LOVE vs/and RELIGION

[xtian_hero]

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the situation is like this..

you guys love each other but would stop just because one of her principles involved was not to have a relationship whose totally opposite of her religion and thats one of her principles as well.....

so tell me...

would you like to give it a chance/try and take the risk w/c a totally opposite of your principles for love?

or

give up the love and stick to your principle?..

enlighten me...

[shaxyra]

if i love the person.. i'll find other ways to fix that problem.. religion is one great factor though in a relationship and i think it needs a little trial and error as long as both of you won't give up..

[xtian_hero]

naah.... gues some of them doesn't want to take the risk...

[kris8jenn]

My parents have different religions, my mom is a catholic and my dad is a christian. I was baptised as a catholic when i was born, but when i reached high school ni convert ko to a christian.

When i was young and living in PNG i was taught how to pray the catholic way.... i know the hail mary's, the our fathers, and all the other stuff. When i came back here to Cebu i had to go with my grandmother to thier christian church every sunday. I can tell you that the first few weeks were awkward for me coz when a brother said "let us pray" i started to make the sign of the cross.

Now, i have a boyfriend who is catholic. We had some problems before coz he wanted me to become a catholic. But we soon worked things out.

I didn't force him to attend our meetings and he doesn't force me to go to mass. But there are times that if he would ask, id go with him.

Truthfully, i have nothing against sitting down inside a catholic chruch and hearing mass. Ok raman nako. Im sure all religions speak similar or same messages...

Naa rajud na sa couple.

[xtian_hero]

i guess your right.. good for you.. you gave it a try...

but eii.. heres my story..

i courted this girl.. she was... hmm... lets just say that shes a devoted INC... she really liked me.. and liked her the way she liked me... so we got to know each other.. and she told me about her principles... and it goes like this.. 1st, she wants to marry someone thats also a member of their religion, 2nd, she wants to give her virginity only to her future husband, 3rd, she wants to influence and inspire other people that shes not a worldly gal...

so I asked her to court her... she did say no at first... but then she changed her mind...
to make the long story short...

we slept together...
after a few weeks (still courting her)... i asked her hand to become my girlfriend, but before that, I asked her if she still trust me despite of what happened... and she said.. "no"... then gave a reason for it.. (for good gals, they really don't know how to say yes and a no directly, they intend to give you a reason why, but still the point of their reason is also like saying yes... weird, but true)

all i know is.. when you don't trust each other.. the realtionship won't work....

so tell me... did she just gave a me a false hope?.. or was i just really stupid?...

and the funny thing is.. maybe she wasn't satisfied....

oh.. and by the way... she has a girlfriend before... but they broke-up when she really liked me.. now their back... together, again...

and the funny story about it was...
i fell in love with a man wrapped in a womans body.. ( not to mention, had S** w. him/her as well)

[mikogerald]

OKey raman na. maka sabot raman guro ang bata ana. daghan nako family nakit-an ana. ang uban gani tunga ila baby, ka tunga ky lain ug religion ang usa pud lain. pro okey raman. religion doesn't matter after all. sa ingani na scenario.

[diem]

[color=navy]@xtian_hero, it is apparent that you got yourself too involved too fast and too soon with a young woman who has a troubled heart.

Sometimes it's hard to get along and know someone. It is harder to get to know someone who doesn't even know who they are and what they want.

The problem here isn't the girl's religion in conflict with her relationship with you. It's apparently her sexual orientation. Question, were you aware of her previous relationship with a girl? If so, that's a warning sign right there to tell you to cool your heels and take it slow.

Did she give you false hope, did she lie to you? I guess you see it yourself that she was lying to herself when she said those things that she wanted in a relationship. And the fact you shared she's back with the girl she had a relationship with declares that where her heart truly is.

Should you be angry with the girl? Maybe you have a right to, but please provide some allowance for her. We can assume she was confused, forced to break up with her girlfriend in order to try a "normal" heterosexual relationship. She may have went out with you in order to prove something to herself, and in a way; to please her own family and the requirements of her faith.

Your case should serve as a reminder for everyone not to get too emotionally/romantically/physically involved with someone too fast too soon.

Friendships have been proven to be good foundations to start romantic relationships with because these build trust and test truthfulness. And in order for any foundation to be good-solid, it takes time (as in years, not weeks) to build it and many trials to test it. And in friendships, one's patience with friends is commonly tested.

Patience is a virtue that is valued and practiced by any religion. I suggest to you and everyone to apply it especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

Wishing you all the best in Life and in Love~!

[bugzbunny]

wala kwenta kung lain2x... there's a certain feeling nga dili dyud mo magkasinabot.

[Luskan]

convert yourself if you really love her

[bikinibiAtch]

nothing shud stop ur love