Nahibaw-an nimo nga "pokpok" diay imo uyab?

[kardels]

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aha, uyab pa man, di pa kaayo bug-at biyaan..

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

If this girl want this guy to love him for who she is, then in the first place why did she hide this from his bf and I qoute from the TS that he found out late?

Well neer know why its like that , like I said if we boil it down to TRUE LOVE ... it is UNCONDITIONAL . The TS didnt say if he found it out late like she used to be like that or was still like that while they were dating . I am more inclined that you are referring to the latter , of course that would be a different story also .

If I wan't the person to love me for who am I then I'll be honest from the very beginning.

That is hard to say on your part , even me because I havent experinced it spcific to the issues being discussed , have you ?

If your on this scenario on reality, would you follow what you say? I am speaking based on my personality and not for the sake of advise only thing.

Yes I will . When we say PERSONALITY ... it constricts to the INDIVIDUAL only and it does not represent at all the true meaning of LOVE since like what I said , different strokes for different folks . You definition doesnt mean its wrong , it might even contradict the advices , but to safely say and what matters most .. TRUE LOVE equates to UNCONDITIONAL MATTERS .

[Sol_Itaire]

why confuse unconditional love with relationship?

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

^^^

You can relate with a person and that is where the fine line of LIKE and LOVE kicks in .

LIKE is when you want that person because of all the good thing that sorrounds him or her .

LOVE is when you want that person because of all the GOOD and BAD things that sourrounds him or her .

[eilrach]

dawaton... kay mao man jud na... kung love nimo cya, imo jud na cya dawaton bisag unsa pana cya..

[Sol_Itaire]

^^^

You can relate with a person and that is where the fine line of LIKE and LOVE kicks in .

LIKE is when you want that person because of all the good thing that sorrounds him or her .

LOVE is when you want that person because of all the GOOD and BAD things that sourrounds him or her .

If that was so, then I would have been overwhelmed with WANTING ALMOST EVERYBODY.

unconditional love = romantic love? NO.

therefore, I can love anyone unconditionally yet CHOOSE not to be with him for practical reasons.

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

If that was so, then I would have been overwhelmed with WANTING ALMOST EVERYBODY.

unconditional love = romantic love? NO.

YES and NO . But the context of the discussion is about ROMANTIC LOVE since it involves a BF and GF . So its a YES .

therefore, I can love anyone unconditionally yet CHOOSE not to be with him for practical reasons.

Then it is still LOVE , because you assumably ACCEPTED him but you have to distanced yourself for some reasons you only know .

The statement though doesnt make any sense . ANYONE and HIM does not equate . If my wild guess would be right then ikaw ang POKPOK ( no pun intended ) , its up to him now to accept you .

[maotganun]

aw kay e pokpok sad....

[Sol_Itaire]

@SPRINGFIELD_XD_40

what confuses things is the concept of unconditional love.

simple ra sir. maski unconditional imo love sa usa ka tawo, naa gihapon kay choice nga dili makig relasyon. og abi kay nakigrelasyon gihapon ka og pokpok, dili pasabot unconditional na imo love.

guys who leave their pokpok gfs are no less moral than those who decide to stay.

one reason you wouldn't stay with a pokpok gf: sige pa siya sa iya trabaho then dili ganahan mobiya. you decide to leave the relationship kay sakitan man ka nya di pa nimo matulon ang swingers' lifestyle. does that mean you love her less? NO. you are just doing something good for yourself which is a basic responsibility.

claims of unconditional love are oftentimes just masks for co-dependency.

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

@SPRINGFIELD_XD_40

what confuses things is the concept of unconditional love.

What confuses most of us is the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE that is meant for the ROMANTIC LOVE . Not the LOVE we give to friends or family members etc . Like I said , the context of the discussion is based on ROMANTIC LOVE so we will stick to that notion so it will be less confusing .

simple ra sir. maski unconditional imo love sa usa ka tawo, naa gihapon kay choice nga dili makig relasyon. og abi kay nakigrelasyon gihapon ka og pokpok, dili pasabot unconditional na imo love.

That boils down to the individual . For the NTH time ... different strokes for different folks . It defeats the definition and purpose of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE sticking to the context of ROMANTIC LOVE as per the situation of the TS .

guys who leave their pokpok gfs are no less moral than those who decide to stay.

Of course ... but before anything else .... define POKPOK . I define it as a GIRL who plays a lot and not the PROSTITUTE I assume you thought of .

one reason you wouldn't stay with a pokpok gf: sige pa siya sa iya trabaho then dili ganahan mobiya. you decide to leave the relationship kay sakitan man ka nya di pa nimo matulon ang swingers' lifestyle. does that mean you love her less? NO. you are just doing something good for yourself which is a basic responsibility.

If I am not mistaken ... the TS ... asked " WHAT IF NAHIBAW-AN NIMO na POKPOK ang GF BEFORE ? " That is on an indidivual level , on a generlized level also ... you LEAVE that person because of what he or she USED to be . That is not UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ... even worthy enough to becalled just plain LOVE .

claims of unconditional love are oftentimes just masks for co-dependency.

I would like to know how PSYCHOLOGICALLY SPEAKING you came up with it . A scenario , medyo OT ... not even about romantic love , when Jesus Christ died in the cross for us , did He depended on us or to God the Father that Him thinking , whow cares ? I will rise up again anyways , NO ... Jesus just loves His Father so much that with no BUTS and IFS , He did it .

That can be reciprocated to the BF and GF issues ... no IFS and BUTS , if you love that person . True love that is .