My Complicated Love: Is She Really into Me?

[gnox]

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If your girl is not asking you to break up with her then don't give up the fight.
I've been through this situation also but I'm the girl hehe!
my hubby keeps loving me more than yesterday and now we are happily married.

[bachelle1130]

good for you then..

[HottieMomi]

ka nice ba mga love story nila oie... question is.. r u still happy with your relationship?
if not.. get out. if yes.. go on.. =)

[mysacrifice]

thanks for your replies guys, we have already talked it over and she really cried in front of me and I dont know what it means. Im already 22 is she's still 19 I understand that she's not that mature enough so I will try my best to understand her because I will be the one who carries the relationship. I told her that maybe I was just insecured by the fact that she loves her ex so much and she told me you dont have to because she already forgot about him. This might sound insane but I keep wonderin why she doesnt look at me eye to eye as if she's still shy or hiding something...

[diem]

^^You made her cry? Shouldn't you be the one to put a smile in her face, laughter in her voice and happiness in her heart?

Please don't think too negatively of her, dude. If you really LOVE her, don't entertain such suspicious thoughts too much.

Please remember she's a girl, she's 19 and it's possible that she's ashamed of what she's done to you. You're right when you said na ikaw ang dapat mudala sa relationship, kay you're older, and you're the guy. Get to know her a bit more... make her smile a bit more... the operative word of who you are in this girl's life is "boyFRIEND" and if you wish to remain that way in her heart, then may I suggest that you act more of a friend or else you'll be more like a jealous, suspicious stalker.

Please be the driver of her heart, take her hand and lead her to happiness but also know when not to go too fast and observe some ground rules like respecting her personal privacy, prioritizing yourself as well, and watch and heed for signs but be mature enough to have some integrity man.

Please don't whine about too much about her, just take things she does the way they SIMPLY are and make the best of it.

If she's not making you happy and you're not making her feel happy then the relationship you have isn't meant to be no matter what you think or hope for.

For your kind consideration.

[Baeybe_Bryce]

Bro take time,wag masyado makulit..let her open up wag ung kaw mismo pinapamukha mpa ung ex niya....work for d relationship and be her man..she will forget about him sooner or later..but d point is,be der when it happens....ur d BF now.
and if in case she will say she still loves her ex,den you should talk na...

[chenggay!!!]

let me share... makarelate tngai ka ani

in the viewpoint of the girl:

i entered into the next relationship within 6 mos. after the break up from a 5 year relationship.
the difference with u and my bf now is that he was there when i was having a rough time with my past rel. and a witness to all what i was going through then xa ako nauyab sunod.

i made it a point not to let him see that i was still hurt... it takes time to get over the past especially for women and what we need to heal and move on is SUPPORT

i know that my bf now SUPPORTS me just him being with me and not pressuring me. instead of bombarding me with questions or intriguing me about what i still feel ( which is not helpful at all!)he tells me IM HERE and THIS IS A NEW LIFE. when he said that i knew he knows that im still hurt but instead of focusing on my issues he is giving me his hand to move on and start over my life with him

hope u understand my point and this has helped you.

[emow]

bro mysacrifice: you should not pester the girl with questions like that. maka irritate gyud na mga ingana. kung muhilum cya, just be there for her. you don't have to say something just let her feel that you are there. i have a friend with the same situation as yours. he did not listen to me, the girl confessed na maka annoy gyud iya bf. anyway, just avoid qustions like " what's wrong? are you okay? do you love me?" believe me bai, you're really turning the girl off sa imuha.

don't assume that uyab na mu you have all the right to know all aspects of her. You don't. Sinasakal mu yung gf mu. the best thing guys can do with new gf trying to move on is just be there for her. when she's sad, don't pester her with questions, instead cheer her up. If you really like the relationship to blossom, show her that you're more concerned with her happiness than yours. In the scenario that you painted, it seems you want to satisfy yourself na ikaw na gyud iya gi love. but the more that you do that, you're just pushing her away.

anyways, if u really care for her, stretch your patience and be ready to understand her mood swings.

[emow]

Last, hide your insecurities or redirect it to other ways. Insecurities drive good relationships away...

[mysacrifice]

Thanks for that guys I understand your views on how to handle my gurl but I thinks thats not the main problem coz I always put in mind that no matter what she has experienced in her past be it nice or not I will try to forget it coz for me whats important is the present and future. I just dont understand why she lies to me when I ask questions about what other people says about her and she doesnt even look me in the eyes as if she is hiding something, I told her in a relationship you should be open to each other coz that will be the cause of misunderstanding which leads to away2x (fights) I sometimes ask myself is she hiding something because she doesnt want me to get hurt? Or maybe I am way to mature for her? Sorry guys maybe you are right I am just making my own problems...