BreadWinner - kaya pa ba?

[mrjosh]

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Thanks Janninat, kuha jud kau nmu ako probs... hehehe i wish mkatunong kog maasawa na understanding... kay murag napicture na nku ako role 10 yrs frm now...

[inkodell]

Hello guys, I'm the breadwinner in the family, I'm almost 30 and I'm still single, I have 4 half-brothers na ginapaskwela, My mom has no work, if magminyo ko what will happen to them? I'm sure daghan dri mga minyo na naay experience na conflict sa parents ug sa wife/husband, I'm afraid magminyo coz maluoy pud ko ako mom sya nlng dayun usa, high school pa ako siblings...

Hahay... share lang ko ha... I know I'm not the only istoryan's na naa similar ani na situation. Share nman your thoughts...

sir, parehas dyud ta og experience ani og parehas pa dyud ta nga 30 and single, hehehe. ang akoa sir kay, both my parents have no work anymore. my mother is half-paralyzed due to stroke and hypertension, so need dyud siya og care including maintenance sa tambal. i have two older brothers and 1 younger sister. akong eldest bro kay sa government lang nag work then casual lang pud. then ang next nako na bro kay minyo na with 6 ka anak (do-re-mi, i guess you know what i mean). then ako sis, kay nag skwela pa siya sa college then iyang bf mau man nagpa-eskwela sa iyaha pero usahay kay mohangyo pud lagi dire nako pero okay lang. then ako ra usa ang naay work na maingon nato na maayu og sakto sa compensation pud. pero mau lagi, almost 60 percent sa akong sweldo kay magasto dyud sa galastuon sa balay. eager na gani ko na mo-propose sa akong uyab og kasal pero kuyawan ko kay mag-unsa man akong mga ginikanan. dire ra sila gasalig nako including akong bro na minyo kay mohangyo sad. pasalamat lang dyud ko kay kini akong gf kay understanding sad dyud kaayo. ubani lang dyud og mga pag-ampo sir kay ang kahitas-an ray nasayod sa atong kinabuhi niining kalibutana. don't lose hope lang dyud sir. naay daghan paagi sa kinabuhi. ayaw lang dyud subay sa sayop nga agianan. mga trials lang ni sa Ginoo dire nato sir.

[mrjosh]

@inkodell: ayaw sir nako oi... matiguwang man sad ta anag maau... well for now wat we hop is gud health and gud job para pdayun ta help ato family, coz f blema ta work i dunno unsaon na lng. Swerte ka bay naa nka GF na loyal nimu, keep her, you're right pray nlng ta ani...

[charmz_fire]

kenahanglang kayanon!

[freudz]

its sad to learn sad ba na after giving them 6 years of comfortable life.. inig graduate ingnon na lang ka nga mag lain na kay kaya na... i mean its their choice pero i still feel na in return bisan "delicadiza" ba na mo share na lang rent sa apartment coz 6.5 k mahal na ayo... plus overhead pa... sus kaayo gyung...

[jntio]

ok rana bro. cgurado ma langit gyd ka ana. =)

[fruit salad]

What you all are doing is very noble and deserves grace gyud. Tinuod na nga ilang giingon, naa gyud kunoy usa ka anak nga very kind, and the rest kuno kasagaran way pakabana. Pasalamat nalang inyong parents nga naa mo kay ug wa pa mag.unsa nalang na sila.

mrjosh: Usa pud na ang kung maminyo ka, naa raba gyud in most cases nga ug maminyo na, labi na ang wife dili understanding, mo force nimo to keep your money for them. The other lady is right too... okay ra na lalake man ka, don't worry about not getting married. What's important right now is to teach your siblings to care too... maninguha sa pag.eskwela, dont' spoil them. Let them work for their money. Mangayo ug extra, let them do a chore at home. Teach them to be independent aron ig graduate, makawork, ingna sila nga share share namo tanan sa gasto sa balay. Nothing beats sibling unity gyud. Be the leader.

Ako nuon, breadwinner ko sa amoa pero I have kids of my own na, tua lang sa ako mama. But eventhough they're there or here, my mom is forever my responsibility. I have a brother who uses Aircon every freakin night, akong bayranan always almost 4k, nagtuo sila hayahay kaayo ko diri sa States, ni dili na gani ko kapalit ug sapatos. But.. I told my mom... if naa na diri ako kids... siya nalang akong suportaan and iya igsuon. The rest? They need to be on their own na gyud.

[chad_tukes]

@TS: it all comes down to what your priorities are and which is more important to you as an individual. yes, you are the breadwinner of the family, but whether you like it or not, you'll eventually have to choose what is best for you.

you said that your mom is jobless and you are single.

ask yourself this:

-would you be willing to be single for some time so you can continue to support your mom and siblings?
-it's a given fact that becoming a breadwinner makes you happy in its own right, but is it more important than being married?
-fast forward 5-10 years from now, do you see yourself *still* afraid of committing to someone, because of your family?

[fruit salad]

5-10 years is too long ... except for his mom ... we're supposed to take care of our parents when they're not able to do it themselves, that's the Filipino way. By then his brothers or sisters should have finished college already. Highschool na baya sila.

You talk like you don't have that in your family obviously. There are families out there who care for each other, if not all, at least someone does.

[chad_tukes]

well, i should say that the last statement wasn't my direct opinion to the topic; it was a question i threw out for him to ponder. if he says the same thing you said, then i'll accept it.

i should have been more clear with my question.