me and my hubby built for her has just been done so finally im happy but im still sending her money but not as much as i used to send her nah.

[the Messenger]

It really hurts to be conned by your own family member. I suggest that you not give any amount to your mother and that you leave no credit card or hard cash EVER inside your home. You should not trust her again re: money matters.

As to utility bills, why not take care of them yourself? If busy jud, delegate the responsibility to your father. Be cautious though. Your mother might be pulling the strings to get to the money. She sounds so much like my grandma .

[the Messenger]

i would agree with you nga maglain lang ka. able pa man kaayo imong parents at their age. try lang pod talk nila ang tell them your reasons. sa ilang edad di pa baya nimo sila obligasyon kay kusgan pa man tawn sila oi.

ask them with honesty - unsa man ilang buhaton kung mo stop naka ug hatag nila? for sure mangita sila paagi to survive. another thing, kung mo balhin ka, do not let them know where ka mo transfer. Just make sure ang needs sa imong manghud are still met.

Good advice here. If you want to help out your folks, sa utility bills lang ka mutabang or monthly food allowance ba. Your folks need to re-sharpen their budgeting skills. Don't give them the license to abuse you and to suck you dry.

[Sol_Itaire]

for everyone's benefit, paglain na. taga-i sila puhunan for a business and that's it.

[hunt99]

Paglast month lang, nahibaw-an nako nga gikawatan ko ug kwarta sa akong mama.
Dili jud siya maignore kay dako kaayo ang kwarta nga iya gikawat.
Ako raman sad siya gitago sa kwarto sad, wala pa nako siya nasulod sa bangko.
Apparently, awahi najud karon. Pagconfront nako ni mama about ani iya lang kong giignan nga "Kulang man gud pirmi imong itunol nako..".
Mura na nuon iya gipalabas nga ako ang sad-an nganong nakabuhat siya ana!!
Mao to nidecide ko nga dili usa ko motunol niya panggasto sa balay kay kabaw ko dili jud siya kabayad sa kadako sa iyang nakawat.
Nya recently niduol si mama nako, nagpakonsenya nako nga putlununon nami's kuryente, nya wala na siya'y lain maduolan ug pangayo.
Naglagot nako oi. Niingon jud ko "sharo sa kadako sa imong gikawat wala jud ka kabayad sa kuryente?"
Nya mao to niadmit siya nga dugay na siyang nagbuhat ana, unya ang iyang gigastoan sa kwarta kay DILI LANG PARA SA BALAY. Meaning, giapil nana niya'g gasto sa iyang lingaw2x. Niingon pajud siya nga ug mabaligya na among balay, sobra pa iya mabayad nako.
Samot na nuon kong naglagot sa iya gisulti. Wala jud siya naghuna sa consequence ug ibaligya nila ang balay? Nga sa kakrisis karon, maayo na kaayong pagkapalita ato?! Dili sad sila maminaw nako nga sige ko'g convince nila nga dili ibaligya ang balay. Kay wala daw ko'y katungod KAY ANAK RA DAW KO.
Sa akong kalagot wala najud ko mustorya'g balik ni mama.
Unya gabii lang, nagsulti pajud siya ni papa pagpanihapon "Wala naman na'y batasan imong anak."
Nitubag jud ko, "Ang wa'y batasan kanang mangawat ug kwarta!" Nahilom gud si mama.
Kabaw kong sayop akong gibuhat, pero I think she's too much. Abusado na kaayo si mama nako.
Ganahan najud gani ko maglain, kung dili lang jud ko obligado nila...sooos unsa'y dugayan!
Haaay...

hmm actually sis kanang sayop manto sa imohang mama gud pero mama man gud siya nimo am mas ok na ikaw na ly mo bayad sa mga kuryente or onsa pa diray bayranan para sa balay og imohang kwarta na sobra tago-i ky pede man gud na hilabtan og balik onya i-lingaw na sad og horot or kung gnahan sila taga-i pang negosyo or taga-i og panglingaw pero gamay ra sad ky wala na ky kwarta

[psyd_1]

lisura ana uy..kig istorya daw sa imung erpats TS.. basin makakuha kag tambag gikan niya..

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