Nahibaw-an nimo nga "pokpok" diay imo uyab?

[Sol_Itaire]

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what wud u do f late na nimo nahibaw-an nga "pok-pok" d i imo uyab

@SPRINGFIELD_XD_40

two points:
1. walay "before"
2. yes, im familiar with co-dependency. experienced it and read a lot about it.

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

@SPRINGFIELD_XD_40

two points:
1. walay "before"

Point taken ... walay before . If dugged up more deeper ... if late na nahibaw-an ... it could also consume our points of view na the possibilities are there . It wa snot mentioned na HANTOD KARON POKPOK man gihapon , late na lang nahibaw-an and I am more incline to safely say ... it is BEFORE .

2. yes, im familiar with co-dependency. experienced it and read a lot about it.

How can you relate it aron mabasa nato diri and ma dissect in LAY MANS TERMS how your CO-DEPENDENCY relates to UNCONDITIONAL LOVE .

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ... 3 words ... NO IFS / BUTS

[Sol_Itaire]

co-dependency:

"I know he's an alcoholic and is physically abusive, but I can't leave him coz I love him."

"Daghan tuod siyag fling pero ari man gihapon siya uli nako. I know he still loves me. Weakness lang jud niya ang babaye. Love pod nako siya...I accept him for who he is."

"Pokpok ako gf pero gilang, basta di lang ko kakita. Kung love nimo ang tawo di na na mo matter."


-truth is, they can't leave because they are addicted to the unhealthy dynamics of the relationship. addicted to caretaking, rescuing, playing martyr/goody-goody, self-punishment.

[chad_tukes]

let's be honest, in the real world, in a male-female relationship---there is none of that "unconditional love" bullcrap.

unconditional love is only true in a father/mother - son/daughter relationship. otherwise, if the said type of love is true of a married or bf/gf relationship, the word "DIVORCE" or "ANNULMENT" would not exist.

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

@ SOLITAIRE ... To my understanding .... co-dependency does not equate to unconditional love . It only reveals the nature of the definition that it can be achieved because it takes two to tango but only one actually feels the love .

@ CHAD ... it does not necessarily mean like that . Have ou been in love ? Naa kay uyab karon ? Are you married ? Open to the issues similar to the TS topic , unless you cant relate to it then you dont know what UNCODNTIONAL LOVE is mao ni justify ka pa REAL WORLD REAL WORLD pa lol . Yes it exist's , just because there is such a thing called DIVORCE and ANNULMENTS doesnt mean anything that it overides unconditional love .

Even if in a million instances of divorce and annulments there is one UNCONDITIONAL LOVE between a man and a woman romantically ... obviously it existed .

[chad_tukes]

@ CHAD ... it does not necessarily mean like that . Have ou been in love ? Naa kay uyab karon ? Are you married ? Open to the issues similar to the TS topic , unless you cant relate to it then you dont know what UNCODNTIONAL LOVE is mao ni justify ka pa REAL WORLD REAL WORLD pa lol . Yes it exist's , just because there is such a thing called DIVORCE and ANNULMENTS doesnt mean anything that it overides unconditional love .

Even if in a million instances of divorce and annulments there is one UNCONDITIONAL LOVE between a man and a woman romantically ... obviously it existed .

am i in a relationship? why would you care anyway? lol jk.

anyway, well yes, maybe there IS unconditional love, but it only exist in a very tiny percentage of the population. swerte ka kung maka landing ka ug babaye/lalaki who loves you unconditionally. in this modern world? nah, forget it.

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

^^^

So therefore it EXIST and there is no basis why it is in a small percentage . I mean like I woud really care , my only point is ... it existed and thats how the MAGIC of LOVE works .

[Sol_Itaire]

^hahah romantic lagi ka SPRINGFIELD sa?

attraction, lust, commitment, deception, betrayal--same themes throughout history.

basta for me, if you think your pokpok gf or gigolo bf is just deceiving you, LEAVE. leave the unconditional loving to God.

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

I am romantic because I married the only GF I had . I am not romantic because I cant share my love anymore other than CHAR2 bwahahaha . I am only trying to point out what is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE in relationship to the dillema of the TS realistically speaking on how to handle the options left for him .

[ritchepaul]

If this happens on my part....kung love gyud nako well dili gyud mu-matter sa akoa. If we love our partner we can forgive and forget their past....and surely she had her reason pud nganong wala ni niya gisulti sa imo earlier. All people has their insecurities, one way or the other.

Ako sa una, a couple of years ago way back my teenage years....nakauyab ko then I found out nga helper ra diay siya. Because I care for her well, I forgave her on that.

Even kung minyo na mo then you found out nga pokpok diay siya, surely you need to talk it out. Kung niundang na siya anang trabaho coz she loves you then you don't need to complicate things out.