Should Couples Live Together before Marriage?

[Metz]

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Well if your partner treats you like a doormat at that early stage then thats very good news rather than being treated like a doormat after youve been wed

[earljahn]

yeah right...thats better

[mighty_kid_05]

naa naman pareha ani nga topic uy

[earljahn]

OI... Balik nani na topic [br]Posted on: April 21, 2007, 01:20:06 AM_________________________________________________b alik balik mani.... naa ni sa "Family Matters" with same author.....

[laArniaH]

say mo?

[Innosaint]

First, lots of people think that when you break up after living together, it's a sign of failure. If you're one of those people, then don't do it. Plain and simple. It's not for you.

Personally, I don't agree with that view. I think breaking up before you get married is always preferable to breaking up after you get married. So the number of breakups shows that living together actually works. It's just part of the process of weeding out the ones who don't belong together. Nothing wrong with being selective.

Also, living together is not necessarily a prelude to marriage. It can be anything you want it to be. You can just live together -- no string attached. Or it can be used as a trial marriage. Or it can be a long term committed relationship -- you don't need a wedding to prove your commitment. But living together doesn't mean you're going to get married, nor is it a necessary step on the road to marriage. It's a relationship in and of itself.

Third, for people in LDRs, living together before marriage might be a good idea. Your relationship is sort of artificial in that you might have broken up a long time ago had you been in face-to-face contact more often. So, since you skipped past the actual in-person dating process, you might want to live together before you decide to get married.

Anyway, before you decide to live together, you both need to be on the same page about what you're actually doing. You can't be thinking it's a trial marriage while your partner is thinking it's no strings attached. You need to have the same understanding. That will eliminate all of those "he used me" whining a year from now.

[diem]

[color=navy]It depends on why you're living together and for how long.

Nowadays, there are news of young couples wanting to get married, living together for two weeks as a pre-trial. That way they could learn more about each other, particularly about personal habits and idiosyncracies.

That's the ideal but the reality is that there are a lot of couples who are really living in together because of they like being together and enjoy having *** together without the moral obligations of marriage being imposed on them to stick together through sickness and health, richer or poorer et cetera, et cetera.

It's the times. And the choices people make.

[silent-kill]

ang akong ma sulti.. kalingaw tinali.. balay balay mong duha.

[Fern]

First, lots of people think that when you break up after living together, it's a sign of failure. If you're one of those people, then don't do it. Plain and simple. It's not for you.

Personally, I don't agree with that view. I think breaking up before you get married is always preferable to breaking up after you get married. So the number of breakups shows that living together actually works. It's just part of the process of weeding out the ones who don't belong together. Nothing wrong with being selective.

Also, living together is not necessarily a prelude to marriage. It can be anything you want it to be. You can just live together -- no string attached. Or it can be used as a trial marriage. Or it can be a long term committed relationship -- you don't need a wedding to prove your commitment. But living together doesn't mean you're going to get married, nor is it a necessary step on the road to marriage. It's a relationship in and of itself.

Third, for people in LDRs, living together before marriage might be a good idea. Your relationship is sort of artificial in that you might have broken up a long time ago had you been in face-to-face contact more often. So, since you skipped past the actual in-person dating process, you might want to live together before you decide to get married.

Anyway, before you decide to live together, you both need to be on the same page about what you're actually doing. You can't be thinking it's a trial marriage while your partner is thinking it's no strings attached. You need to have the same understanding. That will eliminate all of those "he used me" whining a year from now.

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[josh_ryanne]

ka expressive sad nimu wui...... hilig biya ang chicks ug expressive...i just hope dili gyud kaayu grabeh....ma korny nya ka sa mga kittens

Fern: i think the real author(ghm) where innosaint copied her response(if it's not her who posted it there) is the one who is expressive.

http://members.lovingyou.com/showthr...hreadid=191115

innosaint: it is nice to acknowledge the author if u do copy and paste.