I can't admit to my wife that I'm gay

[monmon]

dli manka bayot bai kay naminyo gd ka ug girl den naa pa jd mo anakk.. double blade ang sakto name ana dli bayot...

[monmon]

ayaw ka problema ana kay ako naa pd ko friend nga ing ana silingan nmo.. ambot lang kaha if nag usab na ba to cya

[XxtinderoXx]

sultee nalang imo asawa basin musogot cyag threesome mu.hehehehe

[yoli]

Don't decide not to tell your wife unless you're sure you can keep your secret forever. So sure ka you can always keep it a secret? Kay even if you don't tell her but continue seeing that guy or other guys in the future, masakpan ra gihapon ka.

If you decide not to tell your wife but still continue to see men, then you're being selfish. Imo rang kaugalingon imong gi huna huna, nga mahadlok ka unsay i sulti sa ubang tawo blah blah. Your wife deserves the truth.

Don't force yourself to be straight if you're not. But if you choose to keep it a secret, you better put a stop to seeing men. Kay kung masakpan ka when your kid is already grown up... big trouble.

Mo ingon ka dili ka obvious nga gay? I think naay uban maka tell or mag duda. That guy from the gym wouldn't have confided in you if he didn't think maybe you were gay or bi.

Di ba naa man toy American politician nga nasakpan nga bayot? Luoy kaayo ang pamilya intawon. Not luoy because the husband was gay, but luoy in the sense nga the family thought they knew him, pero wala diay. It's painful to think you know a person, and you trust that person with your life, only to find out he's not who he made himself appear.

Think a million times and try to get to know yourself better. To thine own self be true!

[bowee]

reality check.. I pity your family....

you owe your family a big explanation coming from you jud.. Ayaw huwata nga mahibaw.an nalang nya nila sa ubang tao imong gawi... Like they've said.. "Walay Aso nga makumkom jud!"

You need to examine your conscience. Perhaps you may need a spiritual mentor or counselor for that.

Imong pagpakabuang karon would ultimately result in a total humiliation not only to yourself but to your family as well.. especially pa sa imong anak nga lalaki.. think how it would make an impact sa iyang kinabuhi in the future..


Magpalayo jud na cya ug imong family sa imo.... Think about your future...matiguwang ka brad..do you think that guy you love kay inungan jud ka if masakit kag dugay or maconfine ka sa hospital? do you think he can replace your family who would care for you, if naa ka naghigda na sa hospital bed?

Do you think magpailawm cya tanan sa pag care nimo while naa ka sa hospital?

Think about it lang brad... DILI TANAN PANAHON KAY LIPAY LIPAY LANG....

Talk this to a priest or someone who can enlighten your mind pre.. before you realize that everything would be ultimately be too late for you already...

[rheo08]

why marry her in the first place to think your gay. hmmmm or you find out that you are gay when u we're already married? then its not a problem, tell her the truth..

[Nicci]

This is my friend's response because he doesn't have an account with istorya.

"As a former closeted homsexual myself, I can honestly tell you that what you're going through will be the hardest thing that you will ever experience. Hiding your real self from your friends and family is never easy when deep inside all you want to do is tell them the truth. I understand that you fear that telling them will push them away and make them look at you differently. And you're right. Should you decide to tell them, they will look at you with different eyes. They will feel that you've been a stranger all along and some, admittedly, will most likely no longer be a part of your life.

Realize that this can also be a test of who your true friends are. But ultimately, the people who do choose to stay in your life are the people that you would want to remain.

I cannot give you advice on whether to tell them or not. That is up to you. If you're anything like me, there will come a moment in your life when you would feel that the perfect to tell your loved ones is upon you. Hopefully, that moment won't be too late. Hopefully, you will be able to tell them on your terms and not because you were forced into a confession because you were found out, or you're dying.

I can tell you about what happened to me after I told my wife and kids about my new-found sexuality. I sat her down one quiet Sunday afternoon and told her my story. I watched tears stream down from my wife's eyes as I told her of encounters with other men and other things I have kept secret from all through the years.

