During a fight with your spouse, what's the right way to deal with it?

[helena]

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i agree with you... its between you ang your spouse ra jud,,,

[HottieMomi]

dont continue with the argument if init pa mo duha. talk pag ur both calm. say sorry if u are aware ikaw ang nakasala. =)

[iagosmom]

"dili angay pa-ugmaan ang away nga dili masulbad"

I've heard this once that when you're having a fight with your spouse you should end it right there and then. settle it as soon as possible, don't let another day pass by without solving the problem.

my take on this: I'd do the exact opposite. I'll wait until cooler heads prevail like after a good nights sleep. it's hard to tackle a problem head-on when both parties are fuming mad 'coz it may escalate into something that both will regret afterwards.

opinions, suggestions and objections are welcome..

me too, the more nako pugson, the more mograbe ang fight.

i don't know about other couples, but this works for us.

[florascent]

magpa-ubos nlng.. f dghan na yaw2x, muhilom nlng.. hulata na mu-calma cya ky muhilom nlng mana bsta cya nlng usa ang ga-yaw2x.. den smile and i-hug nimo cya den say sorry f naa ka sala o wala.. den talk things out na hinay ang tingog.. for me, right time to talk things out kay igka kadlawon, sabot2x lng gud ninyo duha ang angayan buhaton para ma-solve ang problem.. <--- mao ni ang mga butang na wa nko nabuhat kdtong wa pa mi ga bulag sa ko bana kay maldita kau ko sauna and now gamahay ko but anyways, taas pa panahon and I need to change and i-correct ako mga sayop saunang panahon.

/wave

[WhiteLady]

One should listen while the other is expressing himself/herself for you to be able to understand what's the problem... talk it over kung unsay solution angay buhaton... NEVER do the walk-out thing! "Walay mulakaw nga wala pa na solve ang problema." That's what my Hubby's grandfather once said.

[mikojay]

Give each other some time to cool down, think and pray...then talk about the issue, listen to each to each others thoughts and feelings, say sorry (doesn't matter who's who), compromise... tapos loving loving ulit...hehehehe...

[stampAcrete]

bahalag mag kina-unsa, basta wala lang physical injuries ma hitabo. ok ra na

[Onins]

We're having world war 4 now with mah wife. kami duha sad.an, syempre mas dako sa ako hehehe. Mura sya muGive Up na, I dont want to. NgpaUbos ko karon as in, I am like making uyab to her right now. Shes full of hatred pa karon pero antos lang ko its exciting sad baya balik bata ba. I text her often mga love2 and all, everyday I leave small notes on missing her and u know. Shes still cold, sometimes lisod on my part na mupadayun when wala ka makita ba na response but im giving her time pa, but naa na baya ko makita like a smile or yesterday when i left for office i left a lovenote sa iya bag which she read after nako nakalakaw, she texted me ngpasalamat sya and she a had nice day daw etching! I dont know if this will blossom into something or basi mauna ang ako kawagtang ug gana before mabalik iyang feelings for me. But this is something different and new for me, its the time na you cherish even the smallest of all small comments or hikap sa kamot, or text in the middle of a busy day. To all, i hope dili pa maabot sa grabe ang inyo mga away before mo makaRealize. Sa ako naabot na ana, but its never too late. im not giving up just yet.

[WhiteLady]

we also had such arguments and all... i felt it was the end... But thank God it went better. we just talked it over... wala jud nilakaw or nag walk out... i almost did , yet he kept me from going... we both were weak but we tried our best to settle things for our future sake din and for the kids...

[babytash]

just be silent wen d oder person is angry. just be silent and wen mahuman na sya sa yawyaw, explain lng sa imo side