Being friends after break up...

[giver_bert]

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Subtance over Form.. as applied to this scenario IT'S A NO... why

in most relationships, the time to say goodbye usually arrives at one point or another - unless you intend to walk down the aisle, of course (and even then). you've shared memories that will either make you laugh or cry, and it's time to take your experiences, put them in your back pocket and move on... but somewhere on the road of parting ways couples feel the need to promise to stay friends -- which ultimately leads to more broken promises.

Although it would make things much easier, relationships rarely see mutual breakups... one person is usually the heartbreaker, while the other mulls over the breakup and pain for weeks, even months. it's never easy to break up with someone you've shared good times with (and even if they were bad times, they were still times).. but the person who does the breaking up feels like less of a bad guy/gal by offering that sense of truce: "It's not you, it's me. We'll still be friends, right?" this peace offering of friendship provides the dumper with the solace of knowing they aren't such a horrible person because they still want to be friends with their ex... not only does it give the dumper the comfort of knowing they aren't monsters, but by wanting to remain friends, it also allows the dumper to feel that their former lover will still be in their life, and they won't have to miss having them around. so now the dumper can move on with their life with ease, and with the pleasure of having coffee/conversation with their former mate every so often..

COMFORT ZONE, that i have to say

[Galadriel]

positive results of being friends after break up - when you see each other at the mall, you still say hi hello and goodbye...and the world moves on
negative result of not being friends after break up - when you see each other, it will be as if neither of you exists. you just pass by and ignore each other.

i remained friends with all of my exes, i introduced them to my hubby and now all of them are friends.

[zer0_cooL]

remember ang uban ra ba kay mag sour graping dayon specially kung cla ng gbuwagan...

[freelancer]

if you can handle it why not? just make sure to draw the lines properly... just because you've got a past it's okay to be friends with benefits... mas hurting ni in the end.

[chyn]

Not everyone can handle being friends with the ex, but if the "friendship" can withstand despite romantic relationships are over then why not? Why totally burn bridges right? True friends are truly hard to find.

Negative result of this is that if the recent bf/gf don't like the idea of you being friends with the ex and it could somehow be a problem to your relationship. And if you still have this itsy-bitsy feelings for your ex then it could be so painful knowing that your ex has finally moved on and found someone new.

[ghill]

walay positive nga nahitabo k ka luod gud sa babaye bulagan ka then freinds lang mo

[chai]

friends lang gihapo oi.. bati kaayo magdumot..

[crinkle]

hmmm... friendship after the break-up i believe, could only work out after about a year since the "event"... they say time will heal certain wounds...

[ghill]

hmmm... friendship after the break-up i believe, could only work out after about a year since the "event"... they say time will heal certain wounds...

Yes i agree with you,crinkle, Gals dont you realized that you hurt someones feeling.

[SweetCatEyes]

Positive: you can ask for help if you need it, you will not avoid each other in public, you dont carry excess luggage in your heart

Negative: He can still lie to you and use you without you knowing it because you're "friends", it hurts when you see him with another girl or when he talks about his new GF (even if you are over him, u still feel some jealousy sometimes because he was previously yours) and if you're not over him yet you will just be torturing yourself seeing him happy (without you) alone or with someone else.

I don't plan to be "friends" with my ex at this point in time because his betrayal hurt me so much that i want to burn him alive. But who knows? in time I might forgive him.