I watched her tell our kids that "Daddy" is going through some very emotional changes in his life. I watched our son cry and flinch from my touch when I wanted to hug them.

And finally ... I watched my family, pack their bags and leave.

I am posting from a rented apartment, in my 40's, alone and wondering where my life will take me.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope it does not bring you down the same path."

Anyway ... I'm also going to reply to your post.

Hi, i just want to share this. basin naa sad moy makuha aning kaagi nako ron or kaparihas nako ug sitwasyon ron. ug basin makatabang sad mo nako na malamdagan ko

ug sa walay jud kay friends nga pwede mapangayo-an ug advice noh? dili imong kabayotan imong pinaka dako nga problem girl

im straight-natured (im sure makaila man mo kung kinsay gapaka-arong ingnon ug sa natural lng).

girl wala may lalake nga "straight-natured". you're either gay or straight oi. if you're using terms like "straight-natured" bayot ka girl. feeling ra nimo dili.

hilig kog tagay, barkada, computer games, basket, auto, tig gym sad ko ug dghan sang amigo

sus girl ... tuo na ta ko sa imong gi storya nga tagay, basket, ug auto. pero pag ingon nimo nga tig-gym ka ... buking na ka girl. way straight nga mahilig sa gym girl. mga bayot ra.

what triggerd me was when i met someone sa isa ka gym.

see? my point exactly.

naluoy sad kos akong anak nga laki sad raba (pwerteng buguya sama nako. haskang liwata ).

basig liwat sad na nimo nga girl sad nya wa lang nagpa obvious. pag klaro diha girl.

its really a dilemma, naka ingon na lang ko nga iluom ni. kay i admit to them, mawagtang man sad tanan, diba?

gurl kabaw ka what i think? murag inig tug-an nimo gurl kay deadma ra na sila. kay feeling ra diay nimo nga maayo kay ka mu tago pero kabaw na diay na sila tanan. mu ana pa sila, "hala oi old news."

o sha sha ... cge good luck sa imong problem. post nya ha if naa na kay parlor! mwah!

[maddox_pitt]

Hi, i just want to share this. basin naa sad moy makuha aning kaagi nako ron or kaparihas nako ug sitwasyon ron. ug basin makatabang sad mo nako na malamdagan ko

im married for 2 yrs, 26, and i have a kid na. Im not the typical gay nga bisag magdiscreet2x pa sila kunohay, mailhan gihapon. im pretty sure nga they would never thought that im a homo, not unless kung mutug an ko nila. im straight-natured (im sure makaila man mo kung kinsay gapaka-arong ingnon ug sa natural lng).
hilig kog tagay, barkada, computer games, basket, auto, tig gym sad ko ug dghan sang amigo...so dili jdd maaan nga bayot bisag unsa pa na ka kusog inyong radar, mag magbayot2x man sad ko nga inamaw

what triggerd me was when i met someone sa isa ka gym. dili sad mailhan nga bayot kung tanawn nimo. bale wala ra man nako kung naa siya (way kiwaway para di klaro ). at the back of my mind, wa ko kasabot nganong in ani akong gibati pagkita niya, nga nagkagusto ko niya. hinoon, siya man say unang nakig-ila2x nako...and eventually na suod ni nako siya. i can already sense nga he's gay around that time kay mao may ingon sa akong radar , so i act like naive para dili tantong klaro nga prehas mi. napa ila2x sad ni nako siya sa akong asawa (who thought nga laki jd to siya). ni angkon man gani nga ganahan daw siya sakong migo ato kay kuan...(ug sa dihang niangkon siya ana, medyo nalain sad ko gamay. bana gud ko niya. langan.)

