The children don't want to run the family business

[JIGS]

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Parents will understand if your not really interested..kaysa mag tuga2x ka and maguba na nuon tanan hard work nila..

i agree........

[makathy]

^^still.. there are different types of parents eh.. some would understand.. but there are some that would sometimes get irrational towards their hard-earned business..

sa part of the children.. wouldn't they owe it to their parents.. a kind of restitution for them.. after all.. they owe their current lifestyle.. their schooling.. to their family business..

[diem]

aykiman: assuming.. haha.. do i look chinese in my avatar? c",)

diem: your replies are so well 'spoken' and thought out.. full of knowledge.. it's as if you have gone through the same thing.. kudos to you.. c",)

Anne Frank once wrote in her celebrated diary that "the only way to truly know a person is to argue with them. For when they argue in full swing, then they reveal their true character."

@makathy, good parents give one life and education and that's something to be thankful and be obliged for but I don't think good parents would want their children to suffer and be sad with them. Hopefully your "friend" will have that good BIG TALK to her parents just to try to understand each other a bit better. If ever that BIG TALK would lead to the BIG QUARREL, then so be it...

Life is ever so valuable, sometimes we just have to FIGHT for it.

[d`monyita]

@makathy --- ang legacy SHOULD NOT be a business.... legacy for one should be GOOD FAMILY TIES. another would be assets such as real estate properties.

It is too archaic to force anyone to do anything in one's family. To impose one's business onto a child usually results in the second or third generation running the business to the ground.

Tell them that you have no interest. PERIOD. What can they do to you? Cut you out of their lives?

[7DMM]

maybe look for somebody in the family who has interest in learning the craft and run the business.for me passion is one of the requirements in order to keep the business going.on my part.if my children are not interested then i'll not force them.i'll keep it as long as i can then decide later.

[krkchn]

hmm.. i know it would be a hard decision for everyone..

sa part ng parents.. i think they don't want to go to waste all the years & hardwork that they've invested in the company.. it's one way for them to leave a legacy to their family..

sa children's part.. they really wanna help out but can't force themselves to be tied in the office all day when they can go out and explore.. go after what they really wanna do..

but here's a scenario:
let's say the family business type is construction.. and it's headed by the father who is an engineer.. then he only has 2 children.. both girls.. the older is an accountant but she already left for the states to go after her own interest.. so that leaves the youngest.. who took up engineering just to please her family (but really wanted to be a vet).. now she's feeling the pressure of the responsibility of running the business.. so what now? where does this all end up?

Sounds familiar... oh, wait. ako mansad na...

[makathy]

Sounds familiar... oh, wait. ako mansad na...

unsay imo story? same situation mn?

[stampAcrete]

just give them a chance to do whatever they want to do (as long as its legal). Who knows, they might end up more successful than the parents.

[krkchn]

Same kay im in the hardware+construction business. Long before paghighschool palang, gipugos ko taking up Civil engineering but i declined, and took up computer engineering because its what i dream of, but pag-graduate, i still end up here in the family business anyway.

[makathy]

^^too bad.. can you say that being in the family business makes you happy? or does it make you feel kinda trapped.. and want to break free?