in the long run, we become close...and found out nga parihas ra diay mi ug sitwasyon, and he admitted nga hes gay (i knew it!). and so i admit sad niya para tabla. we share the same thought nga kung motug an mi kung unsa mi, basin isalikway mis mga higala namo. pulos mi mga paranoid, magbantay mis among lihok pirmi, and yet, keeping our demeanor still. there are times nga mulakaw kog gabii aron lng makigkita nya, or him sa ako (i always wear a cap kung mulakaw ko pra di mailhan, ana jud ko ka paranoid. ). til now, wa pamay gaduda pa namo. magkita mi kung naa mis mood mag trip2x ming duha.

pero nagkadugay, murag nanguhit na ang konsensya nako, di na mada. nakonsenya ko kay giilad nako sila, labi na ang akong asawa nga loyal jd nako. naluoy sad kos akong anak nga laki sad raba (pwerteng buguya sama nako. haskang liwata ). pero galibog ko, kung ibulgar nako, basin unsa nyay masulti nila "sayanga nimo dong, kadako nimong taw nya bayot ka" o "nindot ug lawas pero laki sad ang tirada" or "nganong giilad man mi nimo bai?" ug unsa pa diha. yatis kayo. murag uwaw kayo paminawn ba. galibog ko, mag rigor gud akong huna2x sahay. kabalo ko kung unsay tan aw ug trato sa katilingban aning mga klasiha

its really a dilemma, naka ingon na lang ko nga iluom ni. kay i admit to them, mawagtang man sad tanan, diba? malipayon man ko nga naa koy pamilya ug anak, pero mas nindot man jd nang kalipay nga kompleto jd.


i know it's a mistake to lie, that im faking it, pero i also fear the consequences nga i might face if i do the "right thing".

if you were in my place, unsa may buhaton ninyo?

if i get married i think this news would probably kill me as a wife...and im dead serious about it...
anyways, how come you didn't notice your sexuality when you were at your teens?has there not been instances when you doubted you sexual preference?

and in this situation, between you and your gym buddy, where does that put your wife? asa may place niya sa imuha karon?

maybe you're just confused...or maybe you are just admiring some traits that your gym buddy has that you don't have....maybe you are just misinterpreting your closeness..your friendship... there could be a lot of "maybes"..

but before you go and tell your wife about you, about your secret, please do reflect first... think of things all over again.... reflect on your feelings... think of the possible outcome of your "coming out"... can you handle it??

it's not just you..... it's not just about how you feel...you also have to consider the people around you..your wife, your son, your parents, your family, your friends....

bro, wake up!!! ayaw padala sa imu gibati kay madala pa na.. ayaw na sige kuyog anang imu amigo nga bading kay lisud na..

sakto jud ni...you see ts, i have friends from med school who are gays...they're not even in hiding...i mean, they're out....but they talk and act like real men...if you barely know them you won't even think they're gays... but if you come to know them, you'd realize the only thing that makes them gay is the fact that they're attracted to guys... and yknow what i learned from their individual stories (4 of them)? they first came into realization that they're gays katong time na nay bading sad na nagkuyog2x nila.... so basin nadala ra sad ka sa imung friend.... is this your first relationship with another guy?

[yoli]

I don't think the thread starter is asking people whether they think he's gay or not. He's asking people for help regarding his encounter with a guy at the gym and whether or not he should tell his wife about it. Sa title pa lang daan klaro na: I can't admit to my wife that I'm gay Based on the title alone he already knows he IS gay.

I don't understand why people keep saying maybe it's just a phase. So if it's a phase then what? Does he continue satisfying his curiosity until the phase is over? A phase occupies a period of time - could last for weeks, months or years even. So what do you suggest he does during this "phase" in his life? Seriously, do you even know what you're talking about when you say "oh that's just a phase"?

Let the guy be gay if he is gay. He is not a serial killer. Stop trying to change him in order to preserve your perception of how the world should be.

Now whether or not he should tell his wife is another story...

[simeon]

angkon oi! tuo man ka ana.. abi palang bayot ka! HHAHAHAHA!

wtf.. ahak oi..